Sister is infertile/I have 3 kids

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Anonymous wrote:Is this what not being able to have kids does to some people? I have never seen a thread with such nutty advice.

It is not nutty to ask if OP has CONSIDERED egg donation or surrogacy. At all.

Yes, there have been some crazy responses like give her your 2nd kid (I think that was in jest, well, I hope) or you're evil for having 4 kids, but the donation/surrogacy comments are valid.

It is ABSOLUTELY nutty to expect that OP has considered surrogacy. Her own family is not even complete yet and surrogacy is not common. Her sister has many other options including hiring a real surrogate, adoption, and maybe in vitro, egg donation, sperm donation etc. You women in this thread are freaking batshit.

Ok different scenario. Your sibling needs a liver. You wouldn't even think to CONSIDER it? I'm really glad I'm not some of you pp's family. I'd take a bullet for my siblings. And if one of them was suffering I would be actively searching out ways to help them

It is even more bsc to compare needing a liver to being a surrogate. OMFG. Some of you are totally nuts.

It's a similar physical risk, while not the same level of need. There isn't really a direct comparison.

You think pregnancy and birth are similar risk to LIVER donation?????? You are crazy.

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OP does not want to do an extra pregnancy, it might affect her ability to remain skinnier than her sister,

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is this what not being able to have kids does to some people? I have never seen a thread with such nutty advice.

It is not nutty to ask if OP has CONSIDERED egg donation or surrogacy. At all.

Yes, there have been some crazy responses like give her your 2nd kid (I think that was in jest, well, I hope) or you're evil for having 4 kids, but the donation/surrogacy comments are valid.

It is ABSOLUTELY nutty to expect that OP has considered surrogacy. Her own family is not even complete yet and surrogacy is not common. Her sister has many other options including hiring a real surrogate, adoption, and maybe in vitro, egg donation, sperm donation etc. You women in this thread are freaking batshit.

Ok different scenario. Your sibling needs a liver. You wouldn't even think to CONSIDER it? I'm really glad I'm not some of you pp's family. I'd take a bullet for my siblings. And if one of them was suffering I would be actively searching out ways to help them

It is even more bsc to compare needing a liver to being a surrogate. OMFG. Some of you are totally nuts.

Why is that crazy? Think about how people feel about their children. They are more important than your own life, right? Can you imagine your life (seriously, not just when you need some sleep or peace and quiet) without them?

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Anonymous wrote:OP does not want to do an extra pregnancy, it might affect her ability to remain skinnier than her sister,

Pretty much.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this what not being able to have kids does to some people? I have never seen a thread with such nutty advice.

It is not nutty to ask if OP has CONSIDERED egg donation or surrogacy. At all.

Yes, there have been some crazy responses like give her your 2nd kid (I think that was in jest, well, I hope) or you're evil for having 4 kids, but the donation/surrogacy comments are valid.

It is ABSOLUTELY nutty to expect that OP has considered surrogacy. Her own family is not even complete yet and surrogacy is not common. Her sister has many other options including hiring a real surrogate, adoption, and maybe in vitro, egg donation, sperm donation etc. You women in this thread are freaking batshit.

Ok different scenario. Your sibling needs a liver. You wouldn't even think to CONSIDER it? I'm really glad I'm not some of you pp's family. I'd take a bullet for my siblings. And if one of them was suffering I would be actively searching out ways to help them

It is even more bsc to compare needing a liver to being a surrogate. OMFG. Some of you are totally nuts.

Why is that crazy? Think about how people feel about their children. They are more important than your own life, right? Can you imagine your life (seriously, not just when you need some sleep or peace and quiet) without them?

I don't think I can explain it to you if it isn't readily apparent. But life saving organ donation is very different from being a surrogate. I can't believe people compare the two. At all.

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Anonymous wrote:OP does not want to do an extra pregnancy, it might affect her ability to remain skinnier than her sister,

Pretty much.

Damn. Another branch off the crazy tree. You are all doing the most on this Friday afternoon.

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You think pregnancy and birth are similar risk to LIVER donation?????? You are crazy.

I don't understand. Which are you saying is more hazardous?

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I cannot believe how many of you actually think a sister owes it to her sister to bear a child for her. Most of you won't get out of the way of an ambulance if it means being late for yoga.

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I don't think I can explain it to you if it isn't readily apparent. But life saving organ donation is very different from being a surrogate. I can't believe people compare the two. At all.

Nobody is saying that donating a liver is like being a gestational surrogate. But both are things that a sibling might consider doing for a sibling.

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You think pregnancy and birth are similar risk to LIVER donation?????? You are crazy.

I don't understand. Which are you saying is more hazardous?

Liver donation

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Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe how many of you actually think a sister owes it to her sister to bear a child for her. Most of you won't get out of the way of an ambulance if it means being late for yoga.

So true! DCUMers are a crazy bunch, but the infertile ones are wild!

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Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe how many of you actually think a sister owes it to her sister to bear a child for her. Most of you won't get out of the way of an ambulance if it means being late for yoga.

So true! DCUMers are a crazy bunch, but the infertile ones are wild!

There are many infertile people participating in the banter. Why do you assume we are infertile, I am VERY fertile.

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I mean
NOT many infertile people in this thread,

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe how many of you actually think a sister owes it to her sister to bear a child for her. Most of you won't get out of the way of an ambulance if it means being late for yoga.

So true! DCUMers are a crazy bunch, but the infertile ones are wild!

There are many infertile people participating in the banter. Why do you assume we are infertile, I am VERY fertile.

Then maybe you could loan out your uterus to OP's sister?

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You think pregnancy and birth are similar risk to LIVER donation?????? You are crazy.

I don't understand. Which are you saying is more hazardous?

Liver donation

Well then greater need and greater risk but because they are your family you would risk your life for them. Which, while at a different scale of importance, is a comparable emotional situation for a sibling to consider.

And I'm not saying she's obligated to be a surrogate. I'm just saying she seems like a crappy sister for not even having thought of it and acting like it's some gross horrible act that her children wouldn't understand. And generally seeming to have approximately zero empathy for get sister or desire to support her in any way be it physical, financial out even emotionally.