Overheard DW's fantasy about OM, do I confront her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she's willing to sleep with another guy, is she really worth OP's effort? Assuming a guy isn't being emotionally or physically abusive or something, he should be able to trust his wife to keep her promises, and especially her oaths.

If she's just bored and dissatisfied and turned on by another man, the least she could do is tell OP the type of things the other man is doing that turns her on. (She doesn't have to say it's the OM -- just, 'you know what would turn me on? If you did x, y, and z.')

If she's too immature or selfish to do that, then she doesn't seem like the type of person who deserves flowers or more oral sex or whatever.

SHE HASNT SLEPT WITH HIM! Not yet at least.. but if OP follows the "act like a douchebag" advice, she surely will soon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she's willing to sleep with another guy, is she really worth OP's effort? Assuming a guy isn't being emotionally or physically abusive or something, he should be able to trust his wife to keep her promises, and especially her oaths.

If she's just bored and dissatisfied and turned on by another man, the least she could do is tell OP the type of things the other man is doing that turns her on. (She doesn't have to say it's the OM -- just, 'you know what would turn me on? If you did x, y, and z.')

If she's too immature or selfish to do that, then she doesn't seem like the type of person who deserves flowers or more oral sex or whatever.

SHE HASNT SLEPT WITH HIM! Not yet at least.. but if OP follows the "act like a douchebag" advice, she surely will soon.

I said "willing to sleep with another guy." Whether she's done it yet or not, it sounds like she's willing.

[Anonymous]

Not quite what I was looking for in a gambling addiction search but an interesting microcosm of DCUM nonetheless!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not quite what I was looking for in a gambling addiction search but an interesting microcosm of DCUM nonetheless!

Hah! Just found this and thought the same thing!

[Anonymous]

OP - Im a woman and I agree in principle with the advice the men have given you.
Its one thing to have a fantasy about another man - quite another to actually verbalise it to someone else where there is a good chance you might be overheard - that is the red flag and it is simply not done.
Whatever you do please dont roll over and try to please her further - it will just make her take you for granted even more than she already it.

[Anonymous]

Update?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Update?

Never said a thing. But nothing seems to have come of her fantasy, AFAICT

[Anonymous]

Now both of you - stop oversharing