Is my expectation unreasonable?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You seem to have an excuse for any offered solution. You have to change or nothing will.

OP here. No excuses. I’ve explained the situation and answered questions. That’s it’s.

I’ve said I will try go to bed earlier. That’s all I can really do besides hire help, which my hand is against because he fears the caregiver will hurt our child out of frustration or something.

Umm what is your plan for childcare when you go back to work in 7 weeks?

Honestly, you sound like a dolt. I was lucky enough to have family help, but my DH still stayed up with the babies often. And he makes a ton of money and has a high-stress job too (entrepreneur).

If a father wants to be a father they will suck it up and do what is needed to take care of their kids and wife. Not use their hours and paycheck as a shield to avoid any small inconvenience to themselves.

OP here. My MIL and sister will be watching our son while I work.

My husband is a good father. He is involved. I’ve never said he wasn’t an involved father. He does more than most women’s husbands I know.

[Anonymous]

Husband should feed the baby at 4/5am then go workout after putting the baby back down. This may mean you have to start pumping, but it sounds like it would be worth it to you.

[Anonymous]

Man you sound patient as hell for post party exhausted mother. My wife would've come after me with a knife if she was missing any sleep so I could go work out during this phase lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You seem to have an excuse for any offered solution. You have to change or nothing will.

OP here. No excuses. I’ve explained the situation and answered questions. That’s it’s.

I’ve said I will try go to bed earlier. That’s all I can really do besides hire help, which my hand is against because he fears the caregiver will hurt our child out of frustration or something.

Umm what is your plan for childcare when you go back to work in 7 weeks?

Honestly, you sound like a dolt. I was lucky enough to have family help, but my DH still stayed up with the babies often. And he makes a ton of money and has a high-stress job too (entrepreneur).

If a father wants to be a father they will suck it up and do what is needed to take care of their kids and wife. Not use their hours and paycheck as a shield to avoid any small inconvenience to themselves.

OP here. My MIL and sister will be watching our son while I work.

My husband is a good father. He is involved. I’ve never said he wasn’t an involved father. He does more than most women’s husbands I know.

Can’t wait for all the forthcoming posts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You have to stagger the night. You go to bed early, like 9pm, he does the 11pm/midnight feeding while you’re asleep. Then he goes to bed and you do the rest of the feedings.

It sucks but it won’t last forever.

OP here. This is what I was hoping would happen but nope. He said he does enough, and he actually does. I just wish I had help during the night. I still get very little sleep.

Why are you feeding that kid that often still? Get those calories in during the day. Your child is waking to feed because you've established a pattern. Ped told us not to develop and both kids (different sleepers) both only woke up once per night tops by 3 months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My babies all nurses constantly in the evenings, I don’t understand how that is when you’re not nursing at all, and you’re not pumping? How about having DH give the baby some formula during that time to see if it fills him up more to sleep better at night? My kids didn’t do great with bottles so no idea if that would help, I just remember always being chained to a baby in the evenings!

I’m a SAHM now, though I planned to go back to work when my first was born. I had a hard time going to sleep early too, but my DH was happy to give up morning workouts to hang out with the baby until he absolutely had to go into work. Not every day, but often on Wednesdays he would try to go in later so I could get a little more sleep, and then I’d sleep in on weekends. A daily 90 minute workout is a luxury he doesn’t have with a tiny newborn. Either use the money for a night nurse (get a recommendation from a friend!) or convince him to cut back a little to get you a longer stretch of sleep sometimes. Occasionally switching to a 30 min jog won’t kill him.

OP here. My baby has done this when cluster feeding and during growth spurts. He doesn’t do this all of the time.

I’m confused because I do feed him during the evening and night. We give him letdown milk twice in the evening.

His pediatrician said eating every 3 hours is normal for 7 weeks old.

You need a new ped. That isn't normal. We were at 12 hours sleep at 7 weeks, no weight or eating issues.

[Anonymous]

Mine did not get out of bed once or change a si ngle diaper even after I sent back to work. I pretty much still want to murder him and the child is now 12.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My babies all nurses constantly in the evenings, I don’t understand how that is when you’re not nursing at all, and you’re not pumping? How about having DH give the baby some formula during that time to see if it fills him up more to sleep better at night? My kids didn’t do great with bottles so no idea if that would help, I just remember always being chained to a baby in the evenings!

I’m a SAHM now, though I planned to go back to work when my first was born. I had a hard time going to sleep early too, but my DH was happy to give up morning workouts to hang out with the baby until he absolutely had to go into work. Not every day, but often on Wednesdays he would try to go in later so I could get a little more sleep, and then I’d sleep in on weekends. A daily 90 minute workout is a luxury he doesn’t have with a tiny newborn. Either use the money for a night nurse (get a recommendation from a friend!) or convince him to cut back a little to get you a longer stretch of sleep sometimes. Occasionally switching to a 30 min jog won’t kill him.

OP here. My baby has done this when cluster feeding and during growth spurts. He doesn’t do this all of the time.

I’m confused because I do feed him during the evening and night. We give him letdown milk twice in the evening.

His pediatrician said eating every 3 hours is normal for 7 weeks old.

You need a new ped. That isn't normal. We were at 12 hours sleep at 7 weeks, no weight or eating issues.

Even if eating every 3 hours was fine, kid is waking up much more frequently than that according to OP’s schedule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My babies all nurses constantly in the evenings, I don’t understand how that is when you’re not nursing at all, and you’re not pumping? How about having DH give the baby some formula during that time to see if it fills him up more to sleep better at night? My kids didn’t do great with bottles so no idea if that would help, I just remember always being chained to a baby in the evenings!

I’m a SAHM now, though I planned to go back to work when my first was born. I had a hard time going to sleep early too, but my DH was happy to give up morning workouts to hang out with the baby until he absolutely had to go into work. Not every day, but often on Wednesdays he would try to go in later so I could get a little more sleep, and then I’d sleep in on weekends. A daily 90 minute workout is a luxury he doesn’t have with a tiny newborn. Either use the money for a night nurse (get a recommendation from a friend!) or convince him to cut back a little to get you a longer stretch of sleep sometimes. Occasionally switching to a 30 min jog won’t kill him.

OP here. My baby has done this when cluster feeding and during growth spurts. He doesn’t do this all of the time.

I’m confused because I do feed him during the evening and night. We give him letdown milk twice in the evening.

His pediatrician said eating every 3 hours is normal for 7 weeks old.

You need a new ped. That isn't normal. We were at 12 hours sleep at 7 weeks, no weight or eating issues.

It is ABSOLUTELY normal and SIDS preventation to wake frequently to eat at night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have to stagger the night. You go to bed early, like 9pm, he does the 11pm/midnight feeding while you’re asleep. Then he goes to bed and you do the rest of the feedings.

It sucks but it won’t last forever.

OP here. This is what I was hoping would happen but nope. He said he does enough, and he actually does. I just wish I had help during the night. I still get very little sleep.

Why are you feeding that kid that often still? Get those calories in during the day. Your child is waking to feed because you've established a pattern. Ped told us not to develop and both kids (different sleepers) both only woke up once per night tops by 3 months.

OP here. We had tongue tie issues and jaundice and my child lost almost a whole pound in the first week. He didn’t regain his birth weight until 3 weeks. He’s gaining now but still on the smaller end.

Our ped said every 2-3 hours is normal for a 7 week old, and I would have to wake if he sleeps longer than 6 hours a night. The max I’ve read was 4-5 hours at night. He eats full feeds ( we do weighted feeds still) and he can’t eat that much at one feeding.

We are working on getting him on a routine, but he wakes when he’s hungry. He’s 7 weeks old. That’s still very young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man you sound patient as hell for post party exhausted mother. My wife would've come after me with a knife if she was missing any sleep so I could go work out during this phase lol

OP here. I’m a very calm person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My babies all nurses constantly in the evenings, I don’t understand how that is when you’re not nursing at all, and you’re not pumping? How about having DH give the baby some formula during that time to see if it fills him up more to sleep better at night? My kids didn’t do great with bottles so no idea if that would help, I just remember always being chained to a baby in the evenings!

I’m a SAHM now, though I planned to go back to work when my first was born. I had a hard time going to sleep early too, but my DH was happy to give up morning workouts to hang out with the baby until he absolutely had to go into work. Not every day, but often on Wednesdays he would try to go in later so I could get a little more sleep, and then I’d sleep in on weekends. A daily 90 minute workout is a luxury he doesn’t have with a tiny newborn. Either use the money for a night nurse (get a recommendation from a friend!) or convince him to cut back a little to get you a longer stretch of sleep sometimes. Occasionally switching to a 30 min jog won’t kill him.

OP here. My baby has done this when cluster feeding and during growth spurts. He doesn’t do this all of the time.

I’m confused because I do feed him during the evening and night. We give him letdown milk twice in the evening.

His pediatrician said eating every 3 hours is normal for 7 weeks old.

You need a new ped. That isn't normal. We were at 12 hours sleep at 7 weeks, no weight or eating issues.

Even if eating every 3 hours was fine, kid is waking up much more frequently than that according to OP’s schedule.

OP here. He eats about every 2-3 hours around the clock. The schedule is also because at 3/4am and 5/6am he thinks it’s time to wake up and doesn’t always go back down right away. It can take up to 1hr to put him back to sleep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My babies all nurses constantly in the evenings, I don’t understand how that is when you’re not nursing at all, and you’re not pumping? How about having DH give the baby some formula during that time to see if it fills him up more to sleep better at night? My kids didn’t do great with bottles so no idea if that would help, I just remember always being chained to a baby in the evenings!

I’m a SAHM now, though I planned to go back to work when my first was born. I had a hard time going to sleep early too, but my DH was happy to give up morning workouts to hang out with the baby until he absolutely had to go into work. Not every day, but often on Wednesdays he would try to go in later so I could get a little more sleep, and then I’d sleep in on weekends. A daily 90 minute workout is a luxury he doesn’t have with a tiny newborn. Either use the money for a night nurse (get a recommendation from a friend!) or convince him to cut back a little to get you a longer stretch of sleep sometimes. Occasionally switching to a 30 min jog won’t kill him.

OP here. My baby has done this when cluster feeding and during growth spurts. He doesn’t do this all of the time.

I’m confused because I do feed him during the evening and night. We give him letdown milk twice in the evening.

His pediatrician said eating every 3 hours is normal for 7 weeks old.

You need a new ped. That isn't normal. We were at 12 hours sleep at 7 weeks, no weight or eating issues.

It is ABSOLUTELY normal and SIDS preventation to wake frequently to eat at night.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My babies all nurses constantly in the evenings, I don’t understand how that is when you’re not nursing at all, and you’re not pumping? How about having DH give the baby some formula during that time to see if it fills him up more to sleep better at night? My kids didn’t do great with bottles so no idea if that would help, I just remember always being chained to a baby in the evenings!

I’m a SAHM now, though I planned to go back to work when my first was born. I had a hard time going to sleep early too, but my DH was happy to give up morning workouts to hang out with the baby until he absolutely had to go into work. Not every day, but often on Wednesdays he would try to go in later so I could get a little more sleep, and then I’d sleep in on weekends. A daily 90 minute workout is a luxury he doesn’t have with a tiny newborn. Either use the money for a night nurse (get a recommendation from a friend!) or convince him to cut back a little to get you a longer stretch of sleep sometimes. Occasionally switching to a 30 min jog won’t kill him.

OP here. My baby has done this when cluster feeding and during growth spurts. He doesn’t do this all of the time.

I’m confused because I do feed him during the evening and night. We give him letdown milk twice in the evening.

His pediatrician said eating every 3 hours is normal for 7 weeks old.

You need a new ped. That isn't normal. We were at 12 hours sleep at 7 weeks, no weight or eating issues.

Even if eating every 3 hours was fine, kid is waking up much more frequently than that according to OP’s schedule.

OP here. He eats about every 2-3 hours around the clock. The schedule is also because at 3/4am and 5/6am he thinks it’s time to wake up and doesn’t always go back down right away. It can take up to 1hr to put him back to sleep.

Op, it’s totally normal. I had two bad sleepers, one absolutely terrible and the other just slightly below average. We tried every technique in the book. Many many babies wake up every 3 hours for months; and seven weeks is still very early.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have to stagger the night. You go to bed early, like 9pm, he does the 11pm/midnight feeding while you’re asleep. Then he goes to bed and you do the rest of the feedings.

It sucks but it won’t last forever.

OP here. This is what I was hoping would happen but nope. He said he does enough, and he actually does. I just wish I had help during the night. I still get very little sleep.

Why are you feeding that kid that often still? Get those calories in during the day. Your child is waking to feed because you've established a pattern. Ped told us not to develop and both kids (different sleepers) both only woke up once per night tops by 3 months.

Good for you. You are not helpful at all.