Does your community pool have a dress code?

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Anonymous wrote:I have no desire to police girls’ bodies but privately, viscerally, I don’t like it. I don’t think it is great. And of course it is about sexuality/attention for girls.

I find that the older I get the less I have even a private reaction to it. It could be because my own kids are small and I'm just in a very de-sexualized bodies place, so maybe when they're older I'll care again. But when I'm at the pool I'm just happy if people are happy. I don't care if they wear thongs. I knew their butts were in there the whole time! I'm also happy for them that it's about sexuality/attention - of course it is! That's a very important part of life. Go nuts, girlies. Stay safe but enjoy. Honestly I mostly love watching teens flirting with each other at the pool. If the older men at our pool are thinking anything inappropriate, they're doing a good job hiding it and I've never seen anyone behave inappropriately. And of course if they were going to do that, a one piece would not stop them and a thong does not make the wearer responsible for anyone else's actions.

This thread is making me grateful that this is not my hang up. I used to be so stressed about my own body at the pool, and for right now I am not really stressed about anyone's. It is a very happy pool season for me. I really hope I don't start to get irritated by bikinis. I'm already irritated by so much, I don't have room.

This is a nice take (I am the person you are replying to). I think it bothers me in part because I have teens and find the apparent pressure to display so much of your body kind of porn-influenced and icky. Like, c’mon girls! I feel like teens’ lives these days are so extreme and reflect what they see on Insta and these extreme internet influences. But maybe this is just how adults always feel about teens….I’m not sure.

This is OF COURSE how adults always feel about teens. It’s how our moms felt about our string bikinis versus wider and more secure bands and their moms felt about bikinis at all and their moms thought about upper thighs being exposed, and their moms felt about shoulders and cleavage being exposed.

No idea why we thought we had drawn the right line that string bikinis are ok but thongs aren’t. I’m curious where the next gen will go from here….maybe they will go topless

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Anonymous wrote:It awkward for families. My kids say things like - I can see her butt. I tell them to move along, but I wish they wore bathing suits that covers their butts. It’s the same at Whole Foods. Why are some shoppers in a bra and hot pants? It’s not a gym. People don’t wear clothes anymore.

Grow up

MYOB

Tell your children to mind their own business and stop judging other people

It's always the bible thumpers.

And the d*mned Koran thumpers.

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Here is a new perspective for all the prudes out there. I moved to Germany when I was in high school and I have three brothers. In Germany, the women would be topless at the pool. I remember when we first started going to the pool my brothers were all eyes because it was such a shock. However, within a month, they were no longer even looking. It became just part of the background and common place. So while you are shuttering and looking at these thong bathing suits, your kids will stop even noticing the next two weeks.

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Anonymous wrote:It awkward for families. My kids say things like - I can see her butt. I tell them to move along, but I wish they wore bathing suits that covers their butts. It’s the same at Whole Foods. Why are some shoppers in a bra and hot pants? It’s not a gym. People don’t wear clothes anymore.

Thank you. The emperor has no clothes in this situation (literally), and children are the only ones who will point it out. People are showing parts of their body that are not socially acceptable to show anywhere else in our culture.

Kids will also say, hey they are fat or why is that kid in a wheelchair or her hair is purple.

So what, your the one the puts some insane meaning to those children's observations.

NP here. My kids never say those things bc they know it’s inappropriate and unkind to comment on body size, disabilities, and/or differences in physical appearance. They do comment on people exposing themselves in public.

If your kid is old enough not to comment on people’s weight, disability aid usage, and hair colour, they are old enough to know comment rudely about other people’s clothing choices is also inappropriate and unkind. Get onto that. Tell them to avoid people wearing less clothes than you approve of if you must, but understand that the acceptable amount of clothing will vary depending on the person and situation and there’s nothing to be gained from pointing out that someone else doesn’t fit your narrow cultural norms.

I’ve never worn a string bikini in my life and never want to but I really don’t get the pearl clutching about them.

Equating having a disability with making bad fashion choices is ridiculous. These thong girls want attention just like celebrities at the Met Gala.

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I’m 45. When I was 19 and in college, a European friend of mine routinely wore a thong at the pool/beach. Heck, when I lived in Chicago in the late 90’s/early 2000’s thing bikinis were common at the beaches there. This is not new.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Even thiccccc gals are getting into the thong game.

Yeah, THAT’s gotta stop. Now. Like RIGHT NOW.

I don’t care if the hotties wear thongs, but no one - NO ONE - wants to see a diesel wearing one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It awkward for families. My kids say things like - I can see her butt. I tell them to move along, but I wish they wore bathing suits that covers their butts. It’s the same at Whole Foods. Why are some shoppers in a bra and hot pants? It’s not a gym. People don’t wear clothes anymore.

Grow up

MYOB

Tell your children to mind their own business and stop judging other people

It's always the bible thumpers.

And yet, you’d be the first one to call the cops if I walked around naked at your pool.

Stupid hypocrite

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. Stop ogling women’s bodies, OP.

Don’t wanna be ogled? Don’t wear thongs or other sexually flirtatious clothing.

But if you insist on letting your 16 year old daughter put her butt on display, then my sons are going to ogle her all day long. And they should.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Even thiccccc gals are getting into the thong game.

Yeah, THAT’s gotta stop. Now. Like RIGHT NOW.

I don’t care if the hotties wear thongs, but no one - NO ONE - wants to see a diesel wearing one.

Funny, they probably don't care what your bigoted a$$ thinks about it

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. Stop ogling women’s bodies, OP.

Don’t wanna be ogled? Don’t wear thongs or other sexually flirtatious clothing.

But if you insist on letting your 16 year old daughter put her butt on display, then my sons are going to ogle her all day long. And they should.

Ah, another one of those "she was asking for it" because of what she was wearing. Why are men so disgusting? Stop perpetuating this.

[Anonymous]

Just dress all of your precious little ones like the Amish. Problem solved! The Americcan Burka!

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Ours doesn't. My neighbor's 20 year old and her friends wore those bottoms that aren't quite thongs but also show off more than cheekies. She stopped because of the whispering from moms. I was in a group of moms who were loudly whispering about their bikinis. It was so immature and gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ours doesn't. My neighbor's 20 year old and her friends wore those bottoms that aren't quite thongs but also show off more than cheekies. She stopped because of the whispering from moms. I was in a group of moms who were loudly whispering about their bikinis. It was so immature and gross.

What was immature and gross - the moms loudly whispering about someone else’s clothes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m at our local pool and the thong bikini bottoms on the girls home from college are ridiculous. It’s attire that’s suitable for Rio or Cancun but totally out of place in a family venue.

I’m so glad I left dc. “Family venue” “reprehensible” lol

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. Stop ogling women’s bodies, OP.

Don’t wanna be ogled? Don’t wear thongs or other sexually flirtatious clothing.

But if you insist on letting your 16 year old daughter put her butt on display, then my sons are going to ogle her all day long. And they should.

Ah, another one of those "she was asking for it" because of what she was wearing. Why are men so disgusting? Stop perpetuating this.

She IS asking to be ogled. That’s the whole point of her wearing a thong as opposed to a normal bikini bottom - that’s WHY she chose a thong - for the attention. That’s WHY she’s wearing it.

F’ing Duh.