Divorcing wife over her spending

[Anonymous]

They both work full time so it's really OP that needs to step it up with doing the buying for the family.

[Anonymous]

They could even keep their house and rent it out for the 2 years their kids are in preschool and move to a 2 bedroom rental and end up with money to fund preschool and their rental and savings. Most families with preschoolers don't live in 2.3 million homes. There are ways to figure this out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry OP. This is a hard one.

Does your wife work and contribute meaningfully to HH income? What is she spending excessively on? (clothes, house, vacations, etc?)

Before leaping to divorce and breaking up your kids' home, what have you done to rein this in?

She does work but I make the bulk of our income.

We have 3.5 year old twins. We both want what’s best for their future but my wife goes overboard.

Excessive spending

- Most expensive daycare
- Most expensive preschool
- An expensive I caved and bought
- A new car
- expensive activities for the kids
- A tutor for the kids ( no joke)
- wasting hundreds each shopping trip
- always purchases random crap she sees online

This is just the tip of the iceberg. She didn’t use to be this way. Motherhood has made her very competitive.

Very common for wealthy families in dc. My wife does the same.

[Anonymous]

The car and house are probably his expense.

[Anonymous]

Budget? Do you discuss shared financial goals?