Trying to get a Harvard husband in Boston

[Anonymous]

OP, are you going to answer what is so appealing to you that you are specifically seeking out a Harvard grad?

[Anonymous]

I graduated from the College a few years ago and married a wonderful, highly intelligent, driven man from BU. We met when we were in Boston and I didn't think he was any less amazing because he didn't go to Harvard.

OP, with this attitude you're going to attract a selfish man who will see through you, use you, and discard you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks to 14:08 for printing "Princeton Mom". Wow. I haven't heard of an attitude like that since I visited the BYU girls' dorms.

Isn't that a different culture? BYU dorms = brides' magazines all over the place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok, so I have listened to the advice in this thread with interest. I think there are truths in everything you are saying. I think I can approach this more light-heartedly than, "it MUST be a Harvard husband or nothing!" I just feel, I'm in Boston so what so I lose by giving it a shot? As some random woman once said, "you can fall in love with a rich man as easily as with a poor man."

I do think I have some unhealthy hang ups maybe. I think they just seem like a challenge

Unless you are specifically avoiding Harvard men, you already are giving it a chance. Just understand that it might not happen.

I had some of the Harvard hang up as well. I was admitted to Stanford and Harvard PhD programs and chose Harvard though it was not as good of a program. Now, I am cured . If you are so into Harvard, why don't you try to get in yourself.

There are night courses. Or at least there used to be when I went. They are offered to anyone just like any other school might have night and weekend courses to keep bringing the money in.

[Anonymous]

Pro tip: going to Harvard Extension School is worthless and useless. You can't write "Harvard College" on your resume and everyone will know exactly what you were up to. And if you want to work in Boston, employers might just respect you more if you went to Suffolk.

For that matter your Harvard boyfriend will respect you more too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:@07:30 Negro?

If I'm getting the joke, PP @7:30 is making a Harvard-level joke about that great Golddigger song.

"She ain't dealin with no broke...broke..."

7:30 again.

The non-radio edit of the song uses the less polite word. "broke .. broke" was in the radio edit.

http://www.metrolyrics.com/gold-digger-album-version-explicit-lyrics-kanye-west.html

http://www.songfacts.com/detail.php?id=5301

My joke is in this vein:
http://www.holytaco.com/25-awesome-joseph-ducreux-memes/

You have to admit, Ducreux is looking pimptastic here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok, so I have listened to the advice in this thread with interest. I think there are truths in everything you are saying. I think I can approach this more light-heartedly than, "it MUST be a Harvard husband or nothing!" I just feel, I'm in Boston so what so I lose by giving it a shot? As some random woman once said, "you can fall in love with a rich man as easily as with a poor man."

I do think I have some unhealthy hang ups maybe. I think they just seem like a challenge

Unless you are specifically avoiding Harvard men, you already are giving it a chance. Just understand that it might not happen.

I had some of the Harvard hang up as well. I was admitted to Stanford and Harvard PhD programs and chose Harvard though it was not as good of a program. Now, I am cured . If you are so into Harvard, why don't you try to get in yourself.

I am the PP above - Extension School doesn't count.



There are night courses. Or at least there used to be when I went. They are offered to anyone just like any other school might have night and weekend courses to keep bringing the money in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also, these Harvard men (and my brother is one) are so ambitious and successful and sorta egotistical that they have very high standards for potential wives. They expect her to be highly educated (at a top school), grad school not just college, beautiful and in shape, and have a very good job. They want the whole package. and they can get it.

This is sooo true.

- Went to Emerson undergrad.

But when they find out that their potential mate and long time girlfriend has a 6 figure student loan they end the relationship

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:this is a truly hilarious yet disturbing thread.

to the OP - you may already in the Boston area but in case you're still here in DC, let me offer a couple of thoughts -

lots of Harvard grads (from all the schools) in DC. I work with many, many Harvard grads - some from HLS, a few from HBS and many from K-school. I also work many grads from Princeton, Yale, LSE, Chicago and many other notable institutions. I'm not an alum, but I'm their boss. There are couple of recent H grads who we'll let go next year - though they are certainly book smart, they can't cut it in the real business world.

I've had younger women in my company ask me where I went to school and how I got my level (they are digging for a BF/husband and the interest has gotten stronger since I re-entered the dating scene recently) - and they are just astounded when I tell them (undergrad and grad) and the hammering and embarrassment that ensues is actually quite pleasurable to witness.

only you know what you want. I'm telling you, any successful man can smell superficiality coming from a mile away. you may not land your dream relationship but you may very well end up getting used as guys have no problem feeding a woman every line of BS to get into her pants.

if you're digging for a diploma to put on the wall, best of luck. if you want something real, who gives a shit where someone went to school. what matters is what you do with the tools and gifts (education) you've received.

- a very successful, good-looking, non-Ivy League grad with a job and life that many envy.

Why hello there. Call me. (not OP!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also, these Harvard men (and my brother is one) are so ambitious and successful and sorta egotistical that they have very high standards for potential wives. They expect her to be highly educated (at a top school), grad school not just college, beautiful and in shape, and have a very good job. They want the whole package. and they can get it.

This is sooo true.

- Went to Emerson undergrad.

But when they find out that their potential mate and long time girlfriend has a 6 figure student loan they end the relationship

=( Did this happen to you?

[Anonymous]

OP -- one of my friends who didn't even go to college met her Harvard Law husband while on vacation in the Bahamas. He wanted a SAHM who wasn't as smart as he was. He dumped his Harvard Law girlfriend for my friend. Guess what? They have several kids and none of them are as smart as dad...all more like mom.

So maybe go on a vacation at a spring break type location during springbreak...Bahamas, Cancun, South Beach, etc. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

OP, you sound like my husband's first wife! Turns out my husband is quite smart but it took him a while to figure out women.
Signed,
Harvard grad married to Harvard grad

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound like my husband's first wife! Turns out my husband is quite smart but it took him a while to figure out women.
Signed,
Harvard grad married to Harvard grad

Ok let's not answer gold-diggers with elitism. I have as little respect for snobs as I do for gold-diggers

[Anonymous]

Yes, I married the Ivy trophy husband. No I did not go to Harvard myself : Julliard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:this is a truly hilarious yet disturbing thread.

to the OP - you may already in the Boston area but in case you're still here in DC, let me offer a couple of thoughts -

lots of Harvard grads (from all the schools) in DC. I work with many, many Harvard grads - some from HLS, a few from HBS and many from K-school. I also work many grads from Princeton, Yale, LSE, Chicago and many other notable institutions. I'm not an alum, but I'm their boss. There are couple of recent H grads who we'll let go next year - though they are certainly book smart, they can't cut it in the real business world.

I've had younger women in my company ask me where I went to school and how I got my level (they are digging for a BF/husband and the interest has gotten stronger since I re-entered the dating scene recently) - and they are just astounded when I tell them (undergrad and grad) and the hammering and embarrassment that ensues is actually quite pleasurable to witness.

only you know what you want. I'm telling you, any successful man can smell superficiality coming from a mile away. you may not land your dream relationship but you may very well end up getting used as guys have no problem feeding a woman every line of BS to get into her pants.

if you're digging for a diploma to put on the wall, best of luck. if you want something real, who gives a shit where someone went to school. what matters is what you do with the tools and gifts (education) you've received.

- a very successful, good-looking, non-Ivy League grad with a job and life that many envy.

Why hello there. Call me. (not OP!)

LOL - PP here, so what is it that you're looking for, 'not op'?