I was an AP and now I'm a wife, AMA

[Anonymous]

Wow, OP. I had an affair and I was ashamed. I would never come on here and do an AMA about marrying my AP. You sound like you are bragging and lack awareness about the incredible hurt your actions have caused. I hope it all works out for you and your husband, but I also hope you have a lot more empathy for the ex-wife than it would appear.

[Anonymous]

I don't agree with all you posters who say that OPs husband will cheat on her because he cheated with her. My dad cheated. He left my mother for his AP. As much as I hate to say this - they are soul mates. They really do get along well and he never cheated on her - well it that I know - they are old and still have a spark.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't agree with all you posters who say that OPs husband will cheat on her because he cheated with her. My dad cheated. He left my mother for his AP. As much as I hate to say this - they are soul mates. They really do get along well and he never cheated on her - well it that I know - they are old and still have a spark.

Same here. Twenty years later and I realize now he was really in love with this woman, still is, and my mom was a mess and just getting worse. I don't blame him for leaving but I think he could have treated me better in the process.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't agree with all you posters who say that OPs husband will cheat on her because he cheated with her. My dad cheated. He left my mother for his AP. As much as I hate to say this - they are soul mates. They really do get along well and he never cheated on her - well it that I know - they are old and still have a spark.

Were they also neighbors?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're gonna get crucified, OP.

I want to know why you thought starting this thread was a good idea.

Probably for the same reason she thought sleeping with a married man was a good idea -- no common sense or self esteem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you support Trump?

No I support Clinton.

Why am I not surprised? This is the most telling thing OP has said yet.

Like Trump didn't have affairs!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So are you younger and hotter? Was his wife a hag? Did you appreciate him far more than she did?

His wife didn't understand him, lol.

[Anonymous]

OP how did he signal to you that he was interested in more than casual flirting!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP how did he signal to you that he was interested in more than casual flirting!

Sorry, that was a question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't agree with all you posters who say that OPs husband will cheat on her because he cheated with her. My dad cheated. He left my mother for his AP. As much as I hate to say this - they are soul mates. They really do get along well and he never cheated on her - well it that I know - they are old and still have a spark.

Same here. Twenty years later and I realize now he was really in love with this woman, still is, and my mom was a mess and just getting worse. I don't blame him for leaving but I think he could have treated me better in the process.

Hi sockpuppeting OP!


Your dad cheats on his new wife. Your step mommy turns a blind eye to it for whatever reason. It's interesting that you don't see how your dad's cheating probably played a role in your mom's being a mess, and that brings us back full circle to "-hi sockpuppeting, OP.

[Anonymous]

What is wrong with you that you couldn't get any of the quality single men to date you?


Follow up, what is attractive to you about a man who has proven he will leave his wife and kid when he gets bored?


Are you prepared to be a single mom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So are you younger and hotter? Was his wife a hag? Did you appreciate him far more than she did?

His wife didn't understand him, lol.

His wife didn't appreciate him that's why he strayed. She's a very attractive woman.

[Anonymous]

I'm sure when you're busy with your kid(s), he'll start to feel you don't appreciate him either. Just wait, OP.

[Anonymous]

Serious question, OP: what was your childhood like? Were you deprived of attention? Parents divorced? Mother more interested in dating than parenting? Why does your self esteem suck so badly that you crave the attention of anonymous people on a message board?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious question, OP: what was your childhood like? Were you deprived of attention? Parents divorced? Mother more interested in dating than parenting? Why does your self esteem suck so badly that you crave the attention of anonymous people on a message board?

That is not a nice thing to say to a person. Someone is engaging in negative self talk.

Warbler