"Post Secrets" type thread

[Anonymous]

9:33 - I'm a straight woman with no desire to hook up with women, but I have fantasies about women too. I think there's something about it being something I've never done that makes it hot. I can't fantasize about sex with someone I'm currently sleeping with regularly, it has to be someone I've never slept with or haven't slept with recently. (like an ex.) So maybe your chick fantasies are because it's foreign/different for you? either way, roll with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:14:54 again, I am not looking at the list but when I hear small women's college in VA I think Sweet Briar.

Off the top of my head - Mary Baldwin, Randolph-Macon Woman's College, Marymount, Hollins. There were a bunch at one time. Also U of Mary Washington was once a woman's school but probably before the pp's time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a guy and I definitely saw this happen with my friends who were women.

I also only rinse out my coffee thermos and coffee pot.

If only I held out for you. DH would be mortified to learn the truth.

[Anonymous]

Lesbian porn totally turns me on. Actually anything lesbian turns me on. Kissing, sex, oral, ANYTHING! I've always been way too chicken to pursue it and don't even think I could hook up with a girl because I don't think I could reciprocate oral. My dirty little habit has probably gotten worse since getting married because DH is horrible in bed. So I go to my porn stash and handle things when he's not home. Best husband and father I know and I love him tremendously. He is, by far, the best thing, besides DS, that's ever happened to me. But sometimes I do fantasize about getting it on with a lesbian stranger for one night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lesbian porn totally turns me on. Actually anything lesbian turns me on. Kissing, sex, oral, ANYTHING! I've always been way too chicken to pursue it and don't even think I could hook up with a girl because I don't think I could reciprocate oral. My dirty little habit has probably gotten worse since getting married because DH is horrible in bed. So I go to my porn stash and handle things when he's not home. Best husband and father I know and I love him tremendously. He is, by far, the best thing, besides DS, that's ever happened to me. But sometimes I do fantasize about getting it on with a lesbian stranger for one night.

I could have written this. I will only look at lesbian porn, but I am straight. DH is a wonderful man and father, but hasn't given me an orgasm for over a year.

[Anonymous]

+1

[Anonymous]

When my husband is in the yard picking up dog poop, I sometimes pretend like I am squishing his head with my finger and thumb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my husband is in the yard picking up dog poop, I sometimes pretend like I am squishing his head with my finger and thumb.

LOL. You sound like you need a vacation.

[Anonymous]

I used to do sexual work via City Paper listings to pay my way through my last year of collge and law school.
It started out in college as modelling and then it seemed like every gig was some guy in a home studio who eventually asked me to remove a piece of clothing. I don't know why but I never said no. So I would do a topless shot and then eventually I'd do a full nude. Sometimes it was just photos but on two of the occasions once nude the guys (both like 40-50+) would start fingering me or doing oral on me....again I felt uncomfortable but didn't know how to say no. Who knows where those photos are but thank goodness it was before the internet really took off and camera phones and video etc. Let's just say neither I nor my husband should run for public office or they may resurface lol.
Once that had happened, it was easy to transition to nude massage with a happy ending. Once I answered an ad to join a bunch of other college aged girls in the area that had an operation doing this. I remember going to a very fancy apartment around the Embassy area of DC and the apartment had massage tables set up in all the rooms. I was "interviewed" and waiting in the living room with several girls sitting waiting for clients. This was my first day. While I was still waiting, whoever had just serviced the last customer must have gotten busted by an undercover but all I remember is everyone running out of there and someone said the client was a cop. Scared me to death, but I didn't stop.
I started doing my own City Paper ads for nude massage. I did this in the steam room of my apartment building. Actually very few clients pressed for more than that. Most were married men and older. Some Indian, White, Black....most were Indian or White. At one point I answered an ad to do this through an "agency". The guy invited me to his place to interview me. I had to audition by stripping and masturbating in front of him and he wanted me to do this to prove I was not a cop. Once I started doing that I did get turned on and he asked could he give me oral, I said yes. It was awesome and next thing I know we are on a massage table getting it in. It was my first interracial sexual intercourse experience. Well I was 'accepted' into the agency lol. The first gig was my usual strip then massage nude and happy ending....but right before the guy was to arrive the agent called me and asked if I would be willing to go all the way. I had never done that before for money but the extra money he mentioned was more than I had ever seen so I said yes. The guy arrived and it was an older hairy fat white guy. I did my usual routine and then he asked about going further and had heard this was going to be my first time doing that (which I think turned him on more). We did. I quit the agency afterwards and felt bad about it.
Prior to that I had answered another ad for an agent and I ended up never working with him because something just never sat right with me about the guy and it really seemed like he was trying to turn me out and become my pimp. He was all in my head and trying to use some kind of psychology on me or something. I never answered his calls again.
I placed more City Paper ads and also online posts and agreed to an overnight with a white male at a DC hotel. He wanted the girlfriend experience. We cuddled. We did everything else and slept and woke up in the morning and did it again and showered together and had breakfast before I left.
One ad I answered was for a guy that liked to tickle. Older white guy lived near Vienna Metro. I would go over and get undressed and he had a machine I could ride that had a dildo on it and he could control the vibration with a remote. It was awesome. Then he had all kinds of things that he would tickle me with. Feathers, ice cubes, fingers, etc. That was it...no oral or sex. Great pay. I was a regular with him once a week until I decided to stop.
I also had an older diabetic black guy for a regular client. He could not get an erection so he just liked to watch me strip and touch me.
I graduated from law school and have not done anything like that since. I paid my way through school with the funds I made in addition to some need based grants I had.
I do remember back to some of these scenarios and masturbate to the thought of them. I look at my life now and no one would ever believe I did anything like this. I am a very successful attorney, mom, wife...the basic suburbia life. Looking back I can admit that as a survivor of sexual abuse from my father that probably made it easier for me to do what I did. I learned as a child how to separate my spirit from my body. I always looked older than my age and developed faster than normal and had a figure that stopped traffic from 10 yrs old on. I got used to men looking at me sexually and I imagine in a way it made me feel powerful to take control (or so I thought) of that sexuality. I’m just grateful that I never experienced violence and came out of this disease free. It does make me look differently at men though…I see these upstanding citizens and professional men around here and at work and wonder how many are johns as most all of the clients I saw fit that mold.

[Anonymous]

Wow. I Also am madly in love with my husband but he isn't that great in bed. I dream of hot sex with other people but would never act on it... I have never had mind blowing sex.

[Anonymous]

I hate my marriage and we are in the middle of TTC just started seeing an RE. Just had a blow out argument last night...the same recurring one. He is a slob, doesn't do much around the house and I eventually complain and he screams back about what I do not do. He spends most of his time watching sports, playing video and online games and hanging with friends. We have a 2 yr old and both work full time, I am the primary breadwinner. I can't do it all and resent when I see him chilling out while I pick up after him, the toddler, the pets, fix things, make all arrangements, get groceries, do all the cooking, laundry except his clothes, etc. His room looks like a scene out of hoarders. I just took 4 missing sippy cups out of his room that are growing mold. Stuff is all over the floor, piles of clothes, the baby can barely walk in there and he can sit in that chaos/filth and play playstation and watch ESPN. He never washes dishes or cleans until I nag him at least 10 times and start an argument over it. I say we need date nights to have fun together again and we never go anywhere together. He just went to go see a movie the other night by himself. He leave dirty diapers on the floor in our childs room. I complain about any of this and he'll find something to through back that I have not done which is not surprising since I am overwhelmed and can't keep up with everything. Or I'll name a laundry list of things I have done that week (while he cant name anything) and he denies I did any of it. If he doesnt see me doing it I didnt do it. But somehow the house miraculously stays relatively clean. W argue he will do better for a couple of weeks and then back to normal. If I mention it new argument. I refuse to just do it all and not complain to avoid arguments. I do not like the baby seeing us scream at each other as inevitably happens when I complain. Things were great until we moved in together a year prior to marrying...as soon as I saw how little he did around the house the fighting started to the point I almost called it off a few weeks before the wedding. Living together showed me things I had no idea about which are still a problem to this day. He takes no accountability for any of it. I want to split but now we have a baby and I do want another one. I am miserable in this relationship. Also planning to buy a nicer home in a better neighborhood to raise or child but I kind of dont want to buy a house with him. I would be putting all the money down for it and paying the majority of the mortgage. I would be taking care of the home and maintenance mostly myself....so I feel like why buy a nice place that he will just destroy. He yells at me saying I am a bougie b---- that thinks I am better than him and I yell back he is a dumb ghetto assh---. Sigh.

[Anonymous]

PP^^^ Why are you still with this guy and even more importantly, why are you TTC another child with him?

[Anonymous]

For all of you who want to get it on with a woman, I will say that the sex is great- no doubt, but we still argue over the proper way to load a dishwasher and all of those other domestic woes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate my marriage and we are in the middle of TTC just started seeing an RE. Just had a blow out argument last night...the same recurring one. He is a slob, doesn't do much around the house and I eventually complain and he screams back about what I do not do. He spends most of his time watching sports, playing video and online games and hanging with friends. We have a 2 yr old and both work full time, I am the primary breadwinner. I can't do it all and resent when I see him chilling out while I pick up after him, the toddler, the pets, fix things, make all arrangements, get groceries, do all the cooking, laundry except his clothes, etc. His room looks like a scene out of hoarders. I just took 4 missing sippy cups out of his room that are growing mold. Stuff is all over the floor, piles of clothes, the baby can barely walk in there and he can sit in that chaos/filth and play playstation and watch ESPN. He never washes dishes or cleans until I nag him at least 10 times and start an argument over it. I say we need date nights to have fun together again and we never go anywhere together. He just went to go see a movie the other night by himself. He leave dirty diapers on the floor in our childs room. I complain about any of this and he'll find something to through back that I have not done which is not surprising since I am overwhelmed and can't keep up with everything. Or I'll name a laundry list of things I have done that week (while he cant name anything) and he denies I did any of it. If he doesnt see me doing it I didnt do it. But somehow the house miraculously stays relatively clean. W argue he will do better for a couple of weeks and then back to normal. If I mention it new argument. I refuse to just do it all and not complain to avoid arguments. I do not like the baby seeing us scream at each other as inevitably happens when I complain. Things were great until we moved in together a year prior to marrying...as soon as I saw how little he did around the house the fighting started to the point I almost called it off a few weeks before the wedding. Living together showed me things I had no idea about which are still a problem to this day. He takes no accountability for any of it. I want to split but now we have a baby and I do want another one. I am miserable in this relationship. Also planning to buy a nicer home in a better neighborhood to raise or child but I kind of dont want to buy a house with him. I would be putting all the money down for it and paying the majority of the mortgage. I would be taking care of the home and maintenance mostly myself....so I feel like why buy a nice place that he will just destroy. He yells at me saying I am a bougie b---- that thinks I am better than him and I yell back he is a dumb ghetto assh---. Sigh.

Compare the bold versus every other word in the post. Something wrong with this picture.

[Anonymous]

8:04, omg this sounds miserable, I am so sorry you are going through this. Is there any way you guys could sit down and talk about your very valid feelings without it turning into an argument and him getting defensive and telling you those nasty things? If so I would sit down, calmly discuss and ask if there was a way we could come up with some arrangement so all the burden of his mess etc isn't put on you. I know this was an issue in our house, the opposite way actually DH is anal and I am more lax about the mess. I am not filthy like things you have mentioned about your DH but I hate picking up toys etc. Our solution was that we hired, and I pay for from my PT job a cleaning lady every week. I honestly think it's taken HUGE stress off our marriage and everyone is happy again, he gets his clean house and I am not the one having to do it.

Does this seem like something DH might go for, the $400 a month is so worth it for us. There are times when we go down to every other week and even that makes a huge difference.