I realized my marriage was over at the dinner table

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Anonymous wrote:I would be willing to bet OP was an only child

Exactly this. One if those people that expect constant praise and clapping for everything they do. Yeah OP! That was so cute!

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Anonymous wrote:I would be willing to bet OP was an only child

Exactly this. One if those people that expect constant praise and clapping for everything they do. Yeah OP! That was so cute!

So you'd stay in an unhappy marriage and let your inlaws laugh at you when you tried to do something nice? I told my inlaws to fuck off and get out of my house. Been much happier ever since.

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Anonymous wrote:I get OP, I really do. But if you're still reading OP, I think what you're doing is trying to move on before you move on, if that makes sense.

You can certainly divorce if you want to, but you can't just pretend you were never married and move on. You have to deal with closing that chapter, emotionally and materially, in a thorough manner so that this shitty period doesn't color the rest of your life.

Hugs OP, good luck.

Sometimes people work things out long in their head before they act. I'm like that and appear very decisive, but really I roll things over in my head for a long time, often without discussion and when I'm ready to act, I do it without regret or reservation.

Yes, this is me also.

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Anonymous wrote:I get OP, I really do. But if you're still reading OP, I think what you're doing is trying to move on before you move on, if that makes sense.

You can certainly divorce if you want to, but you can't just pretend you were never married and move on. You have to deal with closing that chapter, emotionally and materially, in a thorough manner so that this shitty period doesn't color the rest of your life.

Hugs OP, good luck.

Sometimes people work things out long in their head before they act. I'm like that and appear very decisive, but really I roll things over in my head for a long time, often without discussion and when I'm ready to act, I do it without regret or reservation.

Yes, this is me also.

Me too.

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Anonymous wrote:I would be willing to bet OP was an only child

Exactly this. One if those people that expect constant praise and clapping for everything they do. Yeah OP! That was so cute!

So you'd stay in an unhappy marriage and let your inlaws laugh at you when you tried to do something nice? I told my inlaws to fuck off and get out of my house. Been much happier ever since.

If I burnt a meal and someone made a joke it wouldn't bother me one bit. I can laugh at myself. I can't imagine having a mindset where I am constantly offended by someone else's actions

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Anonymous wrote:I would be willing to bet OP was an only child

Exactly this. One if those people that expect constant praise and clapping for everything they do. Yeah OP! That was so cute!

So you'd stay in an unhappy marriage and let your inlaws laugh at you when you tried to do something nice? I told my inlaws to fuck off and get out of my house. Been much happier ever since.

If I burnt a meal and someone made a joke it wouldn't bother me one bit. I can laugh at myself. I can't imagine having a mindset where I am constantly offended by someone else's actions

I can't imagine having mindset where I had absolutely not critical reading or thinking skills. Though, being a dum-dum often leads to bliss.

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Anonymous wrote:I would be willing to bet OP was an only child

Exactly this. One if those people that expect constant praise and clapping for everything they do. Yeah OP! That was so cute!

So you'd stay in an unhappy marriage and let your inlaws laugh at you when you tried to do something nice? I told my inlaws to fuck off and get out of my house. Been much happier ever since.

If I burnt a meal and someone made a joke it wouldn't bother me one bit. I can laugh at myself. I can't imagine having a mindset where I am constantly offended by someone else's actions

I can't imagine having mindset where I had absolutely not critical reading or thinking skills. Though, being a dum-dum often leads to bliss.

Oops!

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Anonymous wrote:Have you ever had an epiphany about a relationship your in that its just over? I was having dinner with my disrespectful husband and his dysfunctional family. My BIL makes a crack about my cooking and my husband joins in and laughs. I know I can't cook but hey at least I tried. That has always been an issue with H allowing his family to disrespect me and even him going along with it. We have many other problems which I won't go into. I have put up with this for 3 years. I don't know what was different on Sunday but I was just sitting there and I'm like what am I doing here. I don't belong here. In a period of about 3 minutes I came to the conclusion my marriage is over and I no longer love my husband. There is absolutely no way I will have children with this man. This moment was life changing me for. I got up with no drama got my purse and uber took me home. I packed a bag with enough essentials and moved in with my sister. On Monday I saw my BFF who is a divorce attorney and filed for a divorce. My husband was just served today. I am going to be looking at a small house or condo to move into. I feel so happy and free. When I am done typing this I am changing my cell number. My stbx won't stop blasting my phone. I have absolutely nothing to say to him. I am not angry. I just don't want to bother with him. I have felt so damn happy since I left. There is really no point to my post but I wanted to write about it. TY

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Anonymous wrote:I would be willing to bet OP was an only child

Exactly this. One if those people that expect constant praise and clapping for everything they do. Yeah OP! That was so cute!

So you'd stay in an unhappy marriage and let your inlaws laugh at you when you tried to do something nice? I told my inlaws to fuck off and get out of my house. Been much happier ever since.

If I burnt a meal and someone made a joke it wouldn't bother me one bit. I can laugh at myself. I can't imagine having a mindset where I am constantly offended by someone else's actions

I can't imagine having mindset where I had absolutely not critical reading or thinking skills. Though, being a dum-dum often leads to bliss.

Oops!

Strike 2 for you.

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Anonymous wrote:I would be willing to bet OP was an only child

Exactly this. One if those people that expect constant praise and clapping for everything they do. Yeah OP! That was so cute!

So you'd stay in an unhappy marriage and let your inlaws laugh at you when you tried to do something nice? I told my inlaws to fuck off and get out of my house. Been much happier ever since.

If I burnt a meal and someone made a joke it wouldn't bother me one bit. I can laugh at myself. I can't imagine having a mindset where I am constantly offended by someone else's actions

I can't imagine having (something is missing here) mindset where I had absolutely not critical reading or thinking skills. Though, being a dum-dum often leads to bliss.

LOL!

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Anonymous wrote:I would be willing to bet OP was an only child

Exactly this. One if those people that expect constant praise and clapping for everything they do. Yeah OP! That was so cute!

So you'd stay in an unhappy marriage and let your inlaws laugh at you when you tried to do something nice? I told my inlaws to fuck off and get out of my house. Been much happier ever since.

If I burnt a meal and someone made a joke it wouldn't bother me one bit. I can laugh at myself. I can't imagine having a mindset where I am constantly offended by someone else's actions

I can't imagine having (something is missing here) mindset where I had absolutely not critical reading or thinking skills. Though, being a dum-dum often leads to bliss.

LOL!

+1 lmao

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Anonymous wrote:I get OP, I really do. But if you're still reading OP, I think what you're doing is trying to move on before you move on, if that makes sense.

You can certainly divorce if you want to, but you can't just pretend you were never married and move on. You have to deal with closing that chapter, emotionally and materially, in a thorough manner so that this shitty period doesn't color the rest of your life.

Hugs OP, good luck.

Sometimes people work things out long in their head before they act. I'm like that and appear very decisive, but really I roll things over in my head for a long time, often without discussion and when I'm ready to act, I do it without regret or reservation.

Yes, this is me also.

Seems like a brilliant strategy to have if you're in a relationship. I hope you stick with decisive mates

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Anonymous wrote:I would be willing to bet OP was an only child

Exactly this. One if those people that expect constant praise and clapping for everything they do. Yeah OP! That was so cute!

So you'd stay in an unhappy marriage and let your inlaws laugh at you when you tried to do something nice? I told my inlaws to fuck off and get out of my house. Been much happier ever since.

If I burnt a meal and someone made a joke it wouldn't bother me one bit. I can laugh at myself. I can't imagine having a mindset where I am constantly offended by someone else's actions

I can't imagine having (something is missing here) mindset where I had absolutely not critical reading or thinking skills. Though, being a dum-dum often leads to bliss.

LOL!

another klassy dum-dum joins the team.

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OP, good luck moving forward in your life. As another poster advised, and as I've experienced, it's a good idea to talk to a therapist at this point, to look inside yourself so you can understand what drew you to someone so wrong for you, so you don't repeat this.

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Anonymous wrote:I would be willing to bet OP was an only child

Exactly this. One if those people that expect constant praise and clapping for everything they do. Yeah OP! That was so cute!

So you'd stay in an unhappy marriage and let your inlaws laugh at you when you tried to do something nice? I told my inlaws to fuck off and get out of my house. Been much happier ever since.

If I burnt a meal and someone made a joke it wouldn't bother me one bit. I can laugh at myself. I can't imagine having a mindset where I am constantly offended by someone else's actions

I know. These people are crazy. If someone was always criticizing my cooking...let see...I can say you cook from now on or I can walk out of my marriage and never talk or see my husband again. Guess those marriage vows only go for men. This is the problem with some women, they are just little princesses and treat everyone around them as if these people are there for her entertainment. It really gives women a bad rap. If a man had walked out of a marriage for the same reasons, oh the DCUM Valkyries would be all over him. OP glad you do not have children and hope you grow up before you try to have any.