She doesn't actually need your permission to talk to him. Your divorce will be rough. She will talk to him and your child whenever and however she wants and there won't be anything you can do about it. |
You should be more like his mother. |
You think any of OPs reaction is normal? She knows her marriage is in trouble hence the freak out that his mom asked him how he was doing. |
It’s doomed because she’s controlling and can’t stand her husband speaking to his own mother. |
Are they allowed to ask you how you are doing if your husband is not present? |
OP is a controlling and abusive spouse. Trying to isolate someone from their family is text book. |
OP you need to understand and accept that 9 out of 10 MILs only care about their child, and care about their spouses only inasmuch as they add value to their children’s lives.
It’s just the way it is. Don’t expect your MIL to care even if she is polite enough to ask you how you are etc That’s why she is trying to assess the situation FOR HER SON and maybe her grandchild, and do so without you standing in the way and blocking the airwaves so to speak. Use your own parents for comfort! Stop expecting it from ILs! Signed, -someone who has been burned |
Yes, I do think it is normal, if she feels her DH is oversharing about the marriage with his mother and they are both judging her behind her back. Those of you who can’t muster an ounce of empathy for a new, tired mom who is acting somewhat irrationally… I really, really pity your kids for having you as a parent. Apparently they need to have perfect and logical behavior all the time or you will blast them. |
So I wasn’t wrong then when I said mil sees me merely as an incubator? That’s not good mil behavior. A lot of mils love and care about their DILs and even see them as a second daughter. |
They learned it from their mother and her treatment of grandma! |
Again if the grown man allows himself to be influenced by his wife when in 2024 he has his own car and cell phone that’s a him problem. Take that up with your actual child not their spouse. Your child is the one. |
The ones that love their DIL don’t have a DIL that berate them and keeps them away from their son. |
NP. Except that her son is grown and married it isn’t her job anymore to “protect” her grown married son. She doesn’t need to assess the situation as if he is a 5 yr old child needing mommy to determine if a friend is good for him to have. Let the marriage counselor do that. |
this seems like op posting. no real reason why anyone would be defending op who seems unhinged. |
The first step is admitting there is a huge problem in the marriage necessitating a counselor. OP hasn't even done that. But it's pretty obvious given how threatened she feels by her MIL spending any 1:1 time with her own son. A secure and happy marriage is not so easily threatened. |