
Np retired law enforcement It’s true |
I mean I guess I don't care, but I find it a little odd that kids under 18 would wear something super skimpy. But also we have a huge family history of skin cancer, so I reject skimpy suits based on lack of sun protection. |
100% But at least one poster admitted to this on the other bathing suit thread. They literally said as an adult they would eyef*** a child wearing a thong suit and wouldn’t be able to control their thoughts. Disgusting that these people are out there, but glad they are telling on themselves. Funny how it’s not drag queens… |
This is a micro-bikini and not very common at the public pool. |
Yes! You know what gets someone assaulted? Someone who assaults them. That’s it. Stop saying that girls who wear clothing you don’t approve of deserve to get assaulted or raped or creeped on by other sexual predators. |
[quote=Anonymous]Okay so I’ve spent a fair amount of time thinking about this.
Across cultures and times, the rules about what is an inappropriate level of skin exposure vary widely. Like, as far as they can possibly vary, from burka to fully nude. The consistent part is that people object to what girls and women are wearing and blame them for the inappropriate sexual thoughts and behaviors of adult men and women. So I generally feel that people are responsible for their own behavior, and I’m not going to draw any red lines over swimsuit bottoms. I’m going to focus on behavior, like inappropriate flirting with adult men or something like that. Like any social media posts that risk unwanted communication from adult men. If it’s just that she wants her butt cheeks out for fashion, that’s not the hill I’m going to die on. I have kids who swim year round, and even the competitive swimmers are apparently fine with butt cheeks hanging out as they swim the 200 fly, 400 im, etc. I have sons, so I haven't had to think of this from the same perspective of a mom with daughters, and maybe I would feel otherwise if I did have daughters, but I agree with PP. I am trying to take my own discomfort out of the equation, because what does it matter that it makes me cringe to see a bunch of butt cheeks hanging out as I time behind the block? It used to be (and still is in some places in the US), salacious for women to wear pants instead of skirts. I have decided to be fine with it. I don't understand it, but I don't think it matters at all if I[b] get it or not. There are a lot of things that I don't understand (yet), but I accept - people who have he/they pronouns, for example, but I am working on it! |
My wife and I are reading this together and having a bit of a laugh, butt, the other day one of our neighbors 23 year old stunning au pair came to the pool wearing butt floss. I love my wife very much, butt she doesn't look 23 anymore and God knows I don't either. I took a couple of looks and then chilled. My wife is cool and she knows I am probably gonna look, but I respect her and won't push the boundaries.
Little boys, girls, tweens and teens were also taking eye fulls. Some giggled but that was it. The people who were really complaining were the adult women! Now I get it because what this lady was wearing really was minimal and some people don't want their kids seeing someone's ass on full display, but I think jealousy was also a catalyst for some. As for our kids (teen twin girls), they wear the more typically American cheeky suits. I am kind of whatever about it and so is my wife, but we have caught people looking at them who shouldn't be. I don't say anything because nobody has ever approached then or gotten close enough to "accidentally" brush up against them, but they do get the looks and they know it. It's there choice but they do have to at least be aware of what is happening around them |
I don't read it that way at all. She just does not like people criticizing her. She is fine with other opinion on cheeky suits. |
I have kids who swim year round, and even the competitive swimmers are apparently fine with butt cheeks hanging out as they swim the 200 fly, 400 im, etc. I have sons, so I haven't had to think of this from the same perspective of a mom with daughters, and maybe I would feel otherwise if I did have daughters, but I agree with PP. I am trying to take my own discomfort out of the equation, because what does it matter that it makes me cringe to see a bunch of butt cheeks hanging out as I time behind the block? It used to be (and still is in some places in the US), salacious for women to wear pants instead of skirts. I have decided to be fine with it. I don't understand it, but I don't think it matters at all if I[b] get it or not. There are a lot of things that I don't understand (yet), but I accept - people who have he/they pronouns, for example, but I am working on it! Sorry, this formatted strangely. Should have looked like this I have kids who swim year round, and even the competitive swimmers are apparently fine with butt cheeks hanging out as they swim the 200 fly, 400 im, etc. I have sons, so I haven't had to think of this from the same perspective of a mom with daughters, and maybe I would otherwise if I did have daughters, but I agree with PP. I am trying to take my own discomfort out of the equation, because what does it matter that it makes me cringe to see a bunch of butt cheeks hanging out as I time behind the block? It used to be (and still is in some places in the US), salacious for women to wear pants instead of skirts. I have decided to be fine with it. I don't understand it, but I don't think it matters at all if I get it or not. There are a lot of things I don't understand (yet), but I accept - people who have he/they pronouns, for example, but I am working on it! |
Why don't you be the parent and tell them to wear better bathing suits? Why are you choosing not to parent your kids? |
We have found it better to just let them roam like free range chickens. The butt cheeks don't bug me although admittedly I thought the days of seeing that much of their bodies was in the past. The heroin parties sometimes get out of hand, but what are you gonna do? Chill out Oprah |
But based on the logic deployed here for cheeky bikinis there's no reason 15yos shouldn't be wearing them at public pools. |
They don't deserve to get creeped on, but they will. |
Why not just let teen girls go to public pools completely naked? It's men's faults if they look! |
I can’t believe we have this debate every week over a few inches of skin.
Nearly all swim suits in our culture, even the modest ones, even my one piece with cap sleeves, are form fitting and show a lot of skin. You can still see my butt cheeks even though they’re mostly covered. They show the contours of the body and allow one to easily imagine what an individual looks like naked. Guess what? Unless the teen girls are wearing burkinis, they’re getting male sexual attention. The dads are trying to avert their eyes. The teen boys (and some teen girl peers) are noting who has the great t*ts and big butts and talking about it with their friends. The lecherous pervs are taking mental pictures to crank their hog to later. And someone who aims to sexually assault a teen girl will not be stopped by a more modest swimsuit. It’s just not how it works. Thong, bikini, hipster, it doesn’t matter. Teen girls, in swimsuits or otherwise, get male attention with their bodies. That’s just how the world works. And the only ones who are judging a teen over whether her whole cheek is out or just part of it are other women, mostly unhappy and middle aged, and maybe a few mean teen girls. |