Trying to get a Harvard husband in Boston

[Anonymous]

Aww that is really great. Good for you OP! I'm glad you got over your silly delusions about Harvard!

[Anonymous]

U can go to the queens head under annenbergs dining hall or the kong in Harvard square u can also try dating website . I think u have to pay like 30 bucks or so for that .

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with the advice about seeking out a nice MIT engineer.

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Or economics PhD candidate

[Anonymous]

Why do you want to marry a guy who is hundreds of thousands in debt???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP How are your BJ skills?

Like Chris Rock says, ANYONE can s*ck a d*ck. Seriously.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the advice about seeking out a nice MIT engineer.

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Or economics PhD candidate

NO, NO, NO on the MIT Engineer. I know three divorced ones. "Ain't NO coincidence!" They are EXTREMELY difficult to live with.

[Anonymous]

People in Boston generally like people from Boston. It is its own subculture. Unless you are really attached to Boston (you're not), then you are smart to look elsewhere. They might not tell you this to your face.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I wanted to update this thread to talk a little about me.

I think I'm a considerably happier person than I was a few months ago. I've had some help working through my insecurities (they're still there though - they have deep roots, but at least I'm in the process of mastering them) and just gaining insight into life and things. Bottom line is, I think the obsession with Harvard guys is stupid. I mean, I'd be lying if I said I'm 100% over it, but I'm definitely 99% over it.

I have been on some great dates over the past month and met amazing guys in Boston who didn't go to Harvard. I realize how silly it would be to measure them by that - they'd like, WTF? There's one man that I especially like and he's really smart and successful and cool and sweet and sexy, and went to a state university. I pretty much think about him way too much and I am so happy I didn't waste my time setting up a tent in Brattle Street, prowling for men in crimson sweaters. It would have been a huge waste of time and I'd have missed out on this great guy.

Anyway, update finished!

Yay! Proud of you OP.

[Anonymous]

Regarding the previous comment..."Why do you want to marry a guy who is hundreds of thousands in debt???"
That's not the Harvard that I know, Harvard has the best FinAid around, it's nearly impossible to graduate with any student loan debt. My son went there undergrad and is now in Harvard Business School. It's a great university - some crazy intense people but also lots of nice hard working people. How does one meet one?....not a clue. Maybe just walk around the campus (especially the Business School) with a big sign that says "I'm a nice girl who wants to meet a nice Harvard guy". It's corny and weird but I think it would work. HBS students appreciate innovative marketing.

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How do you meet Harvard grads in DC?

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Anonymous wrote:How do you meet Harvard grads in DC?

Turn a corner? I think they're just about everywhere in DC.

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Anonymous wrote:Regarding the previous comment..."Why do you want to marry a guy who is hundreds of thousands in debt???"
That's not the Harvard that I know, Harvard has the best FinAid around, it's nearly impossible to graduate with any student loan debt. My son went there undergrad and is now in Harvard Business School. It's a great university - some crazy intense people but also lots of nice hard working people. How does one meet one?....not a clue. Maybe just walk around the campus (especially the Business School) with a big sign that says "I'm a nice girl who wants to meet a nice Harvard guy". It's corny and weird but I think it would work. HBS students appreciate innovative marketing.

You do realize the OP changed her mind about this right? Jesus do people not read before they drag up dead threads?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm just trying to picture OP at a bar...

Talking to guy 1:
OP: So what do you do?
Guy1: I'm an investment banker
OP: Oh, where did you go to school?
Guy1: Northwestern undergrad and grad
OP: Oh, well it was nice to meet you

Talking to guy 2:
OP: So, what do you do?
Guy1: I'm a cardiac surgeon
OP: Where did you go to med school?
Guy1: Tufts
OP: Nice to meet you but I have to go

Talking to guy 3:
OP: And what do you do?
Guy3: I'm a lawyer
OP: What law school did you go to?
Guy3: BC Law
OP: Well I have to go.

OP here and I laughed out loud at this. I will freely admit that my quest for a crimson husband is a little absurd. But we are all absurd in some way.

Perhaps. But you are talking about a husband, which has much more serous consequences than being "absurd" about say music or food someone likes. I advise that you snap out of this ASAP. Finding a good man to marry is hard enough without imposing arbitrary limits. Btw, I have a Harvard degree, DH doesn't. We are in our 40s and nobody cares who went to what school. That's important only for early twenties crowd. You need to grow out of it, lest you end without any husband at all.

This is a great post. (I too am a Harvard alumna, age 35, non Harvard husband.)

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Anonymous wrote:Woman here who went to HBS. Do not marry one of them.

+100

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Anonymous wrote:^^^^ I'm also trying to say that you really may not want to be married to one of us. Bar exams, clerkships, being an associate in a demanding firm, trying for partner all takes its toll on a relationship. I imagine it is even worse for fledgling doctors.

This is why a lot of people hook up but eventually get serious/marry other people in their programs.