Sleepover with gay dads

[Anonymous]

When my DD came home and told me the father of her friend walked into the bathroom while she was brushing her teeth and peed in the toilet, I stopped letting her go to that house. She did continue to do other sleepovers but, only after I conferred with both parents that mom would always be there and that I expected Dad to keep his penis hidden. The fault isn't yours or your husband's. It's the fault of the one guy who wants to be overly familiar with some innocent child. Please don't take it personally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my DD came home and told me the father of her friend walked into the bathroom while she was brushing her teeth and peed in the toilet, I stopped letting her go to that house. She did continue to do other sleepovers but, only after I conferred with both parents that mom would always be there and that I expected Dad to keep his penis hidden. The fault isn't yours or your husband's. It's the fault of the one guy who wants to be overly familiar with some innocent child. Please don't take it personally.

I just...I can't. This is exactly why people don't do sleepovers. Ye gods.

I have 3-4 friends I would be comfortable with a sleepover. I stopped doing them at 8 when I was forced to take a bath with another girl. I need to know A LOT about you to be comfortable enough to send my kids to your house.

[Anonymous]

Huh, I give gay dads extra domesticty points, so I would not have an issue sending my child to you. Statistically, I think teenage brothers in the house are probably a bigger risk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my DD came home and told me the father of her friend walked into the bathroom while she was brushing her teeth and peed in the toilet, I stopped letting her go to that house. She did continue to do other sleepovers but, only after I conferred with both parents that mom would always be there and that I expected Dad to keep his penis hidden. The fault isn't yours or your husband's. It's the fault of the one guy who wants to be overly familiar with some innocent child. Please don't take it personally.

yikes. that is not "overly familiar"!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Huh, I give gay dads extra domesticty points, so I would not have an issue sending my child to you. Statistically, I think teenage brothers in the house are probably a bigger risk.

Statistically speaking I would think 2 gay dads is a lower risk than a straight father and probably even lower than straight mother.

[Anonymous]

As a regular straight dad, it's nice to know so many women think I am a pervert/rapist/flasher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gay, straight, male, female I would have to know you very very well. Gay would be the least of my concerns.

This times a million. Sexual orientation has nothing to do with whether a person is predatory. I'm not going to be casual about where/when my children sleep over when we get to that point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Huh, I give gay dads extra domesticty points, so I would not have an issue sending my child to you. Statistically, I think teenage brothers in the house are probably a bigger risk.

Statistically speaking I would think 2 gay dads is a lower risk than a straight father and probably even lower than straight mother.

They aren't. Because they are male.

Women are the lowest risk. Duh.

[Anonymous]

Gayness is no problem. But I'd prefer to know the family a bit before letting my kid sleep over.

PP with friend's dad who peed, I'm happy your child told you about that. He either does it in front of his own kids and lumped yours in with the category "kid," or he's a perve who was laying some groundwork. If it's the former, too bad the wife doesn't know do she can correct his behavior and the daughter can host sleepovers. If it's the latter, too bad the wife doesn't know so she can kick him out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gay, straight, male, female I would have to know you very very well. Gay would be the least of my concerns.

This. If I know you well- then I would be comfortable regardless of race, gender, class, sexual orientation, etc. I have never thought about refusing because of a male being present. I have wonderful memories of my friends parents growing up because of sleepovers. I loved learning that Larla's dad made breakfast (my dad never cooked) and my other friend Lucy's dad woke us up to coach is in softball (at the time... Loved it). Maybe I am naive, but I assume if I know you well enough to trust you for a sleepover... Then why would I say no?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gay, straight, male, female I would have to know you very very well. Gay would be the least of my concerns.

+1, although like a previous poster, I would have my greatest concern with a single mom and a boyfriend. Would probably say no under those circumstances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes to sleepover:
Two gay dads. No problem.
Mom and dad with father employed in job you need some type of background check like teacher, policeman, fed
Two gay moms.


No to sleepover:

Single mom with boyfriend. No way!
Couple with older brother more than two or three years older.
Any extra male relatives in the house like an uncle or cousin

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a regular straight dad, it's nice to know so many women think I am a pervert/rapist/flasher.

Are you the pee dad?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a regular straight dad, it's nice to know so many women think I am a pervert/rapist/flasher.

Yeah, this thread is insane. Sure, it is reasonable to want to know parents fairly well before a sleepover, but to not allow it if the Dad is present is crazy. The Dad is suppose to leave his own house? What is he suppose to do crash at a friend's? Just leave his wife for the night so crazy paranoid people don't worry when there doesn't seem to be any cause for concern other than all straight males must be predators?

[Anonymous]

I don't let my DD sleepover if there are tween or teen males, but I worry less about dads since I actually know my kids' friends' parents. If I knew you, I'd be even less worried since you are gay.