Trying to get a Harvard husband in Boston

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Anonymous wrote:I think you seem too impressed by Harvard. There is obviously SO much more to a person than where they went to school. FWIW, My uncle went to Harvard, and he happens to be dull, unmotivated, unsuccessful---my brother went to a bottom tier school, and is extremely worldly, hardworking, enterpernurial, successful. Like any university, there are all sorts of people. Harvard is no different. Harvard has there share of both, too

Yes, this. I grew up a stone's throw from Harvard and half my family went there. So what?

[Anonymous]

Hi OP. I am a a 27 year old female living in Boston. I can't speak on the general 'scene' in relation to Harvard guys - but I can tell you that there's always a ton of nice, professional, seemingly kind men to be found in the Back Bay area. That is of course if you can filter out the dicks and cocky douches- but that's anywhere in Boston. But you grow a good filter after going out a lot.
I am no longer single but my friends and I used to go out a lot in the BB and the South End and always found groups of nice guys there (vs. douchey fanueil hall bars).
I will say though, I work in Newton and there seems to be a lot of upscale, hip bars/restaurants and at my work I've met many Harvard guys that live in Newton.

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Anonymous wrote:This is just silly. Both my husband and I are Ivy league grads and I can tell you with confidence that neither of us set out to pursue the attention of a fellow "Ivy leaguer"...it just happened this way. I think by the very fact that you are so intent on this- it will not happen. Murphy's Law.

When you are not looking..then there might be a chance. But I can by the same token assure that any Harvard man worth his crimson sweatshirt can smell the lack of authenticity a mile away and it sounds like your are so in pursuit of this hunt that you might in the process lose a really great guy who might not have gone to Harvard. You are too busy looking up at the sky instead of smelling the flowers my dear.

Yep!

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Anonymous wrote:Hi OP. I am a a 27 year old female living in Boston. I can't speak on the general 'scene' in relation to Harvard guys - but I can tell you that there's always a ton of nice, professional, seemingly kind men to be found in the Back Bay area. That is of course if you can filter out the dicks and cocky douches- but that's anywhere in Boston. But you grow a good filter after going out a lot.
I am no longer single but my friends and I used to go out a lot in the BB and the South End and always found groups of nice guys there (vs. douchey fanueil hall bars).
I will say though, I work in Newton and there seems to be a lot of upscale, hip bars/restaurants and at my work I've met many Harvard guys that live in Newton.

Newton is BC land.

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Anonymous wrote:Ok, so I have listened to the advice in this thread with interest. I think there are truths in everything you are saying. I think I can approach this more light-heartedly than, "it MUST be a Harvard husband or nothing!" I just feel, I'm in Boston so what so I lose by giving it a shot? As some random woman once said, "you can fall in love with a rich man as easily as with a poor man."

I do think I have some unhealthy hang ups maybe. I think they just seem like a challenge

Unless you are specifically avoiding Harvard men, you already are giving it a chance. Just understand that it might not happen.

I had some of the Harvard hang up as well. I was admitted to Stanford and Harvard PhD programs and chose Harvard though it was not as good of a program. Now, I am cured . If you are so into Harvard, why don't you try to get in yourself.

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I ain't sayin's she's a gold digger....

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7:06, are you also implying she would not date an impecunious Negro?

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OP- what is it about a Harvard man that you are so fixated on? Just curious. Would a Yalie or Princeton man not make the cut?

Some people are geninely turned on by intelligence. If that's your deal...that's fine but you need to recognize that you are greatly limiting your chances by only looking for a Harvard guy. There are so many incredible places to find amazingly interesting and intelligent people. Or do you want the status of being able to say your bf, fiance or if you are really lucky your husband went to Harvard? Just curious.

I only ask because my husband is an Ivy League grad but I only found out after we had been dating about a month or so and frankly it had no bearing on my feelings for him so was just curious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP. I am a a 27 year old female living in Boston. I can't speak on the general 'scene' in relation to Harvard guys - but I can tell you that there's always a ton of nice, professional, seemingly kind men to be found in the Back Bay area. That is of course if you can filter out the dicks and cocky douches- but that's anywhere in Boston. But you grow a good filter after going out a lot.
I am no longer single but my friends and I used to go out a lot in the BB and the South End and always found groups of nice guys there (vs. douchey fanueil hall bars).
I will say though, I work in Newton and there seems to be a lot of upscale, hip bars/restaurants and at my work I've met many Harvard guys that live in Newton.

Newton is BC land.

so embarrassed that I am even replying to this, but we live in the Boston area now and I know several cute H drs. that live in Newton but I also know they are Jewish and only date other jews.

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@07:30 Negro?

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I want to marry a Navy or Marine aviator. Where do I meet them?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP. I am a a 27 year old female living in Boston. I can't speak on the general 'scene' in relation to Harvard guys - but I can tell you that there's always a ton of nice, professional, seemingly kind men to be found in the Back Bay area. That is of course if you can filter out the dicks and cocky douches- but that's anywhere in Boston. But you grow a good filter after going out a lot.
I am no longer single but my friends and I used to go out a lot in the BB and the South End and always found groups of nice guys there (vs. douchey fanueil hall bars).
I will say though, I work in Newton and there seems to be a lot of upscale, hip bars/restaurants and at my work I've met many Harvard guys that live in Newton.

Newton is BC land.

so embarrassed that I am even replying to this, but we live in the Boston area now and I know several cute H drs. that live in Newton but I also know they are Jewish and only date other jews.

Figures that the Harvard grads living among Jesuit mansions would be Jewish.

I was just kidding around. I'm a BC grad who has been reading this thread with great amusement. Chestnut Hill and Newton are heavily Boston College-populated, not just students but alumni. But we'll welcome those kids from across the river if they'll marry us. Um I mean what?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:@07:30 Negro?

If I'm getting the joke, PP @7:30 is making a Harvard-level joke about that great Golddigger song.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:@07:30 Negro?

If I'm getting the joke, PP @7:30 is making a Harvard-level joke about that great Golddigger song.

"She ain't dealin with no broke...broke..."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP- what is it about a Harvard man that you are so fixated on? Just curious. Would a Yalie or Princeton man not make the cut?

Some people are geninely turned on by intelligence. If that's your deal...that's fine but you need to recognize that you are greatly limiting your chances by only looking for a Harvard guy. There are so many incredible places to find amazingly interesting and intelligent people. Or do you want the status of being able to say your bf, fiance or if you are really lucky your husband went to Harvard? Just curious.

I only ask because my husband is an Ivy League grad but I only found out after we had been dating about a month or so and frankly it had no bearing on my feelings for him so was just curious.

I graduated from an Ivy League school, then backpacked internationally for 6 months. I met so many brilliant people who never went to college, I seriously wondered if all that money to college wouldn't have been better spent on a 4-year international trip. While that never would have worked for my parents, I never limited myself to dating college grads. I date smart, kind, interesting men. Married a great one, but a beloved ex (1st guy I ever really fell in love with) is now both an Oscar-winning and Emmy-winning artist. I'm so happy for him! Saw another ex yesterday at the March on Washington, herd someone call his name to ask for an autograph (he's a successful political strategist, but got there by taking on big bold social problems effectively, not through grad school nepotism).

When I think of all the awesome BFs I would have missed if I'd been so ridiculously narrow-minded as OP, it makes me stop and give thanks for learning early that there are complete stars who never finish school, and many complete assholes who are at the tops of their Ivy League classes. Degree doesn't tell you diddly about the content of a person's character.