Parents of middle school girls, please...

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That is really sad. And what is worse is that parents are okay sending their kids off like that making others feel inappropriate.

And who are we kidding. If it walks like a duck.....

My child's behavior at school is my child's responsibility. Your child's behavior at school is not my child's responsibility.

Also, if what walks like a duck?

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As adults, maybe they don't. But I do have a problem with my 12 year old son seeing body parts that our family values as being kept private put on display at his public school. I have no problem with sex and sexuality, but there are places where that needs to not be brought to the forefront, and school is one of those places for children.

Well, first, you're assuming that they are being "put on display". Maybe the people are dressing for your attention. But maybe they aren't.

And second, one of the things about public school is that you can't control what goes on there. You send your kid with your family's values, and everybody else sends their kids with their families' values.

I can't, but I do know what the school's dress code is, and it matches what I feel is appropriate. As OP is asking, please adhere to the policies put in place -- they're there for a reason. If you disagree with it, find somewhere that fits your beliefs better.

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Anonymous wrote:I see where our country is headed based on these loony responses. Let her wear a g-string to class, so long as she's comfortable!

smh

Nobody has said that.

Not exactly. But so much more importance seems to be placed on the will of the child rather than the greater good. Oh, mind your business, just listen to what the principal says! What BS.

What greater good?

How is anyone else's "greater good" served or harmed by what another person chooses to wear, exactly?

We live in a society - what other people do affects us, and what we do affects others.

But that doesn't answer the questions. In general, how do my clothing choices harm you, and how do your clothing choices harm me? Obviously there are exceptions, but in general.

As adults, maybe they don't. But I do have a problem with my 12 year old son seeing body parts that our family values as being kept private put on display at his public school. I have no problem with sex and sexuality, but there are places where that needs to not be brought to the forefront, and school is one of those places for children.

But the onus is on you to teach your child. It's not my child's responsibility to cover up to keep your kid happily within the bubble. Using the same criteria, you could require my daughter to wear a burka to meet your ideals of appropriate exposure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow....I can't believe some of the responses here. Lots of "parents" who don't want to take responsibility and actually teach their children appropriate dress--a sense of decorum that will help them land a job some day.

I thought most DCUMers were smarter than that. Some of you should move away to a nudist colony....you'd fit in better there than in mainstream American society. Seriously.


I don't understand? I do talk to my children about their clothes. But unless you're my child's boss, or my child's principal/teacher/whoever enforces the school dress code, my child's clothes are none of your business.

Yes, they are, if my child is forced to be exposed to your child's trashy clothing, and I have to explain to them why your child is dressed that way. I shouldn't have to do that. Stop being so selfish and accept your responsibility as a parent.

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I don't understand? I do talk to my children about their clothes. But unless you're my child's boss, or my child's principal/teacher/whoever enforces the school dress code, my child's clothes are none of your business.

Yes, they are, if my child is forced to be exposed to your child's trashy clothing, and I have to explain to them why your child is dressed that way. I shouldn't have to do that. Stop being so selfish and accept your responsibility as a parent.



No, my child's clothes are still none of your business. If you want your child to only be exposed to the things you want your child to be exposed to, you need to keep your child at home.

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As adults, maybe they don't. But I do have a problem with my 12 year old son seeing body parts that our family values as being kept private put on display at his public school. I have no problem with sex and sexuality, but there are places where that needs to not be brought to the forefront, and school is one of those places for children.

Well, first, you're assuming that they are being "put on display". Maybe the people are dressing for your attention. But maybe they aren't.

And second, one of the things about public school is that you can't control what goes on there. You send your kid with your family's values, and everybody else sends their kids with their families' values.

I can't, but I do know what the school's dress code is, and it matches what I feel is appropriate. As OP is asking, please adhere to the policies put in place -- they're there for a reason. If you disagree with it, find somewhere that fits your beliefs better.

Nobody is disputing the principle that the school has a right to have a dress code. There may be disputes about the specifics of the dress code, but that hasn't come up yet in this discussion.

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I don't understand? I do talk to my children about their clothes. But unless you're my child's boss, or my child's principal/teacher/whoever enforces the school dress code, my child's clothes are none of your business.

Yes, they are, if my child is forced to be exposed to your child's trashy clothing, and I have to explain to them why your child is dressed that way. I shouldn't have to do that. Stop being so selfish and accept your responsibility as a parent.



No, my child's clothes are still none of your business. If you want your child to only be exposed to the things you want your child to be exposed to, you need to keep your child at home.

I'd rather that you keep your trashily dressed child at home. Or maybe there's room for you both at the local nudist colony.

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Has anyone posted a photo of what they mean by shorts being too short? I think people don't understand because they are picturing short shorts w/o the buttocks sticking out, but I think the OP means buttocks hanging out. I am in complete disbelief that any PS would allow that, btw.

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Has anyone posted a photo of what they mean by shorts being too short? I think people don't understand because they are picturing short shorts w/o the buttocks sticking out, but I think the OP means buttocks hanging out. I am in complete disbelief that any PS would allow that, btw.

They don't allow it. But parents like some of the posters here think it's perfectly okay to send their kids dressed that way anyway. They think the rules don't apply to them. See above.

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Anonymous wrote:...explain to them that the shorts they wear to school need to cover their bums! They don't need to come to the knee, but if they're causing rear ends to hang out (or could if she moved in the wrong way), these need to stay out of school.

If kiddos want to wear these outside of school, great, that's your call, but please, please, please explain to them the concept of time and place.

I agree. Those of you who don't, will wish you did.... soon enough. Trust me.

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This would NEVER be allowed in our suburban PS. If a principal or dean is allowing this to happen in his/her school, then I have to question if they have perverse intentions. They need to be called out.

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I don't understand? I do talk to my children about their clothes. But unless you're my child's boss, or my child's principal/teacher/whoever enforces the school dress code, my child's clothes are none of your business.

Yes, they are, if my child is forced to be exposed to your child's trashy clothing, and I have to explain to them why your child is dressed that way. I shouldn't have to do that. Stop being so selfish and accept your responsibility as a parent.

No, my child's clothes are still none of your business. If you want your child to only be exposed to the things you want your child to be exposed to, you need to keep your child at home.

I'd rather that you keep your trashily dressed child at home. Or maybe there's room for you both at the local nudist colony.



You may wish whatever you want to wish, but the reality is that that's not how it works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone posted a photo of what they mean by shorts being too short? I think people don't understand because they are picturing short shorts w/o the buttocks sticking out, but I think the OP means buttocks hanging out. I am in complete disbelief that any PS would allow that, btw.

OP. Yes, I mean please do not send your kids to school in shorts that literally do not cover the buttocks. Seriously. It's not allowed by school policy and is a problem that those at home in the mornings can help us deal with with very little effort or hassle on their end.

I think this comes up at this time of year when kids are pulling out clothes from last summer. Bodies change and sometimes clothes don't fit like they used to. Or maybe they like to have their rear ends out. Whatever. I don't care what they wear on their own time, but in school, a little coverage goes a long way.

[Anonymous]

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Has anyone posted a photo of what they mean by shorts being too short? I think people don't understand because they are picturing short shorts w/o the buttocks sticking out, but I think the OP means buttocks hanging out. I am in complete disbelief that any PS would allow that, btw.

They don't allow it. But parents like some of the posters here think it's perfectly okay to send their kids dressed that way anyway. They think the rules don't apply to them. See above.

Nobody has said that on this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:Has anyone posted a photo of what they mean by shorts being too short? I think people don't understand because they are picturing short shorts w/o the buttocks sticking out, but I think the OP means buttocks hanging out. I am in complete disbelief that any PS would allow that, btw.

OP. Yes, I mean please do not send your kids to school in shorts that literally do not cover the buttocks. Seriously. It's not allowed by school policy and is a problem that those at home in the mornings can help us deal with with very little effort or hassle on their end.

I think this comes up at this time of year when kids are pulling out clothes from last summer. Bodies change and sometimes clothes don't fit like they used to. Or maybe they like to have their rear ends out. Whatever. I don't care what they wear on their own time, but in school, a little coverage goes a long way.

OP, I have an enormous respect for teachers, which is why I hope that you're not spending all of your spare time today on DCUM telling anonymous posters that their children should follow the school dress codes.