Sleepover with gay dads
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Anonymous
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Dh and I are gay dads with twin elementary age daughters. They haven't been invited to or asked about inviting others to sleepovers, but probably will this year. After reading another thread about no sleepovers with the father present, I said something to dh, who stated that it was normal. I then commented that such a restriction obviously would not apply to us and he disagreed saying that he thought many kids would not stay at our house since we would be there with them.
So, would you let your daughter sleep over at a house where the father was there? If not (or if not, if only the father) would you feel different if the dads were gay? |
Anonymous
| I'd be more likely to let my DD sleep over at your house, assuming we know you and your DH. (We're gay moms, if that makes a difference). |
Anonymous
| I think there will be some people who take issue with it, but most wouldn't. But I wouldn't let my kid sleep over with anyone we didn't know very well (socialized with the entire family on multiple occasions and seen their level of supervision and parenting style in action). |
Anonymous
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I would be comfortable with dads being present in the home of a sleepover if I knew the dad. I would also be fine with gay dads as host. To me, gay dads would be less concerning than straight dads for hosting girls at a sleepover.
Good luck with future sleepovers! |
Anonymous
| Not comfortable with any dads unless I know them well. Their sexual orientation is irrelevant to my comfort level. It's not very scientific, but it's my gut sense of what the dad is like as a person and hanging out with the family a bunch of times. |
Anonymous
| It'd be fine with me if I liked you both. DD has slept over at a single dad's house and at a mom/dad house where the mom was traveling for work. |
Anonymous
| My single dad friend says that no one has ever accepted a sleepover invite to his house. |
Anonymous
I agree. I would only let my kids sleepover where there is a mom present. The dad only factors in if I know them well and are comfortable around them. Single mom? Fine. Mom with deployed husband? Fine. Two moms? Fine. Mom with dad? Only if I know and am comfortable with the dad. Two dads with no mom in the picture? Not comfortable. Mom with boyfriend? Really not comfortable. Bigger issue than two married dads. I have boys, not girls. |
Anonymous
Forgot single dad. About equal to two married gay guys. Still way better than single unmarried mom with live in boyfriend. |
Anonymous
Wow, you have thought about this a LOT. In extreme detail. OP, I'd be cool with gay dads -- I just need to know the parents, whether gay or straight. |
Anonymous
| Agree with others. I'd have to know both of you and feel comfortable with both of you. No issue with your being gay. My prejudice is that you are male. So I just need to know you a little better. I am sorry. I hate that I feel that way. |
Anonymous
| I would have to know you well, but I'd also need different kids. Both my kids are crazy beasts when the don't get enough sleep. A sleepover throws the whole weekend as they then need to nap and they are grouchy. |
Anonymous
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Yes to sleepover:
Two gay dads. No problem. Mom and dad with father employed in job you need some type of background check like teacher, policeman, fed Two gay moms. No to sleepover: Single mom with boyfriend. No way! Couple with older brother more than two or three years older. Any extra male relatives in the house like an uncle or cousin |
Anonymous
Actually, I had never thought about it until OP posed the question. I just typed as I thought and the amount of time I spent typing my answer was as much thought as I put into it. Basically, this was my gut answer. |
Anonymous
| Gay, straight, male, female I would have to know you very very well. Gay would be the least of my concerns. |