Is my expectation unreasonable?

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Anonymous wrote:My babies all nurses constantly in the evenings, I don’t understand how that is when you’re not nursing at all, and you’re not pumping? How about having DH give the baby some formula during that time to see if it fills him up more to sleep better at night? My kids didn’t do great with bottles so no idea if that would help, I just remember always being chained to a baby in the evenings!

I’m a SAHM now, though I planned to go back to work when my first was born. I had a hard time going to sleep early too, but my DH was happy to give up morning workouts to hang out with the baby until he absolutely had to go into work. Not every day, but often on Wednesdays he would try to go in later so I could get a little more sleep, and then I’d sleep in on weekends. A daily 90 minute workout is a luxury he doesn’t have with a tiny newborn. Either use the money for a night nurse (get a recommendation from a friend!) or convince him to cut back a little to get you a longer stretch of sleep sometimes. Occasionally switching to a 30 min jog won’t kill him.

OP here. My baby has done this when cluster feeding and during growth spurts. He doesn’t do this all of the time.

I’m confused because I do feed him during the evening and night. We give him letdown milk twice in the evening.

His pediatrician said eating every 3 hours is normal for 7 weeks old.

You need a new ped. That isn't normal. We were at 12 hours sleep at 7 weeks, no weight or eating issues.

Even if eating every 3 hours was fine, kid is waking up much more frequently than that according to OP’s schedule.

OP here. He eats about every 2-3 hours around the clock. The schedule is also because at 3/4am and 5/6am he thinks it’s time to wake up and doesn’t always go back down right away. It can take up to 1hr to put him back to sleep.

Op, it’s totally normal. I had two bad sleepers, one absolutely terrible and the other just slightly below average. We tried every technique in the book. Many many babies wake up every 3 hours for months; and seven weeks is still very early.

My second kid was big and at every 3 hours until 1 year. I didn’t do formula, but maybe those formula bottles could be bigger to help the baby sleep longer?

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Anonymous wrote:My babies all nurses constantly in the evenings, I don’t understand how that is when you’re not nursing at all, and you’re not pumping? How about having DH give the baby some formula during that time to see if it fills him up more to sleep better at night? My kids didn’t do great with bottles so no idea if that would help, I just remember always being chained to a baby in the evenings!

I’m a SAHM now, though I planned to go back to work when my first was born. I had a hard time going to sleep early too, but my DH was happy to give up morning workouts to hang out with the baby until he absolutely had to go into work. Not every day, but often on Wednesdays he would try to go in later so I could get a little more sleep, and then I’d sleep in on weekends. A daily 90 minute workout is a luxury he doesn’t have with a tiny newborn. Either use the money for a night nurse (get a recommendation from a friend!) or convince him to cut back a little to get you a longer stretch of sleep sometimes. Occasionally switching to a 30 min jog won’t kill him.

OP here. My baby has done this when cluster feeding and during growth spurts. He doesn’t do this all of the time.

I’m confused because I do feed him during the evening and night. We give him letdown milk twice in the evening.

His pediatrician said eating every 3 hours is normal for 7 weeks old.

You need a new ped. That isn't normal. We were at 12 hours sleep at 7 weeks, no weight or eating issues.

Even if eating every 3 hours was fine, kid is waking up much more frequently than that according to OP’s schedule.

OP here. He eats about every 2-3 hours around the clock. The schedule is also because at 3/4am and 5/6am he thinks it’s time to wake up and doesn’t always go back down right away. It can take up to 1hr to put him back to sleep.

Getting up for the day at 5/6 is normal. Just put him to bed around 6:30 pm. Soon he should start sleeping until 11 or so.

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OP, sending you love and solidarity. You are absolutely not unreasonable here. The fatigue should be shared evenly. “The one working out of the house should be well rested” is such a crock of shit and doesn’t make sense for the vast majority of workers. I can’t believe so many PPs buy that nonsense. (Is he really going to be fired or suffer a major career setback if for the next couple months he’s, say, half as tired as you’ve been for the last many weeks?)