Love my wife, but she's getting seriously fat....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are 5 months post-partum...

No. WE aren't.

5 months... REALLY?

OP appreciate the fact that you are being honest. The last thing you should be doing to this beautiful woman is bring her self esteem down. Women's bodies take a hit during pregnancy and it takes at least 1-2 years to start getting back to normal. In many ways she has sacrificed herself so you both can enjoy a child & build a family. Love her for who she is , unconditionally and it will motivate her to be her best.

No it doesn't take 1-2 years. It only does in America where people have very poor diets.

Where there is NO support for a working couple.

It is impossible 2 be a professional and take care of kids and take care of yourself.

Tell her to get a mom job.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is her height and weight? before and after?

5'1" - 150
" " - 185

And what is your expectation? To get to 150?

5'1 at 150 is already plump - I am 5'4 at 155 and I look bulky.

[Anonymous]

Take some family pictures together And then print them out or frame one with her and the baby- if she's not aware of how fat she looks- that might the wake up call she needs- I'm being serious. Sometimes we don't know what we really look like until we see a picture of ourselves. She's probably in denial.
However I will say 5 months postpartum is not enough time for her to lose the weight. You have to give her at least 1 full year.
In the Meantime you might need to stop buying Ice cream or throw it out when she buys it- take over the grocery shopping so there isn't a bunch of junk in the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Take some family pictures together And then print them out or frame one with her and the baby- if she's not aware of how fat she looks- that might the wake up call she needs- I'm being serious. Sometimes we don't know what we really look like until we see a picture of ourselves. She's probably in denial.
However I will say 5 months postpartum is not enough time for her to lose the weight. You have to give her at least 1 full year.
In the Meantime you might need to stop buying Ice cream or throw it out when she buys it- take over the grocery shopping so there isn't a bunch of junk in the house.

yes great idea. take pictures of her because she does not realize she is fat.

[Anonymous]

Hey is the guy acting jerky complaining about his wife's weight 5 months post baby just using it as an excuse for his Ashley Madison activities? Bets he's on the Ashley Madison list?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are 5 months post-partum...

No. WE aren't.

5 months... REALLY?

OP appreciate the fact that you are being honest. The last thing you should be doing to this beautiful woman is bring her self esteem down. Women's bodies take a hit during pregnancy and it takes at least 1-2 years to start getting back to normal. In many ways she has sacrificed herself so you both can enjoy a child & build a family. Love her for who she is , unconditionally and it will motivate her to be her best.

No it doesn't take 1-2 years. It only does in America where people have very poor diets.

Where there is NO support for a working couple.

It is impossible 2 be a professional and take care of kids and take care of yourself.

Tell her to get a mom job.

Huh? What are you babbling about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Take some family pictures together And then print them out or frame one with her and the baby- if she's not aware of how fat she looks- that might the wake up call she needs- I'm being serious. Sometimes we don't know what we really look like until we see a picture of ourselves. She's probably in denial.
However I will say 5 months postpartum is not enough time for her to lose the weight. You have to give her at least 1 full year.
In the Meantime you might need to stop buying Ice cream or throw it out when she buys it- take over the grocery shopping so there isn't a bunch of junk in the house.

yes great idea. take pictures of her because she does not realize she is fat.

Probably wouldn't work for a woman, but definitely worked for my husband! He was AMAZED at his little gut when looking at our beach vacation photos. Apparently he thought he looked like Hugh Jackman despite his daily ice cream snack

[Anonymous]

If the guy is throwing away food so his wife won't eat it, then they have some serious problems that have nothing to do with who weighs how much. That sounds like abusive and controlling behavior to me. What an unpleasant place to have to live -- with people like that. What a horrible environment in which to raise a child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the guy is throwing away food so his wife won't eat it, then they have some serious problems that have nothing to do with who weighs how much. That sounds like abusive and controlling behavior to me. What an unpleasant place to have to live -- with people like that. What a horrible environment in which to raise a child.

Don't forget - he's weighing her, too! She was on track and losing but then started gaining again and is almost back up to pregnancy weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure there is really anything to do - this is mostly just venting.

We are 5 months post-partum and while DW was actually dropping weight for a while (breast feeding was helping) but she's still close to her birth weight and has started gaining again. The maternity pants came back out. The ice cream diet hasn't slowed down at all. I love her, and we're actually having sex again, and I still think she's got a beautiful face, but the fat is starting to be a problem. She was never a skinny person and I'm OK with that, but instead of leveraging the breast feeding weight loss advantage, she's just chowing down. The pregnancy was complicated so we didn't have sex then (bummed me out because I have a little pregnancy fetish), and now I'm not sure we will get back in the groove because I'm just not really attracted. She's nearly a foot shorter than I am but has like 20 lb advantage on me. I love her and our family, but I just don't think I can gin up a fat fetish.

You're a selfish ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure there is really anything to do - this is mostly just venting.

We are 5 months post-partum and while DW was actually dropping weight for a while (breast feeding was helping) but she's still close to her birth weight and has started gaining again. The maternity pants came back out. The ice cream diet hasn't slowed down at all. I love her, and we're actually having sex again, and I still think she's got a beautiful face, but the fat is starting to be a problem. She was never a skinny person and I'm OK with that, but instead of leveraging the breast feeding weight loss advantage, she's just chowing down. The pregnancy was complicated so we didn't have sex then (bummed me out because I have a little pregnancy fetish), and now I'm not sure we will get back in the groove because I'm just not really attracted. She's nearly a foot shorter than I am but has like 20 lb advantage on me. I love her and our family, but I just don't think I can gin up a fat fetish.

Does she get enough sleep? Sleep deprivation does cause the worst food cravings: sweets, carbs, etc. Anything that gives a boost of energy. She's probably really tired and sleep deprived. Take on some night time duties. She should be getting at least 4 hours of uninterrupted sleep. In few weeks those cravings will go away, she'll get more energy, will feel like getting more active and taking care of herself. I know, I've been there myself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure there is really anything to do - this is mostly just venting.

We are 5 months post-partum and while DW was actually dropping weight for a while (breast feeding was helping) but she's still close to her birth weight and has started gaining again. The maternity pants came back out. The ice cream diet hasn't slowed down at all. I love her, and we're actually having sex again, and I still think she's got a beautiful face, but the fat is starting to be a problem. She was never a skinny person and I'm OK with that, but instead of leveraging the breast feeding weight loss advantage, she's just chowing down. The pregnancy was complicated so we didn't have sex then (bummed me out because I have a little pregnancy fetish), and now I'm not sure we will get back in the groove because I'm just not really attracted. She's nearly a foot shorter than I am but has like 20 lb advantage on me. I love her and our family, but I just don't think I can gin up a fat fetish.

Does she get enough sleep? Sleep deprivation does cause the worst food cravings: sweets, carbs, etc. Anything that gives a boost of energy. She's probably really tired and sleep deprived. Take on some night time duties. She should be getting at least 4 hours of uninterrupted sleep. In few weeks those cravings will go away, she'll get more energy, will feel like getting more active and taking care of herself. I know, I've been there myself.

He said they both get almost 8 hours of sleep each night. She still stops for ice cream every day at work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the guy is throwing away food so his wife won't eat it, then they have some serious problems that have nothing to do with who weighs how much. That sounds like abusive and controlling behavior to me. What an unpleasant place to have to live -- with people like that. What a horrible environment in which to raise a child.

Don't forget - he's weighing her, too! She was on track and losing but then started gaining again and is almost back up to pregnancy weight.

When did he throw her food away? Or weigh her? You're being weird.

[Anonymous]

Op, maybe she'll lose the weight. Maybe she'll gain it back. Maybe you'll gain weight. Maybe you'll get hit by a bus. Maybe you won't be able to get it up. Maybe whatever.

Life is long. Things happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the guy is throwing away food so his wife won't eat it, then they have some serious problems that have nothing to do with who weighs how much. That sounds like abusive and controlling behavior to me. What an unpleasant place to have to live -- with people like that. What a horrible environment in which to raise a child.

Don't forget - he's weighing her, too! She was on track and losing but then started gaining again and is almost back up to pregnancy weight.

When did he throw her food away? Or weigh her? You're being weird.

I am not the PP you are responding to, but the OP had a very clear idea of his wife's weight pre- and postpartum. Which seems a bit odd to me.