Is frugality in a high-earning woman a green flag or a red flag?

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Anonymous wrote:Tipping culture is BS, but I regularly tip 20% at restaurants and personal care services (hair, nails, etc.)

I’m deeply concerned about the no donating. Unless she’s paying down massive debt, the fact that she has so little altruism for her fellow mankind is troubling.

STFU. Charity begins at home. Maybe she is helping out family, or maybe she believes that everyone should become capable on their own.

This is why the country is in freefall

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she didn't grow up in the hood where you have to flash your stash constantly for social credit.

Trump grew up in the 'hood? Is that the reason for the tacky gold stuff and the gold toilet?

[Anonymous]

This woukd annoy me, but honestly I wish I had her discipline. People in my family have oissed away wealth without a thought. Now they are poor. Spend ing dis line and lack of work ethic were the problems.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m talking about someone who is a lawyer and makes very good money, but:

* never tips or donates
* almost never eats out, and if she does it’s always the cheapest place or the cheapest thing on the menu
* avoids things like concerts, sporting events, festivals, shows, spas, etc. because she it’s as a waste of money
* doesn’t spend money on entertainment, events, gifts, Ubers, clothes, etc.
* hates paying for convenience (delivery fees, checked bags, valet, subscriptions, etc.)
* travels a few times a year but always very cheaply (budget airlines/basic hotels/red-eyes/points deals)
* researches everything and buys the cheapest/highest-quality version of literally everything from toothpaste to furniture
* can’t fathom spending $200 on a dress or $2000 on coat

Would men see this as financially responsible and disciplined, or as overly cheap/miserly? Especially in dating, does this kind of mindset help or hurt?

Provided she's otherwise kind and beautiful, the only thing that would bother me is the not tipping. Treating people poorly in the service world - whether restaurants or retail or whatever - is an immediate out. Don't care for such people. The entitlement, the casual cruelty, etc... no thanks. But otherwise have no problem with being cheap as long as they have joy and happiness in their lives and aren't stewing in misery and denial.

Spoiler: she’s not.

Women here are so odd/bitter.. I don’t know if it’s the ultra liberal feminist DC culture or just delusion, but some of you sound insane.
‘Yes, a frugal low maintenance girl can still be hot and beautiful. Just because you spend thousands at the hair salon and on appearances and think that’s why men choose you doesn’t mean you’re right. Beauty isn’t created at the salon, it’s natural.

Same thing with SAHMs and career women. Just because you’re smart and have a career doesn’t mean women who aren’t career oriented or super ambitious can’t land a guy.
A lot of you lie to yourselves to protect your ego and make yourselves feel better about your own choices.

Beauty nowadays is an assets that’s 99% created in salon and a gym.

If that’s the case, they weren’t beautiful to begin with. I know tons of women who are naturally beautiful without going to the salon.

lol, fool, most men are too clueless to know the difference.

I’m a man and not clueless as to whether someone has nails or makeup on and most men aren’t. Men prefer natural women, get over it.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m talking about someone who is a lawyer and makes very good money, but:

* never tips or donates
* almost never eats out, and if she does it’s always the cheapest place or the cheapest thing on the menu
* avoids things like concerts, sporting events, festivals, shows, spas, etc. because she it’s as a waste of money
* doesn’t spend money on entertainment, events, gifts, Ubers, clothes, etc.
* hates paying for convenience (delivery fees, checked bags, valet, subscriptions, etc.)
* travels a few times a year but always very cheaply (budget airlines/basic hotels/red-eyes/points deals)
* researches everything and buys the cheapest/highest-quality version of literally everything from toothpaste to furniture
* can’t fathom spending $200 on a dress or $2000 on coat

Would men see this as financially responsible and disciplined, or as overly cheap/miserly? Especially in dating, does this kind of mindset help or hurt?

Provided she's otherwise kind and beautiful, the only thing that would bother me is the not tipping. Treating people poorly in the service world - whether restaurants or retail or whatever - is an immediate out. Don't care for such people. The entitlement, the casual cruelty, etc... no thanks. But otherwise have no problem with being cheap as long as they have joy and happiness in their lives and aren't stewing in misery and denial.

Spoiler: she’s not.

Women here are so odd/bitter.. I don’t know if it’s the ultra liberal feminist DC culture or just delusion, but some of you sound insane.
‘Yes, a frugal low maintenance girl can still be hot and beautiful. Just because you spend thousands at the hair salon and on appearances and think that’s why men choose you doesn’t mean you’re right. Beauty isn’t created at the salon, it’s natural.

Same thing with SAHMs and career women. Just because you’re smart and have a career doesn’t mean women who aren’t career oriented or super ambitious can’t land a guy.
A lot of you lie to yourselves to protect your ego and make yourselves feel better about your own choices.

Beauty nowadays is an assets that’s 99% created in salon and a gym.

If that’s the case, they weren’t beautiful to begin with. I know tons of women who are naturally beautiful without going to the salon.

How old are they?

20s, 30s, 40s.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m talking about someone who is a lawyer and makes very good money, but:

* never tips or donates
* almost never eats out, and if she does it’s always the cheapest place or the cheapest thing on the menu
* avoids things like concerts, sporting events, festivals, shows, spas, etc. because she it’s as a waste of money
* doesn’t spend money on entertainment, events, gifts, Ubers, clothes, etc.
* hates paying for convenience (delivery fees, checked bags, valet, subscriptions, etc.)
* travels a few times a year but always very cheaply (budget airlines/basic hotels/red-eyes/points deals)
* researches everything and buys the cheapest/highest-quality version of literally everything from toothpaste to furniture
* can’t fathom spending $200 on a dress or $2000 on coat

Would men see this as financially responsible and disciplined, or as overly cheap/miserly? Especially in dating, does this kind of mindset help or hurt?

Provided she's otherwise kind and beautiful, the only thing that would bother me is the not tipping. Treating people poorly in the service world - whether restaurants or retail or whatever - is an immediate out. Don't care for such people. The entitlement, the casual cruelty, etc... no thanks. But otherwise have no problem with being cheap as long as they have joy and happiness in their lives and aren't stewing in misery and denial.

Spoiler: she’s not.

Women here are so odd/bitter.. I don’t know if it’s the ultra liberal feminist DC culture or just delusion, but some of you sound insane.
‘Yes, a frugal low maintenance girl can still be hot and beautiful. Just because you spend thousands at the hair salon and on appearances and think that’s why men choose you doesn’t mean you’re right. Beauty isn’t created at the salon, it’s natural.

Same thing with SAHMs and career women. Just because you’re smart and have a career doesn’t mean women who aren’t career oriented or super ambitious can’t land a guy.
A lot of you lie to yourselves to protect your ego and make yourselves feel better about your own choices.

Beauty nowadays is an assets that’s 99% created in salon and a gym.

That’s because most people are actually ugly. Actual beautiful people are a very small part of the population.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m talking about someone who is a lawyer and makes very good money, but:

* never tips or donates
* almost never eats out, and if she does it’s always the cheapest place or the cheapest thing on the menu
* avoids things like concerts, sporting events, festivals, shows, spas, etc. because she it’s as a waste of money
* doesn’t spend money on entertainment, events, gifts, Ubers, clothes, etc.
* hates paying for convenience (delivery fees, checked bags, valet, subscriptions, etc.)
* travels a few times a year but always very cheaply (budget airlines/basic hotels/red-eyes/points deals)
* researches everything and buys the cheapest/highest-quality version of literally everything from toothpaste to furniture
* can’t fathom spending $200 on a dress or $2000 on coat

Would men see this as financially responsible and disciplined, or as overly cheap/miserly? Especially in dating, does this kind of mindset help or hurt?

Provided she's otherwise kind and beautiful, the only thing that would bother me is the not tipping. Treating people poorly in the service world - whether restaurants or retail or whatever - is an immediate out. Don't care for such people. The entitlement, the casual cruelty, etc... no thanks. But otherwise have no problem with being cheap as long as they have joy and happiness in their lives and aren't stewing in misery and denial.

Spoiler: she’s not.

Women here are so odd/bitter.. I don’t know if it’s the ultra liberal feminist DC culture or just delusion, but some of you sound insane.
‘Yes, a frugal low maintenance girl can still be hot and beautiful. Just because you spend thousands at the hair salon and on appearances and think that’s why men choose you doesn’t mean you’re right. Beauty isn’t created at the salon, it’s natural.

Same thing with SAHMs and career women. Just because you’re smart and have a career doesn’t mean women who aren’t career oriented or super ambitious can’t land a guy.
A lot of you lie to yourselves to protect your ego and make yourselves feel better about your own choices.

The post said KIND and beautiful. Funny how you latched onto just the beautiful part.

I guarantee a person this cheap and controlling about money is NOT a kind person.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m talking about someone who is a lawyer and makes very good money, but:

* never tips or donates
* almost never eats out, and if she does it’s always the cheapest place or the cheapest thing on the menu
* avoids things like concerts, sporting events, festivals, shows, spas, etc. because she it’s as a waste of money
* doesn’t spend money on entertainment, events, gifts, Ubers, clothes, etc.
* hates paying for convenience (delivery fees, checked bags, valet, subscriptions, etc.)
* travels a few times a year but always very cheaply (budget airlines/basic hotels/red-eyes/points deals)
* researches everything and buys the cheapest/highest-quality version of literally everything from toothpaste to furniture
* can’t fathom spending $200 on a dress or $2000 on coat

Would men see this as financially responsible and disciplined, or as overly cheap/miserly? Especially in dating, does this kind of mindset help or hurt?

Provided she's otherwise kind and beautiful, the only thing that would bother me is the not tipping. Treating people poorly in the service world - whether restaurants or retail or whatever - is an immediate out. Don't care for such people. The entitlement, the casual cruelty, etc... no thanks. But otherwise have no problem with being cheap as long as they have joy and happiness in their lives and aren't stewing in misery and denial.

Spoiler: she’s not.

Women here are so odd/bitter.. I don’t know if it’s the ultra liberal feminist DC culture or just delusion, but some of you sound insane.
‘Yes, a frugal low maintenance girl can still be hot and beautiful. Just because you spend thousands at the hair salon and on appearances and think that’s why men choose you doesn’t mean you’re right. Beauty isn’t created at the salon, it’s natural.

Same thing with SAHMs and career women. Just because you’re smart and have a career doesn’t mean women who aren’t career oriented or super ambitious can’t land a guy.
A lot of you lie to yourselves to protect your ego and make yourselves feel better about your own choices.

Beauty nowadays is an assets that’s 99% created in salon and a gym.

If that’s the case, they weren’t beautiful to begin with. I know tons of women who are naturally beautiful without going to the salon.

lol, fool, most men are too clueless to know the difference.

I’m a man and not clueless as to whether someone has nails or makeup on and most men aren’t. Men prefer natural women, get over it.

The reason we know you are wrong is because countless women posting have seen what happens when you don’t put in effort and when you do. Get over it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m talking about someone who is a lawyer and makes very good money, but:

* never tips or donates
* almost never eats out, and if she does it’s always the cheapest place or the cheapest thing on the menu
* avoids things like concerts, sporting events, festivals, shows, spas, etc. because she it’s as a waste of money
* doesn’t spend money on entertainment, events, gifts, Ubers, clothes, etc.
* hates paying for convenience (delivery fees, checked bags, valet, subscriptions, etc.)
* travels a few times a year but always very cheaply (budget airlines/basic hotels/red-eyes/points deals)
* researches everything and buys the cheapest/highest-quality version of literally everything from toothpaste to furniture
* can’t fathom spending $200 on a dress or $2000 on coat

Would men see this as financially responsible and disciplined, or as overly cheap/miserly? Especially in dating, does this kind of mindset help or hurt?

Provided she's otherwise kind and beautiful, the only thing that would bother me is the not tipping. Treating people poorly in the service world - whether restaurants or retail or whatever - is an immediate out. Don't care for such people. The entitlement, the casual cruelty, etc... no thanks. But otherwise have no problem with being cheap as long as they have joy and happiness in their lives and aren't stewing in misery and denial.

Spoiler: she’s not.

Women here are so odd/bitter.. I don’t know if it’s the ultra liberal feminist DC culture or just delusion, but some of you sound insane.
‘Yes, a frugal low maintenance girl can still be hot and beautiful. Just because you spend thousands at the hair salon and on appearances and think that’s why men choose you doesn’t mean you’re right. Beauty isn’t created at the salon, it’s natural.

Same thing with SAHMs and career women. Just because you’re smart and have a career doesn’t mean women who aren’t career oriented or super ambitious can’t land a guy.
A lot of you lie to yourselves to protect your ego and make yourselves feel better about your own choices.

Beauty nowadays is an assets that’s 99% created in salon and a gym.

If that’s the case, they weren’t beautiful to begin with. I know tons of women who are naturally beautiful without going to the salon.

lol, fool, most men are too clueless to know the difference.

I’m a man and not clueless as to whether someone has nails or makeup on and most men aren’t. Men prefer natural women, get over it.

You’re also the kind of man who posts in DCUM, so…

[Anonymous]

I’ve dated cheap and hot women. Women who don’t even know how to wear any makeup or do their hair. They usually had a really pretty face, which is rare, and something most women who get plastic surgery don’t have. They had high metabolisms, and were very sedentary. Their hair was usually in a messy bun, or ponytail, always clean with basic shampoo. They didn’t do their nails, just kept them clean. They washed their face with bar soap and sometimes forgot to use moisturizer. They were all 8-10s.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m talking about someone who is a lawyer and makes very good money, but:

* never tips or donates
* almost never eats out, and if she does it’s always the cheapest place or the cheapest thing on the menu
* avoids things like concerts, sporting events, festivals, shows, spas, etc. because she it’s as a waste of money
* doesn’t spend money on entertainment, events, gifts, Ubers, clothes, etc.
* hates paying for convenience (delivery fees, checked bags, valet, subscriptions, etc.)
* travels a few times a year but always very cheaply (budget airlines/basic hotels/red-eyes/points deals)
* researches everything and buys the cheapest/highest-quality version of literally everything from toothpaste to furniture
* can’t fathom spending $200 on a dress or $2000 on coat

Would men see this as financially responsible and disciplined, or as overly cheap/miserly? Especially in dating, does this kind of mindset help or hurt?

Provided she's otherwise kind and beautiful, the only thing that would bother me is the not tipping. Treating people poorly in the service world - whether restaurants or retail or whatever - is an immediate out. Don't care for such people. The entitlement, the casual cruelty, etc... no thanks. But otherwise have no problem with being cheap as long as they have joy and happiness in their lives and aren't stewing in misery and denial.

Spoiler: she’s not.

Women here are so odd/bitter.. I don’t know if it’s the ultra liberal feminist DC culture or just delusion, but some of you sound insane.
‘Yes, a frugal low maintenance girl can still be hot and beautiful. Just because you spend thousands at the hair salon and on appearances and think that’s why men choose you doesn’t mean you’re right. Beauty isn’t created at the salon, it’s natural.

Same thing with SAHMs and career women. Just because you’re smart and have a career doesn’t mean women who aren’t career oriented or super ambitious can’t land a guy.
A lot of you lie to yourselves to protect your ego and make yourselves feel better about your own choices.

Beauty nowadays is an assets that’s 99% created in salon and a gym.

If that’s the case, they weren’t beautiful to begin with. I know tons of women who are naturally beautiful without going to the salon.

How old are they?

Only old women need to go to the salon to atleast look decent, too much wrinkles and rolls. Young women can look hot naturally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most successful men will see this as a green flag. These are signs of a very low maintenance woman.

lol

As a man I see this as a Karen on steroids with a few shots of crystal meth thrown in as good measure for complete hell on earth with a vagina.

I do not care how hot she is, I would rather shave my face with a radioactive cheese grater than be around anyone like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve dated cheap and hot women. Women who don’t even know how to wear any makeup or do their hair. They usually had a really pretty face, which is rare, and something most women who get plastic surgery don’t have. They had high metabolisms, and were very sedentary. Their hair was usually in a messy bun, or ponytail, always clean with basic shampoo. They didn’t do their nails, just kept them clean. They washed their face with bar soap and sometimes forgot to use moisturizer. They were all 8-10s.

They sound young.

[Anonymous]

As long as she is not asking someone to bankroll her life - it is a green flag. She is marriage material.

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Anonymous wrote:As long as she is not MAGA.
And she is hot, well educated, high earner, frugal, does not suffer wasteful fools gladly and is not materialistic herself… she is prime WIFEY material.

All shades of Green Flag. She is the entire golf course. No no, she is the entire Amazon jungle!!!

These are contradictory. Being hot as a woman means investing heavily into your appearance. Gym memberships, healthy food, cosmetics, hair, clothes, etc all cost money.

Some women are naturally hot without all of this. There are many poor women very hot and beautiful.

I live in a poor area with many beautiful women. They *do* spend their money on their looks. They just may get drugstore makeup instead on at Sephora, or do their own lashes rather than get them done. But they still spend money on it, and often it’s money they don’t really have.

This reminds me of the natural makeup thing. Men say they don’t like makeup, but they do. They just want “natural”, not realizing that looking naturally beautiful is just as much effort and money as looking obviously made-up. Often even more money and effort.

When men say that want "natural," they mean they don't like an overdone makeup look. And the overdone makeup look is generally just women who are not very good at makeup but inclined to use it.