"Post Secrets" type thread

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:8:04, omg this sounds miserable, I am so sorry you are going through this. Is there any way you guys could sit down and talk about your very valid feelings without it turning into an argument and him getting defensive and telling you those nasty things? If so I would sit down, calmly discuss and ask if there was a way we could come up with some arrangement so all the burden of his mess etc isn't put on you. I know this was an issue in our house, the opposite way actually DH is anal and I am more lax about the mess. I am not filthy like things you have mentioned about your DH but I hate picking up toys etc. Our solution was that we hired, and I pay for from my PT job a cleaning lady every week. I honestly think it's taken HUGE stress off our marriage and everyone is happy again, he gets his clean house and I am not the one having to do it.

Does this seem like something DH might go for, the $400 a month is so worth it for us. There are times when we go down to every other week and even that makes a huge difference.

We have a cleaning service but just use it once a month for heavy cleaning and sitter cleans living room, kitchen and family room daily. Maybe we should use a mote regular service but had agreed to once a month while saving towards next house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP^^^ Why are you still with this guy and even more importantly, why are you TTC another child with him?

I know I know, married less than five years hoping things would improve e. Thought we could fix it in lieu of jumping to divorce. Based on what I saw while engaged and livintgether I probably would have ended it or had a long engagemen but I was late 30s with a ticking clock. Now 41.

[Anonymous]

I personally would go with the cleaning service, it might take you a few extra months to save to move but personally I think it's worth it. You might feel less aggravated with him if the house was clean and you didn't have to do it yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my husband is in the yard picking up dog poop, I sometimes pretend like I am squishing his head with my finger and thumb.

I have no idea why, but I just laughed my ass off at this. Struck me as soooo funny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For all of you who want to get it on with a woman, I will say that the sex is great- no doubt, but we still argue over the proper way to load a dishwasher and all of those other domestic woes.

I just want hot sex with another woman, but not to live with her......

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my husband is in the yard picking up dog poop, I sometimes pretend like I am squishing his head with my finger and thumb.

I have no idea why, but I just laughed my ass off at this. Struck me as soooo funny.

Same here.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I eat my infant's earwax.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I had to choose between the kids and my dog, I'd choose my dog.

+1. i love my dog so much.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I think I may be overly concerned about race. I feel awkward in a room where I am the only minority in it. I notice when I am the only person of my race in a restaurant or boutique or room and wonder if people will not be friendly to me or want to talk to me. I cry at night over this. Do people really notice these things?

[Anonymous]

I never notice race in those cases, if that helps!

[Anonymous]

ugh, I thought this was supposed to be a thread where you unburden and that's it. Nope, just another way for this forum to dig for dirt and judge you for it. Stupid.

[Anonymous]

SAHD here. I am wondering how/why I got myself into this scenario. I love my kids to death but my wife and I are more like roommates. We only talk about the kids, we NEVER have sex. I look around and it seems that everyone else is living the perfect life. I just want to feel close to someone again.

[Anonymous]

I had an affair last year. I feel horrible about it.

[Anonymous]

One word: bestiality

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One word: bestiality

Poor animal. That's gross and terrible. ASPCA should come get you!