"Post Secrets" type thread

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my husband is in the yard picking up dog poop, I sometimes pretend like I am squishing his head with my finger and thumb.

Ohhhh lordy. That made me laugh so hard I snorted. (Reminds me of this: "I'm crushing your head!" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bf_o_ynRRl8 )

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:SAHD here. I am wondering how/why I got myself into this scenario. I love my kids to death but my wife and I are more like roommates. We only talk about the kids, we NEVER have sex. I look around and it seems that everyone else is living the perfect life. I just want to feel close to someone again.

You could be my husband, except we both work. He finally talked to me about it. We are in marriage counseling. Please talk to your wife - I wish my husband had done it sooner. In our case by the time I finally started in my own way to initiate sex it was too late for him, a lot of damage had been done, and now we are hoping to untangle our mess. Don't wait any longer - tell your wife!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:SAHD here. I am wondering how/why I got myself into this scenario. I love my kids to death but my wife and I are more like roommates. We only talk about the kids, we NEVER have sex. I look around and it seems that everyone else is living the perfect life. I just want to feel close to someone again.

You could be my husband, except we both work. He finally talked to me about it. We are in marriage counseling. Please talk to your wife - I wish my husband had done it sooner. In our case by the time I finally started in my own way to initiate sex it was too late for him, a lot of damage had been done, and now we are hoping to untangle our mess. Don't wait any longer - tell your wife!

I know you are right but as with everything, it's way more complicated than it should be. It's been like this for a couple of years now and I feel like I missed my window to bring it up in earnest. I have brought it up casually in the past to no avail. She has been going through some emotional and physical difficulties over the past year so I haven't wanted to "pile on". We are extremely fortunate and have two healthy and happy kids so I feel like a real jerk to complain about intimacy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I still wonder if my high school sweetheart was really the one.

Me too!

[Anonymous]

I sometimes post repeatedly on threads; I will post things in support of my posts, or I assume different personalities, POV attitudes, etc. in posts to make it look as though lots of people have chimed in. I'm willing to bet a lot of you do this, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I sometimes post repeatedly on threads; I will post things in support of my posts, or I assume different personalities, POV attitudes, etc. in posts to make it look as though lots of people have chimed in. I'm willing to bet a lot of you do this, too.

Then this whole thread could be one person who has lots of time on their hands? Very interesting!

[Anonymous]

I remember being a kid and going with my best friend's mom while she sold her body for drugs. My friend and I waited outside of the apartment playing just like all kids do. I remember having rats and roaches at both our homes but we were never scared. My mom put me in a good school and it was my way out. I can't relate to drugs and gangs so I stay away but inside I miss them so much and want them to see that there's more out here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:When I was in grad school in London and my bf from school and I were sleeping in her flat in her queen sized bed. It was the wee hours of the morning, as I remember. We had had some drinks earlier but weren't "drunk". I felt my bf's hand gently circling and stroking my nipple for about 5 minutes. I continued to pretend to be asleep. She stopped and then appeared to masturbate next to me for several minutes. She climaxxed and went to sleep. We never spoke of it. I was scheduled to move to my own flat the next day. When we were back in America she was distant and weird and seemed to look for a reason to end the friendship. We had been really close friends since 10th grade and all through her time at a small women's college in VA college. The friendship ended bitterly after 12 years. (I was unable to attend her wedding, she couldn't let it go). She went on to be a member of the joint chiefs of staff for a Republican president. Only she would recognize herself in this story because I have never personally told a living soul these details.

It doesn't matter who she is married to --she is gay. This was her way of trying to change your relationship to a sexual one. There was nothing you could have done to save the friendship. Funnily enough, your secret is my fantasy. I was approached several times by women I did not know and rejected them. But in this scenario I surely would have taken the plunge.

This is a weird post. There has never been a female member of the joint chiefs of staff. Perhaps OP means something else. But she also seems to want to out this person with references to her job and where she was educated. (Why else give detail like "small women's college in VA"?)

I thought the same thing and I went to a "small women's college in VA" and can not think of anyone from my school or the others who was in a recent Republican administration (would have to be Bush II, right?).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I think I may be overly concerned about race. I feel awkward in a room where I am the only minority in it. I notice when I am the only person of my race in a restaurant or boutique or room and wonder if people will not be friendly to me or want to talk to me. I cry at night over this. Do people really notice these things?

Hm. I think the crying at night thing indicates you may have a problem and may want to seek therapy.

The other stuff I think is normal.

[Anonymous]

I screwed up, an honest error but I think it's going to fry me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I screwed up, an honest error but I think it's going to fry me.

Uh oh! Work or home? I assume work but you never know. Good luck!