Why don't people reciprocate socially these days?

[Anonymous]

The key is you're not accepting the invitations to dinner, then refusing to reciprocate. One family in our neighborhood doesn't like throwing birthday parties for her kids, but gee, has no problem accepting every invite. WTF? How rude do you get?

[Anonymous]

If u do not like to reciprocate do not go when u r invited. Its simple! I have a friend that never has anything but shows up at everybody's events. I am like the OP, I will feed and intertain you until I realize that u r a user. We will still be friends but u will be off the list.

[Anonymous]

Off the invite list.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven't read through this but op, is it possible you talk about TTC too much?

Ditto.

[Anonymous]

has anyone ever considered actually mentioning what there capacity to reciprocate is? Rather then just hoping they will figure it out by disappearing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I could have written your post. I try really hard not to take it personally, but at a certain point (after, say, two unreciprocated invitations), I stop.

I'm sorry we don't know each other in real life -- I'd invite you over!

+ 1. I feel that I am always inviting people and while they will come for dinner...they are not having any kind of get together at their place. If we get called for first by someone ...if I don't reciprocate soon, (in a couple months) - I started feeling very uncomfortable about it. It just does not sit right with us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For me personally, Sense of humor plays a big role in my screening of new friends. I mean, you just gotta be laid back and expose the inner child in you sometimes. I drink, I curse, I'm sarcastic and don't take myself too seriously. I am all girly and tomboyish at the same time. Love my make-up, pretty clothes and shoes but also lift some serious weights at the gym, rough it out camping and thorougly enjoy physically adventurous activities. In addition to this, I have a family, a home, I'm responsible, have a great job, make a decent income and conduct myself like an adult appropriately.

I don't often meet many people I can relate to on this level and this ofcourse means fewer friends but what are ya going to do?

Me, me, me, I, I , I.

You are exhausting.

[Anonymous]

It's almost better not getting involved on the fist place. Truthfully propel are too busy and/ or one of the spouse is not into it. Better to just have coffee with the mom alone versus a family thing if you can maneuver that. My husband doesn't socialize.

[Anonymous]

Costs money to have people over and go out. People want to be sure they like you before they commit to you.

[Anonymous]

It's been 3 years since OP started this thread so let's hope she has figured things out or she has found some friends who do like to reciprocate socially...