Everyone can run the NPC for their ED (or any ) school. Fact is most of the T25 do NOT give merit--it's only FA. So if you cannot afford the school during ED, NOTHING is changing with EA/RD. Your package will be the same. So if you can pay what the NPC states, good. However, if it states you owe $90K/year and you cannot/will not pay the $90K, then that school is not for you. And if you "might be willing to pay the $90K if my kid doesn't get into a good enough school otherwise with lower price tag" then you cannot do ED---if you want to compare offers, then EA/RD is your chosen path. |
Not weird. ED is for rich kids. No need for my kid to know what it is when I need to be able to compare multiple aid packages. |
yes I dont' get parents who say---let them wallow and mope around for days/weeks. Our DD didn't get into her ED1---got "deferred" from the T10 school. We let her sit in her room and mope for 24 hours, then had discussions about writing a LOCI, focusing on the few RD applications to submit (most were submitted back in early Nov). And we had a discussion about ED2 do you want to do that for your 2nd choice (where she is attending ultimately), but decided to wait to hear in RD from the ED1 school (ultimate rejection). It's not healthy to let rejection overtake you. My kid was used to rejection as a competitive dancer (good dancer, but slightly below the level of the top kids and her best friends). She knew how to take rejection and not let it overcome you. That is why it's good for your kids to learn to deal with rejections in life from toddlerhood onwards. If you overprotect your kids, they don't learn |
+1 |
Top 25 schools are not offering merit. The FA they offer in ED is the same they will offer in RD. Fact is, if you haven't saved and/or are not willing to spend $90K/year, that won't change for RD/EA. If you need to/want to compare merit offers, that is fine, then ED isn't your thing. However, at schools where ED matters the most (the ones most on here are complaining about), you STILL won't be able to afford the school in RD. And if you "might be willing to pay the 90K if you don't get into another good school" well then, you need to decide that before Nov 1. But anyone can do ED. Yes the decision to be full pay is easier if you can afford it. But exit the T25 and there are plenty of schools that will be affordable/give merit to assist. If you want elite/T25 school, you need to pay for it--nobody is entitled to it |
That is absolutely, unequivocally, not what ED does. Come on, OP, use your head. |
So if your 17/18 yo is not capable of processing this, then ED might not be for you. In reality, if your kid cannot handle that, they might not be T25 material, as the adjustment to college can be hard for even smart kids. So I'd be focusing on their mental health and helping them prepare for any college experience. Because if they get into a T25, I can assure you they are likely to not have a 4.0 for the first time in their life next fall---they might even "gasp get a C" and they need to be prepared to deal with that |
There are many schools who release EA in Dec. CWRU for one. My kid got their ED1 deferral, and within a week had their Safety acceptance (not CWRU, ranked in the 60s) and CWRU with $42K in merit offer all before xmas. So as our CC said, "they are going to a great college, congrats on the acceptances" They had already heard from their other 2 safeties back in October/Nov |
Nope, I have had two teens, a boy and a girl. Both have moderate anxiety, but don't react like that as teens, because we have gotten them the help they need to deal with life and it's ups and downs. We prepared the high stats kid that reaches are just that---REaches that 95% won't get into. Such is life, you worked hard and are really smart, so let's have that next level of targets and safeties lined up with choices you really like, as that is where you are likely attending. If you get into reaches--then it's icing on the cake. Yes teens act emotional. But I'd be concerned about a kid's ability to function at college the next fall if they are this upset over not getting what they want. Freshman year is hard, there is a lot of anxiety inducing happening. Kids who are prepared to deal with life do better |
Quit using the word "entitled." The only "Entitled" ones are the ones that can pay for it easily-the very definition of the word. Because they can take advantage of ED, knowing it will boost their chances of acceptance AND they can swing the bill. The people complaining -and rightfully so- are those whose kids have worked hard but will be shut out due to inability to ED b/c of inability to pay. We are told from the time we are little that the American Dream is work hard and that will pay off. But that's BS. It pays off for the rich; everyone else is expected to settle for something less, then judged for it. Look on here all the people dismissing schools that are outside the top 20. So spare me your "entitled" crap. |
My teen boy was out with his friends and came home 60 minutes late to even look at his ED. Went in, looked at it, came out and said he was in. He was very happy, but it didn't define him before or after.
Important distinction, he is oos Texas and auto admit to UT-Austin. Having that as a safety takes the edge off. But the same can be said for anyone in the ED, now RD process. Find a safety you love right now. |
ED is great. Kids are done early. Not sure why you have an issue with that. |
If you can't afford a college ED how can you afford it RD? Please explain. /DP - that's a rhetorical question, obviously you can't. So spare us the "crap" crap. |
First, on this thread, OP is complaining about ED because her daughter can't handle the stress, and has gotten fixated on one school. Second, you are not "shut out" of a school because you can't ED - that's ridiculous. Do some people have advantages that others don't? Sure. Tell your kids to get used to it. Third, your victim attitude is going to do your kids at least as much harm as is OP's failure to make sure her kid was properly equipped emotionaly for this process. |
ED to a target you can afford. |