My mother-in-law called me a "sadsack"
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Anonymous
Good point. no one would call anyone a sad sack nowadays. it's a term from 100 years ago that no one knows plus its totally insulting. Troll giveaway. |
Anonymous
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OP - she will probably never say anything like this to you again after you made your feelings known. If she does, have a response ready. For several years, my MIL said things like "I would have been bored out of my mind staying at home like you," and "I always worked because I liked having my own money," and "I tried staying at home and I hated it" and "shouldn't you go back to work, you probably don't even have enough quarters for social security."
All this and she knew her son worked until 10:30 every night and on weekends (he's an attorney). Finally after one of her comments, I said, "I've never been bored a day in my life, but I guess maybe you were bored because there wasn't as much to do in your day and you really did feel stuck at home unless you were working. I have plenty to do and love being here for my kids and spending time with them." That shut her up - she's never brought it up again. But just get used to these comments in general. I've had women make all kinds of weird, inappropriate comments about being a SAHM. At this point, I just think to myself "I don't care - have fun working." |
Anonymous
So by this “logic,” what you two are saying is that no strong, beautiful Black woman should ever feel insulted if someone screams the N-word at her. Because after all, that word can only hurt her if that’s the way she feels about herself? No gay couple should be hurt if someone screeches the “f-word” at them? They would only feel insulted or attacked if they secretly loathe themselves or each other for being gay? That’s your logic? Really? |
Anonymous
Good for you, this is actually what we teach starting in middle school. Everybody in this world will hear a story about you that is not true, who cares. Your close friends and family know the real you. Let the stories go, be you, be confident in who you are. No you didn't sleep with Joey Jock at the homecoming but everyone said you did, who care, you know you. |
Anonymous
No. But my aunt told me I could use some plastic surgery, she did it and healing was fast. I laughed out loud. My H's eye's popped out of his head. But I never felt hurt becuase... i don't need plastic surgery. Nobody can hurt you without your permission. |
Anonymous
If there was some level of communication here to people spending all day in your house, then you wouldn't get these Shock & Awe solicitation questions or comments. I assume OP didn't answer the question realtime either. When are you going to stop being such a sad sack OP? What did you answer her? Silence? a joke? never? "in a while." I'm not. Whoa rude comment. |
Anonymous
That's like saying I said, if your boyfriend said he's gonna kill you just ignore it, that is not what was said. Word of violence are different. It's actually sad that you can't differentiate a rude comment from a violent comment. Did OP think her MIL was being violent towards her? |
Anonymous
Dude, you can ask your immediate family what they're doing since their QUIT their job. In my MBA circles that'd be a big deal and big decision to exit the work force. We all understand quitting a terrible boss or company or position, but the natural next step is what's your plan and time frame, how can we help, what are you looking to do, or are you going to stay home for 3, 6, 9, forever months? BFD normal topic to tell family and friends. You don't hide it. You don't lie about it. sheesh. |
Anonymous
Sure, but it doesn't mean you should want rude, nasty people around you spouting nonsense. |
Anonymous
You think reading the OP is a "gotcha"? Do you know how forums work? |
Anonymous
It's normal to talk about it but not normal for someone to chime in and call you a sad sack for taking a break when you were not soliciting advice. |
Anonymous
Your last post reminds me of my Ex who would never talk about the elephant in the room or answer people's questions. It was partly due to slow processing speed, aspergers, wanting to please everyone, and not wanting to talk about anything except the weather or the news. His solution was to deflect, escalate and get the other person aggravated by riddles and silence. They'd ask nicely again. They'd point out they needed to stay on task. They ask again. More riddles and deflections. Then by the 7th time the person would say something about the rudeness or neglect or say You're Being an XYZ. Bingo! He got you. THen he'd start an argument about how bad you are and you name-call. All to save him from answering a normal question! He pissed of many people over the years and ruined many relationships doing this. |
Anonymous
NP. it's a good angle. Maybe the In laws gifted the down payment or 529s or vacations or trusts. We don't know either way. |
Anonymous
DP. there was not contempt from OP. she merely said a couple relevant facts: they don't take or need money from ILs, and another son does. |
Anonymous
+1 |