Trying to get a Harvard husband in Boston

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I want to add that most of the Ivy League men I know married Ivy League women. Seriously. It is not like the old days when Ivy League men married their secretaries. These successful ambitious men marry equally successful ambitious women. So honestly, you best bet is to getting into Harvard Biz school yourself.

Or attend an equally good grad school and then meet him on the job.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I want to add that most of the Ivy League men I know married Ivy League women. Seriously. It is not like the old days when Ivy League men married their secretaries. These successful ambitious men marry equally successful ambitious women. So honestly, you best bet is to getting into Harvard Biz school yourself.

Or attend an equally good grad school and then meet him on the job.

+1000

PP here who grew up and now lives in Boston. I agree with this as well. For my single friends either at Harvard grad schools or in a prestigious job, they do have certain requirements for potential serious gfs (not for hook ups though), and in a city like Boston, a white collar job is pretty standard. They aren't necessarily looking for another Ivy League grad, but they are looking for someone who is ambitious and has plans to work their way up in the world. Which, again, in a city like Boston, usually involves going back to school or taking certification tests.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't judge, ok? I'm not just going to grab the first Harvard guy I see and marry him, but I want to know where to meet these men. I spend a lot of time in Cambridge, but mostly see undergrads there. Where do the med school, law school, and b-school guys hang out?

Please don't hate. There are threads here about cheating on a marriage and people give advice on that; there's a thread about fetishes in the explicit forum and people want to have sex with dogs and their parents. Nobody is flaming them. I'm just looking to date a guy from Harvard, but am not sure where to meet them. If you don't like this thread don't respond. I'm just posting my question in this forum because it's anonymous and frankly I feel like the people who use this forum are in that kind of crowd anyway.

If you went to Harvard, or was part of the student social scene in Boston when you were younger, or live and work here, I'd love some advice. I live closer to Tufts and just moved here for work a couple months ago. Late twenties, fit and trim, well-put-together girl with her own job, with NO plans of becoming a SAHM. Thanks.

I am not judging but I honestly find it a little off putting that you are specifically looking for a Harvard grad before you are looking for a nice upstanding person. I think that is a little crazy in fact.I really believe that just about any intelligent man (and think we an all agree that anyone at Harvard law) is intelligent would smell you a few feet away. I am sorry but it just hits a nerve with me.

Incidentally, i was on vacation in California and met someone there (learned we are both originally from Connecticut) turns out he IS a Harvard undergrad and law school grad, and we have been married 12 years now. Sometimes things happen when you are not looking for them. Did I ever think "gee it would be nice for my future husband to have been an Ivy school grad"? Yes, I did but never once was it my sole mission to only meet an Ivy league grad. Keep your optoins open and do not have such a narrow and short sited ideal of what Mr. Right should look like.....you never know until you find him. Good luck in any case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I want to add that most of the Ivy League men I know married Ivy League women. Seriously. It is not like the old days when Ivy League men married their secretaries. These successful ambitious men marry equally successful ambitious women. So honestly, you best bet is to getting into Harvard Biz school yourself.

Or attend an equally good grad school and then meet him on the job.

+1000

PP here who grew up and now lives in Boston. I agree with this as well. For my single friends either at Harvard grad schools or in a prestigious job, they do have certain requirements for potential serious gfs (not for hook ups though), and in a city like Boston, a white collar job is pretty standard. They aren't necessarily looking for another Ivy League grad, but they are looking for someone who is ambitious and has plans to work their way up in the world. Which, again, in a city like Boston, usually involves going back to school or taking certification tests.

Actually I beg to differ. Both of my brothers are Ivy league grads (Princeton and Yale). Neither married an ivy league grad. My husband is as well and of his 5 good college friends only one did. So just based on m life...I do not agree with that statement.

[Anonymous]

OP, the people I know at Harvard Med School either already have serious gfs or don't want one because of 1. the time commitment required for med school and 2. they want the freedom to do their residency without having to worry about their gfs relocating as well.

[Anonymous]

Ok, I'll bite. I married a Kennedy School grad. My experience is completely different from many of the stories posted here.

We met in DC the summer before he went to grad school. I was 23 and he was almost 26. We met at his going away party. I was not looking for a boyfriend at the time as I was enjoying the single life in DC. We've been married 11 years. I was 26 and he was 29.

I was a teacher at an independent school here in DC. I went to a really good school undergrad, but it wasn't an Ivy. I didn't go to grad school for education until after we were married. I'm not particularly beautiful nor do I have a perfect body.

I'm thinking about all his friends from grad school that are guys- most were in relationships during school and are now married to that person. A few we're single but were not jerks. They were sweet, fun guys. Most everyone ended up in DC. Many work for the Feds while a few (like my husband) work in the private sector. I would say that only one turned out to be an ass. Their wives are normal, regular, incredibly nice people. A few SAH and a few work. I wouldn't say that any of of the wives put their career before their family.

My husband and his friends call the K School Harvard Lite so take that as you will. He doesn't make as much money as a lawyer, but he does do pretty darn well. Chances are if you marry a K School grad that you won't be living in a 2 million dollar house in Newton but at least he'll be home for dinner most nights.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I want to add that most of the Ivy League men I know married Ivy League women. Seriously. It is not like the old days when Ivy League men married their secretaries. These successful ambitious men marry equally successful ambitious women. So honestly, you best bet is to getting into Harvard Biz school yourself.

Or attend an equally good grad school and then meet him on the job.

+1000

PP here who grew up and now lives in Boston. I agree with this as well. For my single friends either at Harvard grad schools or in a prestigious job, they do have certain requirements for potential serious gfs (not for hook ups though), and in a city like Boston, a white collar job is pretty standard. They aren't necessarily looking for another Ivy League grad, but they are looking for someone who is ambitious and has plans to work their way up in the world. Which, again, in a city like Boston, usually involves going back to school or taking certification tests.

Actually I beg to differ. Both of my brothers are Ivy league grads (Princeton and Yale). Neither married an ivy league grad. My husband is as well and of his 5 good college friends only one did. So just based on m life...I do not agree with that statement.

I didn't mean only an Ivy league. I just meant going back to school in general. Most jobs require more than a Bachelors in order to move up.

[Anonymous]

OP, do you have an Ivy friend in Boston? You could tag along to an alumni event. Sometimes there are "mixers" with other Ivy schools.

I went to a Ivy undergrad & grad myself and definitely like more of the MIT/Sloan guys I've known over Harvard/HBS.

OP, you don't exactly sound like a gold-digger, but maybe a prestige-digger. Something....

[Anonymous]

Out of curiosity, what is it about a "Harvard husband" that does it for you, OP? Are you going to mention his credentials when you introduce him? Are you looking to bask in the reflective glow? My DH is went to one of the schools mentioned. But I'm just me. I still have an undergrad degree from a run-of-the-mill state school. And adult acne. People who would think better of me because of my husband's credentials are generally the sort that I don't want to hang with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Out of curiosity, what is it about a "Harvard husband" that does it for you, OP? Are you going to mention his credentials when you introduce him? Are you looking to bask in the reflective glow? My DH is went to one of the schools mentioned. But I'm just me. I still have an undergrad degree from a run-of-the-mill state school. And adult acne. People who would think better of me because of my husband's credentials are generally the sort that I don't want to hang with.

I have a pretty decent guess of what OP's background is like, and I'm curious to see if I'm right in some of her follow up posts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Out of curiosity, what is it about a "Harvard husband" that does it for you, OP? Are you going to mention his credentials when you introduce him? Are you looking to bask in the reflective glow? My DH is went to one of the schools mentioned. But I'm just me. I still have an undergrad degree from a run-of-the-mill state school. And adult acne. People who would think better of me because of my husband's credentials are generally the sort that I don't want to hang with.

I have a pretty decent guess of what OP's background is like, and I'm curious to see if I'm right in some of her follow up posts.

Oooooh! 9:00 here. Now I'm curious about your guesses. Damn this anonymity when I just want you to whisper in my ear!

[Anonymous]

You can maybe land an older guy through one of those ads at the back of Harvard Magazine, that somebody mentioned. Are you ready to go for Harvard guy who is old. short, unattractive, awkward...? I don't see what is it that you are offering, so if yo want a Harvard husband you will need to do compromise somewhere else.

[Anonymous]

+100 on the MIT engineer route - they are much more open to new relationships, are decent, respectful, and are brilliant with huge earning potential. They do tend to be married to their careers, but are in need some arm candy for social functions. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

I married a Harvard grad. He found me. I didn't chase him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Out of curiosity, what is it about a "Harvard husband" that does it for you, OP? Are you going to mention his credentials when you introduce him? Are you looking to bask in the reflective glow? My DH is went to one of the schools mentioned. But I'm just me. I still have an undergrad degree from a run-of-the-mill state school. And adult acne. People who would think better of me because of my husband's credentials are generally the sort that I don't want to hang with.

I have a pretty decent guess of what OP's background is like, and I'm curious to see if I'm right in some of her follow up posts.

I know a few women like her, too. All were successful in getting the husband with the required credentials. Sadly, all are in miserable marriages.