Why Aren’t More People Getting Married? Ask Women What Dating Is Like.

[Anonymous]

I also wonder when that last PP had sex. My guess, obese himself, living in mama's basement and gaming all day. Just a hunch.

[Anonymous]

Unpopular opinion — the sexual revolution has gone too far. There’s such pressure to have sex early in a relationship, to be into kinks or things that were fairly unusual even a generation or two ago…..I think there’s a fair number of women who just are t into that scene and so are bowing out of the dating life. I know many who are in the camp of — if I meet a great guy, wonderful, but I’m not putting myself out there on the apps or going on a ton of blind dates. I mean, it’s fun to watch women on TV have the various humiliations of modern dating (girls, insecure, etc) but not so fun to do it yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unpopular opinion — the sexual revolution has gone too far. There’s such pressure to have sex early in a relationship, to be into kinks or things that were fairly unusual even a generation or two ago…..I think there’s a fair number of women who just are t into that scene and so are bowing out of the dating life. I know many who are in the camp of — if I meet a great guy, wonderful, but I’m not putting myself out there on the apps or going on a ton of blind dates. I mean, it’s fun to watch women on TV have the various humiliations of modern dating (girls, insecure, etc) but not so fun to do it yourself.

How about: I will be sweet and pleasant and sociable and open to dating a guy who might want to have a family where I as the mom would stay home when the kids are small and raise them. This may require financial sacrifice but is best for the children when they are young.

I will only get serious with a guy that has good character. I won't waste time with guys who don't seem like they would make good husbands and fathers. I wont tell him that I have the absolute right to abort any fetuses we may produce together on the first date.

[Anonymous]

if I meet a great guy, wonderful, but I’m not putting myself out there on the apps or going on a ton of blind dates.

Ah, your prince is going to ride up and knock on your front door. If that actually works, great.

[Anonymous]

this article rings true to me.

My DH is a pretty good partner compared to men.

I sort of wish I didn’t know about women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A couple of points:

As a man I don't want to raise someone else's kids. (You want a good man? Don't have kids outside of marriage.)

Many women in DC are smart, that's great! But many are ~40+ and have prioritized their careers over family for most of their lives. I don't care about the status-level of my partner's job. I don't care how much money my partner makes. I do care if someone will be a good partner and can give me time and togetherness. (The DC area dating apps are filled with attractive, single, smart, 40 year old female attorneys.)

Women who are fat aren't attractive. (Most women who are online dating are obese. You want a good man? Have good hygiene, go to the gym regularly and diet.)

Women who are old aren't attractive. (You want a man? Lock one down before you turn 35-40. After 45 most women are invisible to men and you'll be stuck dating 60 year old men.)

Most people (men or women) who are still dating and never married by their late 30s-40s aren't partner material. (Emotional, psychological, sexual, commitment issues...)

Are looks important to men? Yes! And sex and a real emotional connection.

One easy fact about dating: if you want to find someone who will commit to you, date someone who is less attractive than you are. If you are a 6, date a 4 or 5.

You are so desireable! Can you please print this on a T shirt and wear it, so we single ladies can find you? TIA! XOXOXO

[Anonymous]

Marriage isn’t worth it for most women. Most men, despite what they say about equality, still expect that women will take care of the kids, take care of the home, take care of social arrangements, and provide endless comfort and sex. In exchange, they provide half or less of the household income and bail out of home life at every opportunity for their “hobbies”. And if it wasn’t bad enough, a significant percentage of men trade in for a younger, healthier model when their long-suffering spouse becomes ill with a life-threatening disease and can no longer meet her many responsibilities.

Why would any self-supporting, self-respecting woman choose this?

Men who have a true partnership mindset will do well. The traditional husband/trad wives will do just fine as well. It’s the overgrown teenagers that will stay virgins forever because they have a negative value proposition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Marriage isn’t worth it for most women. Most men, despite what they say about equality, still expect that women will take care of the kids, take care of the home, take care of social arrangements, and provide endless comfort and sex. In exchange, they provide half or less of the household income and bail out of home life at every opportunity for their “hobbies”. And if it wasn’t bad enough, a significant percentage of men trade in for a younger, healthier model when their long-suffering spouse becomes ill with a life-threatening disease and can no longer meet her many responsibilities.

Why would any self-supporting, self-respecting woman choose this?

Men who have a true partnership mindset will do well. The traditional husband/trad wives will do just fine as well. It’s the overgrown teenagers that will stay virgins forever because they have a negative value proposition.

Most men are pitiful. Which has made dating a bounty for those of us who are successful, tall, good hairline, in shape, and know how to talk to women. No need for a partnership mindset at all. Too much fun with hookups and flings. Lmao at the virgin insult.

[Anonymous]

DCUM is so weird. 90% of the women I know are married and actually happy in their marriages. Most of the husbands are nice and involved with their kids. I see many of them at school pick-up, hanging out at the playground until the playground "closes" for aftercare. They are also on the grade-level WhatsApp chats posting pics from whatever school sports game/XC meet happened over the weekend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unpopular opinion — the sexual revolution has gone too far. There’s such pressure to have sex early in a relationship, to be into kinks or things that were fairly unusual even a generation or two ago…..I think there’s a fair number of women who just are t into that scene and so are bowing out of the dating life. I know many who are in the camp of — if I meet a great guy, wonderful, but I’m not putting myself out there on the apps or going on a ton of blind dates. I mean, it’s fun to watch women on TV have the various humiliations of modern dating (girls, insecure, etc) but not so fun to do it yourself.

No. If anything people are now having sex much later vs other generations and “kinks” alway happened. It just there is no guaranteed right to have a relationship or marry a man. I know many women who come from fairly wealthy families and went to highly selective schools who have never gotten married. They were always looking for some prefect guy not realizing they were not prefect themselves.

[Anonymous]

DCUM has become an incel forum for divorced women. Just remarkably full of bitterness, bad statistics, cope, and conspiracy theories.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DCUM is so weird. 90% of the women I know are married and actually happy in their marriages. Most of the husbands are nice and involved with their kids. I see many of them at school pick-up, hanging out at the playground until the playground "closes" for aftercare. They are also on the grade-level WhatsApp chats posting pics from whatever school sports game/XC meet happened over the weekend.

Which school, may I ask you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DCUM has become an incel forum for divorced women. Just remarkably full of bitterness, bad statistics, cope, and conspiracy theories.

Omg yes [phone]. There is a femcel epidemic on the internet right now, 10 years or so after the male version first sprung up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DCUM has become an incel forum for divorced women. Just remarkably full of bitterness, bad statistics, cope, and conspiracy theories.

Omg yes [phone]. There is a femcel epidemic on the internet right now, 10 years or so after the male version first sprung up.

They still get laid all the time. They’re InSols.

[Anonymous]

I don't really care who gets married. It only matters when unmarried people have children together and it's not as stable of a life for the children.