Please share stupid things well-meaning parents of typically developing kids have said to you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know how you do it. I admire you.

So you think my kid is a burden and must be hell to raise?Aww thanks for your pity, but no thanks. My child is a gift and if you had child with the same challenges, you would rise to the occasion.

Awwwww, yeah.

That one makes me want to punch someone in the face.

I get this one too for having a child with severe food allergies to multiple foods.People have even said it to me in front of my child!
I always wonder if they would say the same thing to a parent of a child in a wheel chair or some other more "obvious" special need.
A-holes!
I also recently had someone ask loudly in front of my child if my (5yr old) child would die if they ate a kind of food. Talk about insensitivity!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"All this autism stuff is just a ploy by the government to get more kids on the federal gravy train." Oh really? Then why have I gotten zero help from the "government"? Stupid people.

It's not about the parents getting the money. Schools/school systems get fed dollars for every (diagnosed LD/SN kid on the role.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"All this autism stuff is just a ploy by the government to get more kids on the federal gravy train." Oh really? Then why have I gotten zero help from the "government"? Stupid people.

It's not about the parents getting the money. Schools/school systems get fed dollars for every (diagnosed LD/SN kid on the role.)

Whoa -- every child with a diagnosis is a child they fight tooth and nail to keep from providing accommodations. The school districts lose money when they do the right thing, which is why they try so hard not to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"All this autism stuff is just a ploy by the government to get more kids on the federal gravy train." Oh really? Then why have I gotten zero help from the "government"? Stupid people.

It's not about the parents getting the money. Schools/school systems get fed dollars for every (diagnosed LD/SN kid on the role.)

Whoa -- every child with a diagnosis is a child they fight tooth and nail to keep from providing accommodations. The school districts lose money when they do the right thing, which is why they try so hard not to.

It really depends on the state. Some states offer more money for an ASD educational label, so kids are funneled into that wherever possible, instead of another category that might be more appropriate. That's happened to my family personally, and several other families I know.

[Anonymous]

Our experience has been that the district wanted to avoid helping my LD/ADHD kid because he wasn't failing his classes. We had to put a ton of money into OT and testing before the school did anything.

[Anonymous]

When he DOES start talking he will be talking in full sentences. Also, when he does start talking you'll miss the days of peace and quiet you had. Um...don't think so. When I finally hear my son speak for the first time I don't think I'm going to hope he would then shut up.

[Anonymous]

PP. I hear you. I will be VERY happy to hear my child yammering (if and when that happens) after years of driving him around in silence...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know how you do it. I admire you.

So you think my kid is a burden and must be hell to raise?Aww thanks for your pity, but no thanks. My child is a gift and if you had child with the same challenges, you would rise to the occasion.

Awwwww, yeah.

That one makes me want to punch someone in the face.

I don't know, I think it is worth cutting people slack when they say "I don't know how you do it." They generally mean it as expressing empathy about the fact that it is hard to have a kid with special needs--which it is!, complimenting you on doing a good job, and saying truthfully that they don't know what it would be like or how they would handle it.

(Of course, my son with SN is only 2 so I of course reserve the right to change my mind and start to get more pissed off about hearing this after I've been at it for longer.)

[Anonymous]

From my mother (who has no SN training/qualifications):

"Just give me a week with DD, I will talk to her and focus on her, and when she comes home, her delays will be gone!"

Apparently we caused her disabilities by not talking to her or working with her..... . It must be nice to live in a world where it is just that simple....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"All this autism stuff is just a ploy by the government to get more kids on the federal gravy train." Oh really? Then why have I gotten zero help from the "government"? Stupid people.

It's not about the parents getting the money. Schools/school systems get fed dollars for every (diagnosed LD/SN kid on the role.)

Whoa -- every child with a diagnosis is a child they fight tooth and nail to keep from providing accommodations. The school districts lose money when they do the right thing, which is why they try so hard not to.

Bingo.

[Anonymous]

"You're just looking for a problem".

No, my kid doesn't want to eat food. It's been that way since birth. I'm pretty sure there's a reason and that it won't just magically go away as he becomes even more stubborn and opinionated. And no, I'm not doing more 'procedures' for the 'fun' of looking for a problem.

[Anonymous]

After hearing about my rough birth and NICU stay/growth issues with ds, random new mom at a baby shower says: "wow, all I wanted was a healthy baby. I'm so lucky".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know how you do it. I admire you.

So you think my kid is a burden and must be hell to raise?Aww thanks for your pity, but no thanks. My child is a gift and if you had child with the same challenges, you would rise to the occasion.

Awwwww, yeah.

That one makes me want to punch someone in the face.

I get this one too for having a child with severe food allergies to multiple foods.People have even said it to me in front of my child!
I always wonder if they would say the same thing to a parent of a child in a wheel chair or some other more "obvious" special need.
A-holes!
I also recently had someone ask loudly in front of my child if my (5yr old) child would die if they ate a kind of food. Talk about insensitivity!

WHOA. This is perhaps the third or fourth time I have read on this forum that life is somehow magically easier if your child is severely disabled and in a wheelchair -- that people are so nice to you; that no one says anything nasty; that no one makes intrusive comments; that insurance and IEPS are easier. Why do people believe SHIT like this????? Do you really want to trade places, for even ONE DAY?

[Anonymous]

In front of my 4 year old foster daughter people are always asking,

"What's wrong with her mother? Is she going to be staying with you guys forever??"

IN FRONT OF A 4 YEAR OLD WHO THEY KNOW TO BE IN FOSTER CARE.

Morons.

[Anonymous]

Ohhh he's going to be fine. He'll be a sweet nerd who will get an engineering degree and find a nice wife who thinks he's great.

(My child has HFA). If/when this doesn't come true may I take your crystal ball and shove it up your....? Way to make a child's daily struggles into something trivial and minor.