Transgender congressperson calls for practical compromise on transgender policy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sarah McBride tells Democrats to stop infighting and stop demanding ideological purity, and stop taking the bait from social conservatives and crushing themselves.


https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2025/03/sarah-mcbride-says-democrats-should-be-more-open-to-opponents-of-trans-rights/

Everyone has to make a sacrifice to get through difficult times.
Changing hearts and minds and social structures and physical facilities takes time.
Compromise on sports. Compromise on bathrooms.
"It's not fair" just isn't a strong enough argument. It's too subjective. Play to win, not be be a righteous loser.
Sometimes the better option is to wait out the old generation, not give them ammo to inflame a new generation. Sometimes you have to be a martyr for your cause, because you can't win by force of will.


Progressives, the goal is to make continual progress, not be rigid absolutists ther ignores the feelings and actual power of opponents. "The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice. " -MLK

Be good, but be smart.
It's not too late.

Why should basic human rights be subject to any sort of compromise?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sarah McBride tells Democrats to stop infighting and stop demanding ideological purity, and stop taking the bait from social conservatives and crushing themselves.


https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2025/03/sarah-mcbride-says-democrats-should-be-more-open-to-opponents-of-trans-rights/

Everyone has to make a sacrifice to get through difficult times.
Changing hearts and minds and social structures and physical facilities takes time.
Compromise on sports. Compromise on bathrooms.
"It's not fair" just isn't a strong enough argument. It's too subjective. Play to win, not be be a righteous loser.
Sometimes the better option is to wait out the old generation, not give them ammo to inflame a new generation. Sometimes you have to be a martyr for your cause, because you can't win by force of will.


Progressives, the goal is to make continual progress, not be rigid absolutists ther ignores the feelings and actual power of opponents. "The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice. " -MLK

Be good, but be smart.
It's not too late.

Why should basic human rights be subject to any sort of compromise?

Men have a right to use women's changing rooms? Where is that in the bill of rights?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sarah McBride tells Democrats to stop infighting and stop demanding ideological purity, and stop taking the bait from social conservatives and crushing themselves.


https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2025/03/sarah-mcbride-says-democrats-should-be-more-open-to-opponents-of-trans-rights/

Everyone has to make a sacrifice to get through difficult times.
Changing hearts and minds and social structures and physical facilities takes time.
Compromise on sports. Compromise on bathrooms.
"It's not fair" just isn't a strong enough argument. It's too subjective. Play to win, not be be a righteous loser.
Sometimes the better option is to wait out the old generation, not give them ammo to inflame a new generation. Sometimes you have to be a martyr for your cause, because you can't win by force of will.


Progressives, the goal is to make continual progress, not be rigid absolutists ther ignores the feelings and actual power of opponents. "The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice. " -MLK

Be good, but be smart.
It's not too late.

Why should basic human rights be subject to any sort of compromise?

Why do you think it's a basic human right for someone who's basically a man but identifies as a woman to compete against women in athletic events?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sarah McBride tells Democrats to stop infighting and stop demanding ideological purity, and stop taking the bait from social conservatives and crushing themselves.


https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2025/03/sarah-mcbride-says-democrats-should-be-more-open-to-opponents-of-trans-rights/

Everyone has to make a sacrifice to get through difficult times.
Changing hearts and minds and social structures and physical facilities takes time.
Compromise on sports. Compromise on bathrooms.
"It's not fair" just isn't a strong enough argument. It's too subjective. Play to win, not be be a righteous loser.
Sometimes the better option is to wait out the old generation, not give them ammo to inflame a new generation. Sometimes you have to be a martyr for your cause, because you can't win by force of will.


Progressives, the goal is to make continual progress, not be rigid absolutists ther ignores the feelings and actual power of opponents. "The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice. " -MLK

Be good, but be smart.
It's not too late.

Why should basic human rights be subject to any sort of compromise?

Men have a right to use women's changing rooms? Where is that in the bill of rights?

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not enough for alternative sexualities to be “tolerated.” They need to be celebrated. Celebrate Pride.

Yes. Force everyone to throw away their beliefs and morals for ‘alternative sexuality’. What’s next? Will be celebrated the alternative sexuality of minors?

Does any of this even still matter, given Trump has ushered in the era of "alternative truths" where up is down and red is blue and they lie to our faces every single day.

Let's face it, Trump could, in his state of dementia, waddle out to the podium and announce that he's opossum gender and the MAGAs would cheer and as with the diapers taped to their ears, some would immediately declare that they too are opossum gender.

It's comical to watch these anti-trans people stridently and hysterically jumping up and down when we aren't even living in reality anymore.

It’s not a comedy, it’s a tragedy. Democrats’ insistence on promoting migrants and trans folks, both at the expense of girls’ safety, is WHY Trump is in the White House destroying Democracy. Dems haven’t backed off the migrants and trans push one iota, so Republicans will win the midterms. It’s all very sad. I’m glad that YOU are amused to see Republicans beating us by quoting our trans policies, but some of us would prefer Trumpers NOT to have all the power.

Maybe you should stop repeating Fox News talking points. The Dems I know are fighting to protect SS and the rule of law. Oh, and maybe give working folks a fighting chance.

STOP LETTING THE REPUBLICANS CONTROL THE CONVERSATION

Going down the McBride path is not going to stop the conversation. Avoidance doesn’t work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sarah McBride tells Democrats to stop infighting and stop demanding ideological purity, and stop taking the bait from social conservatives and crushing themselves.


https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2025/03/sarah-mcbride-says-democrats-should-be-more-open-to-opponents-of-trans-rights/

Everyone has to make a sacrifice to get through difficult times.
Changing hearts and minds and social structures and physical facilities takes time.
Compromise on sports. Compromise on bathrooms.
"It's not fair" just isn't a strong enough argument. It's too subjective. Play to win, not be be a righteous loser.
Sometimes the better option is to wait out the old generation, not give them ammo to inflame a new generation. Sometimes you have to be a martyr for your cause, because you can't win by force of will.


Progressives, the goal is to make continual progress, not be rigid absolutists ther ignores the feelings and actual power of opponents. "The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice. " -MLK

Be good, but be smart.
It's not too late.

Why should basic human rights be subject to any sort of compromise?

Why do you think it's a basic human right for someone who's basically a man but identifies as a woman to compete against women in athletic events?

Unpopular opinion but being their authentic selves and enjoying advantages in competition are only part of the appeal. There is also the thrill of attention, the thrill of transgression, and the thrill of access to private women’s spaces. There’s even just the political thrill of upsetting Republicans and forcing Democrats to stand with you. Lots goes on. Complex issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sarah McBride tells Democrats to stop infighting and stop demanding ideological purity, and stop taking the bait from social conservatives and crushing themselves.


https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2025/03/sarah-mcbride-says-democrats-should-be-more-open-to-opponents-of-trans-rights/

Everyone has to make a sacrifice to get through difficult times.
Changing hearts and minds and social structures and physical facilities takes time.
Compromise on sports. Compromise on bathrooms.
"It's not fair" just isn't a strong enough argument. It's too subjective. Play to win, not be be a righteous loser.
Sometimes the better option is to wait out the old generation, not give them ammo to inflame a new generation. Sometimes you have to be a martyr for your cause, because you can't win by force of will.


Progressives, the goal is to make continual progress, not be rigid absolutists ther ignores the feelings and actual power of opponents. "The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice. " -MLK

Be good, but be smart.
It's not too late.

Why should basic human rights be subject to any sort of compromise?

Men have a right to use women's changing rooms? Where is that in the bill of rights?

In the bill of rights where is there any mention that the restrooms should be gender separate?

[Anonymous]

Absolutely amazing that dcurbanmom Dems are MORE committed to trans athletes than our ACTUAL post-op transgender Congresswoman is!! If we refuse to take any advice from historic Sarah McBride, how are we even allies. She’s begging us to chill out. She believes that a slower pace will help trans folks make MORE progress. Why are we unwilling to consider her advice?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sarah McBride tells Democrats to stop infighting and stop demanding ideological purity, and stop taking the bait from social conservatives and crushing themselves.


https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2025/03/sarah-mcbride-says-democrats-should-be-more-open-to-opponents-of-trans-rights/

Everyone has to make a sacrifice to get through difficult times.
Changing hearts and minds and social structures and physical facilities takes time.
Compromise on sports. Compromise on bathrooms.
"It's not fair" just isn't a strong enough argument. It's too subjective. Play to win, not be be a righteous loser.
Sometimes the better option is to wait out the old generation, not give them ammo to inflame a new generation. Sometimes you have to be a martyr for your cause, because you can't win by force of will.


Progressives, the goal is to make continual progress, not be rigid absolutists ther ignores the feelings and actual power of opponents. "The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice. " -MLK

Be good, but be smart.
It's not too late.

Why should basic human rights be subject to any sort of compromise?

Men have a right to use women's changing rooms? Where is that in the bill of rights?

I'm a trans male and if I walked into a women's restroom right now, your wives would freak and kick me out. They'd call the security guards or the police. I may have a vagina and sit to pee, but I'm 100% passing as a male thanks to years of T and top surgery.

When you think of trans people, don't think of men in dresses. Don't think of drag queens. Drag queens are NOT trans. Drag is an art form. Drag is a profession or hobby. It's not a total lifestyle for 99.9% of people. Heck, I know quite a few drag queens who aren't even gay. They just enjoy the art and performance of it all. I know even more drag kings who are not queer.

Very few trans people these days who have been on hormones for 6+ months are not passing as their new gender. After a year on hormones, you can't pick us out from cis individuals.

The no trans in bathrooms/changing rooms doesn't actually hurt trans people because cis people can't actually tell who is trans if they are not some famous trans influencer or advocate from social media. The anti-trans movement actually hurts cis women who do not look traditionally feminine (short hair, broader shoulders, flat-chested) and cis men who do not look traditionally masculine (slim build, longer hair, delicate facial features). Those are the people who are actually getting harassed in bathrooms, not me. I've been peeing in men's rooms, using the men's locker rooms, and using men's changing rooms for decades now. Never had an issue.

Sarah McBride may not be able to use the women's restroom in Congress, but I bet she does everywhere else and guess what? I doubt anyone has ever questioned it or hassled her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely amazing that dcurbanmom Dems are MORE committed to trans athletes than our ACTUAL post-op transgender Congresswoman is!! If we refuse to take any advice from historic Sarah McBride, how are we even allies. She’s begging us to chill out. She believes that a slower pace will help trans folks make MORE progress. Why are we unwilling to consider her advice?

Her advice isn’t workable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sarah McBride tells Democrats to stop infighting and stop demanding ideological purity, and stop taking the bait from social conservatives and crushing themselves.


https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2025/03/sarah-mcbride-says-democrats-should-be-more-open-to-opponents-of-trans-rights/

Everyone has to make a sacrifice to get through difficult times.
Changing hearts and minds and social structures and physical facilities takes time.
Compromise on sports. Compromise on bathrooms.
"It's not fair" just isn't a strong enough argument. It's too subjective. Play to win, not be be a righteous loser.
Sometimes the better option is to wait out the old generation, not give them ammo to inflame a new generation. Sometimes you have to be a martyr for your cause, because you can't win by force of will.


Progressives, the goal is to make continual progress, not be rigid absolutists ther ignores the feelings and actual power of opponents. "The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice. " -MLK

Be good, but be smart.
It's not too late.

Why should basic human rights be subject to any sort of compromise?

Men have a right to use women's changing rooms? Where is that in the bill of rights?

I'm a trans male and if I walked into a women's restroom right now, your wives would freak and kick me out. They'd call the security guards or the police. I may have a vagina and sit to pee, but I'm 100% passing as a male thanks to years of T and top surgery.

When you think of trans people, don't think of men in dresses. Don't think of drag queens. Drag queens are NOT trans. Drag is an art form. Drag is a profession or hobby. It's not a total lifestyle for 99.9% of people. Heck, I know quite a few drag queens who aren't even gay. They just enjoy the art and performance of it all. I know even more drag kings who are not queer.

Very few trans people these days who have been on hormones for 6+ months are not passing as their new gender. After a year on hormones, you can't pick us out from cis individuals.

The no trans in bathrooms/changing rooms doesn't actually hurt trans people because cis people can't actually tell who is trans if they are not some famous trans influencer or advocate from social media. The anti-trans movement actually hurts cis women who do not look traditionally feminine (short hair, broader shoulders, flat-chested) and cis men who do not look traditionally masculine (slim build, longer hair, delicate facial features). Those are the people who are actually getting harassed in bathrooms, not me. I've been peeing in men's rooms, using the men's locker rooms, and using men's changing rooms for decades now. Never had an issue.

Sarah McBride may not be able to use the women's restroom in Congress, but I bet she does everywhere else and guess what? I doubt anyone has ever questioned it or hassled her.

Very cool perspective! Thank you! What’s your take on the transwoman athlete question? And on whether or not Democrats should keep standing firm on it or temporarily take Saran McBride’s advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sarah McBride tells Democrats to stop infighting and stop demanding ideological purity, and stop taking the bait from social conservatives and crushing themselves.


https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2025/03/sarah-mcbride-says-democrats-should-be-more-open-to-opponents-of-trans-rights/

Everyone has to make a sacrifice to get through difficult times.
Changing hearts and minds and social structures and physical facilities takes time.
Compromise on sports. Compromise on bathrooms.
"It's not fair" just isn't a strong enough argument. It's too subjective. Play to win, not be be a righteous loser.
Sometimes the better option is to wait out the old generation, not give them ammo to inflame a new generation. Sometimes you have to be a martyr for your cause, because you can't win by force of will.


Progressives, the goal is to make continual progress, not be rigid absolutists ther ignores the feelings and actual power of opponents. "The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice. " -MLK

Be good, but be smart.
It's not too late.

Why should basic human rights be subject to any sort of compromise?

Men have a right to use women's changing rooms? Where is that in the bill of rights?

I'm a trans male and if I walked into a women's restroom right now, your wives would freak and kick me out. They'd call the security guards or the police. I may have a vagina and sit to pee, but I'm 100% passing as a male thanks to years of T and top surgery.

When you think of trans people, don't think of men in dresses. Don't think of drag queens. Drag queens are NOT trans. Drag is an art form. Drag is a profession or hobby. It's not a total lifestyle for 99.9% of people. Heck, I know quite a few drag queens who aren't even gay. They just enjoy the art and performance of it all. I know even more drag kings who are not queer.

Very few trans people these days who have been on hormones for 6+ months are not passing as their new gender. After a year on hormones, you can't pick us out from cis individuals.

The no trans in bathrooms/changing rooms doesn't actually hurt trans people because cis people can't actually tell who is trans if they are not some famous trans influencer or advocate from social media. The anti-trans movement actually hurts cis women who do not look traditionally feminine (short hair, broader shoulders, flat-chested) and cis men who do not look traditionally masculine (slim build, longer hair, delicate facial features). Those are the people who are actually getting harassed in bathrooms, not me. I've been peeing in men's rooms, using the men's locker rooms, and using men's changing rooms for decades now. Never had an issue.

Sarah McBride may not be able to use the women's restroom in Congress, but I bet she does everywhere else and guess what? I doubt anyone has ever questioned it or hassled her.

Drag is a product of women’s historical oppression. It is when a member of the privileged group appropriates members of a historically and currently oppressed group for entertainment purposes.

You wouldn’t call black face an art form.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sarah McBride tells Democrats to stop infighting and stop demanding ideological purity, and stop taking the bait from social conservatives and crushing themselves.


https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2025/03/sarah-mcbride-says-democrats-should-be-more-open-to-opponents-of-trans-rights/

Everyone has to make a sacrifice to get through difficult times.
Changing hearts and minds and social structures and physical facilities takes time.
Compromise on sports. Compromise on bathrooms.
"It's not fair" just isn't a strong enough argument. It's too subjective. Play to win, not be be a righteous loser.
Sometimes the better option is to wait out the old generation, not give them ammo to inflame a new generation. Sometimes you have to be a martyr for your cause, because you can't win by force of will.


Progressives, the goal is to make continual progress, not be rigid absolutists ther ignores the feelings and actual power of opponents. "The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice. " -MLK

Be good, but be smart.
It's not too late.

Why should basic human rights be subject to any sort of compromise?

Men have a right to use women's changing rooms? Where is that in the bill of rights?

I'm a trans male and if I walked into a women's restroom right now, your wives would freak and kick me out. They'd call the security guards or the police. I may have a vagina and sit to pee, but I'm 100% passing as a male thanks to years of T and top surgery.

When you think of trans people, don't think of men in dresses. Don't think of drag queens. Drag queens are NOT trans. Drag is an art form. Drag is a profession or hobby. It's not a total lifestyle for 99.9% of people. Heck, I know quite a few drag queens who aren't even gay. They just enjoy the art and performance of it all. I know even more drag kings who are not queer.

Very few trans people these days who have been on hormones for 6+ months are not passing as their new gender. After a year on hormones, you can't pick us out from cis individuals.

The no trans in bathrooms/changing rooms doesn't actually hurt trans people because cis people can't actually tell who is trans if they are not some famous trans influencer or advocate from social media. The anti-trans movement actually hurts cis women who do not look traditionally feminine (short hair, broader shoulders, flat-chested) and cis men who do not look traditionally masculine (slim build, longer hair, delicate facial features). Those are the people who are actually getting harassed in bathrooms, not me. I've been peeing in men's rooms, using the men's locker rooms, and using men's changing rooms for decades now. Never had an issue.

Sarah McBride may not be able to use the women's restroom in Congress, but I bet she does everywhere else and guess what? I doubt anyone has ever questioned it or hassled her.

If you think an average person thinks that Sarah is actually female I have a bridge to sell you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sarah McBride tells Democrats to stop infighting and stop demanding ideological purity, and stop taking the bait from social conservatives and crushing themselves.


https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2025/03/sarah-mcbride-says-democrats-should-be-more-open-to-opponents-of-trans-rights/

Everyone has to make a sacrifice to get through difficult times.
Changing hearts and minds and social structures and physical facilities takes time.
Compromise on sports. Compromise on bathrooms.
"It's not fair" just isn't a strong enough argument. It's too subjective. Play to win, not be be a righteous loser.
Sometimes the better option is to wait out the old generation, not give them ammo to inflame a new generation. Sometimes you have to be a martyr for your cause, because you can't win by force of will.


Progressives, the goal is to make continual progress, not be rigid absolutists ther ignores the feelings and actual power of opponents. "The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice. " -MLK

Be good, but be smart.
It's not too late.

Why should basic human rights be subject to any sort of compromise?

Men have a right to use women's changing rooms? Where is that in the bill of rights?

I'm a trans male and if I walked into a women's restroom right now, your wives would freak and kick me out. They'd call the security guards or the police. I may have a vagina and sit to pee, but I'm 100% passing as a male thanks to years of T and top surgery.

When you think of trans people, don't think of men in dresses. Don't think of drag queens. Drag queens are NOT trans. Drag is an art form. Drag is a profession or hobby. It's not a total lifestyle for 99.9% of people. Heck, I know quite a few drag queens who aren't even gay. They just enjoy the art and performance of it all. I know even more drag kings who are not queer.

Very few trans people these days who have been on hormones for 6+ months are not passing as their new gender. After a year on hormones, you can't pick us out from cis individuals.

The no trans in bathrooms/changing rooms doesn't actually hurt trans people because cis people can't actually tell who is trans if they are not some famous trans influencer or advocate from social media. The anti-trans movement actually hurts cis women who do not look traditionally feminine (short hair, broader shoulders, flat-chested) and cis men who do not look traditionally masculine (slim build, longer hair, delicate facial features). Those are the people who are actually getting harassed in bathrooms, not me. I've been peeing in men's rooms, using the men's locker rooms, and using men's changing rooms for decades now. Never had an issue.

Sarah McBride may not be able to use the women's restroom in Congress, but I bet she does everywhere else and guess what? I doubt anyone has ever questioned it or hassled her.

If a woman alters her appearance to look like a man, then she can no longer use female-only spaces.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sarah McBride tells Democrats to stop infighting and stop demanding ideological purity, and stop taking the bait from social conservatives and crushing themselves.


https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2025/03/sarah-mcbride-says-democrats-should-be-more-open-to-opponents-of-trans-rights/

Everyone has to make a sacrifice to get through difficult times.
Changing hearts and minds and social structures and physical facilities takes time.
Compromise on sports. Compromise on bathrooms.
"It's not fair" just isn't a strong enough argument. It's too subjective. Play to win, not be be a righteous loser.
Sometimes the better option is to wait out the old generation, not give them ammo to inflame a new generation. Sometimes you have to be a martyr for your cause, because you can't win by force of will.


Progressives, the goal is to make continual progress, not be rigid absolutists ther ignores the feelings and actual power of opponents. "The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice. " -MLK

Be good, but be smart.
It's not too late.

Why should basic human rights be subject to any sort of compromise?

Men have a right to use women's changing rooms? Where is that in the bill of rights?

I'm a trans male and if I walked into a women's restroom right now, your wives would freak and kick me out. They'd call the security guards or the police. I may have a vagina and sit to pee, but I'm 100% passing as a male thanks to years of T and top surgery.

When you think of trans people, don't think of men in dresses. Don't think of drag queens. Drag queens are NOT trans. Drag is an art form. Drag is a profession or hobby. It's not a total lifestyle for 99.9% of people. Heck, I know quite a few drag queens who aren't even gay. They just enjoy the art and performance of it all. I know even more drag kings who are not queer.

Very few trans people these days who have been on hormones for 6+ months are not passing as their new gender. After a year on hormones, you can't pick us out from cis individuals.

The no trans in bathrooms/changing rooms doesn't actually hurt trans people because cis people can't actually tell who is trans if they are not some famous trans influencer or advocate from social media. The anti-trans movement actually hurts cis women who do not look traditionally feminine (short hair, broader shoulders, flat-chested) and cis men who do not look traditionally masculine (slim build, longer hair, delicate facial features). Those are the people who are actually getting harassed in bathrooms, not me. I've been peeing in men's rooms, using the men's locker rooms, and using men's changing rooms for decades now. Never had an issue.

Sarah McBride may not be able to use the women's restroom in Congress, but I bet she does everywhere else and guess what? I doubt anyone has ever questioned it or hassled her.

If a woman alters her appearance to look like a man, then she can no longer use female-only spaces.

If a man alters his appearance to look like a woman, then he can no longer use male-only spaces.