Why Aren’t More People Getting Married? Ask Women What Dating Is Like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is funny how that verbose misogynist thinks he is God’s gift to women.

Gonna be a real shock to that guy when he's living with an actual human, who he believes is an idea instead of a person, and both of them go through life's big and little struggles.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM has become an incel forum for divorced women. Just remarkably full of bitterness, bad statistics, cope, and conspiracy theories.

Omg yes [phone]. There is a femcel epidemic on the internet right now, 10 years or so after the male version first sprung up.

They still get laid all the time. They’re InSols.

If you read here, a lot of them aren't getting laid all the time and are angry about the options available to them.

[Anonymous]

Its weird how the sexual revolution has led to fertility rates dropping off a cliff. Its like the more sexually revolutionized population is committing suicide and checking out from the planet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DCUM is so weird. 90% of the women I know are married and actually happy in their marriages. Most of the husbands are nice and involved with their kids. I see many of them at school pick-up, hanging out at the playground until the playground "closes" for aftercare. They are also on the grade-level WhatsApp chats posting pics from whatever school sports game/XC meet happened over the weekend.

Just curious how old you are and your socioeconomic background. This is definitely what I see among the highly educated women and men that I work with that are under age 40 or so. For those of us over age 50 or so, somewhat different, and I suspect also maybe in different geographical or socioeconomic communities.

[Anonymous]

Someone gave me this great advice:
Why buy the cow when the milk is free…
And when the cow gets old, get a younger one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DCUM is so weird. 90% of the women I know are married and actually happy in their marriages. Most of the husbands are nice and involved with their kids. I see many of them at school pick-up, hanging out at the playground until the playground "closes" for aftercare. They are also on the grade-level WhatsApp chats posting pics from whatever school sports game/XC meet happened over the weekend.

Just curious how old you are and your socioeconomic background. This is definitely what I see among the highly educated women and men that I work with that are under age 40 or so. For those of us over age 50 or so, somewhat different, and I suspect also maybe in different geographical or socioeconomic communities.

+1
Sucks for us older moms but great for society and our daughters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DCUM has become an incel forum for divorced women. Just remarkably full of bitterness, bad statistics, cope, and conspiracy theories.

Feminists are irrational. First they say a woman doesn't need a man to raise a child, she can do it herself. But if they do happen to find a man stupid enough to want to partner with them, they insist he do at least 50% of the child care.

Why? A child doesn't need a father.

So what can't a feminists husband do other stuff with his time if he wants to?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:90% of the women I know are married and actually happy in their marriages. Most of the husbands are nice and involved with their kids.

definitely what I see among the highly educated women and men that I work with that are under age 40 or so. For those of us over age 50 or so, somewhat different,

+1
Sucks for us older moms but great for society and our daughters.

How is it different or worse for older moms? I presume their husbands are also older and richer. Or are those older moms divorced or dissatisfied with their marriages?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A couple of points:

As a man I don't want to raise someone else's kids. (You want a good man? Don't have kids outside of marriage.)

Many women in DC are smart, that's great! But many are ~40+ and have prioritized their careers over family for most of their lives. I don't care about the status-level of my partner's job. I don't care how much money my partner makes. I do care if someone will be a good partner and can give me time and togetherness. (The DC area dating apps are filled with attractive, single, smart, 40 year old female attorneys.)

Women who are fat aren't attractive. (Most women who are online dating are obese. You want a good man? Have good hygiene, go to the gym regularly and diet.)

Women who are old aren't attractive. (You want a man? Lock one down before you turn 35-40. After 45 most women are invisible to men and you'll be stuck dating 60 year old men.)

Most people (men or women) who are still dating and never married by their late 30s-40s aren't partner material. (Emotional, psychological, sexual, commitment issues...)

Are looks important to men? Yes! And sex and a real emotional connection.

One easy fact about dating: if you want to find someone who will commit to you, date someone who is less attractive than you are. If you are a 6, date a 4 or 5.

Men are always putting down fat women but I see fat women with partners all the time. My SIL is very overweight whereas I am in shape and men will look past me to check her out.

People seem to be triggered with this article but I can understand why women would want to stay single. They are now expected to work also and on top of that are still primarily responsible for housework and child rearing, even women who work full-time. I know so many working moms who are stressed to the max.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A couple of points:

As a man I don't want to raise someone else's kids. (You want a good man? Don't have kids outside of marriage.)

Many women in DC are smart, that's great! But many are ~40+ and have prioritized their careers over family for most of their lives. I don't care about the status-level of my partner's job. I don't care how much money my partner makes. I do care if someone will be a good partner and can give me time and togetherness. (The DC area dating apps are filled with attractive, single, smart, 40 year old female attorneys.)

Women who are fat aren't attractive. (Most women who are online dating are obese. You want a good man? Have good hygiene, go to the gym regularly and diet.)

Women who are old aren't attractive. (You want a man? Lock one down before you turn 35-40. After 45 most women are invisible to men and you'll be stuck dating 60 year old men.)

Most people (men or women) who are still dating and never married by their late 30s-40s aren't partner material. (Emotional, psychological, sexual, commitment issues...)

Are looks important to men? Yes! And sex and a real emotional connection.

One easy fact about dating: if you want to find someone who will commit to you, date someone who is less attractive than you are. If you are a 6, date a 4 or 5.

Men are always putting down fat women but I see fat women with partners all the time. My SIL is very overweight whereas I am in shape and men will look past me to check her out.

People seem to be triggered with this article but I can understand why women would want to stay single. They are now expected to work also and on top of that are still primarily responsible for housework and child rearing, even women who work full-time. I know so many working moms who are stressed to the max.

Women are getting married when they want to have kids because it is generally better to have two parents to raise a child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DCUM is so weird. 90% of the women I know are married and actually happy in their marriages. Most of the husbands are nice and involved with their kids. I see many of them at school pick-up, hanging out at the playground until the playground "closes" for aftercare. They are also on the grade-level WhatsApp chats posting pics from whatever school sports game/XC meet happened over the weekend.

Just curious how old you are and your socioeconomic background. This is definitely what I see among the highly educated women and men that I work with that are under age 40 or so. For those of us over age 50 or so, somewhat different, and I suspect also maybe in different geographical or socioeconomic communities.

+1
Sucks for us older moms but great for society and our daughters.

NP but I also interact with families that have involved dads (exceptions are the lesbians and single moms by choice). I’m in my 30s and I think most of the parents I meet are also 30s-40s, white collar but not especially rich. (IRL upper middle class, probably DCUM middle class/poor)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't find the source anymore, but I read an interesting article about how, historically, a good percentage of the population did not marry. They joined religious orders, joined the army, became educators, moved in with family to help out ... we have this cultural ideal that everybody pairs off, but that has never been true and, socially speaking, doesn't need to be true. Single people are a normal part of society.

Those people were often voluntarily celibate, though, or removed from the societal sexual marketplace by death, disease, disability, and so on, in. Societal and medical pressures also enforced a strict sexual code. Promiscuity led to death, ostracization, etc.

Much current misery for both sexes comes from these people, who would historically be single in the true since of the word, trying to have it both ways, being unmarried and still consorting with the opposite sex, and becoming jaded and bitter over time through failure after failure with said opposite sex. Sorry, but it just doesn’t work out in the long term.

I have a LOT of friends I met at church, and this doesn’t describe us at all. I have no idea where you get this idea from, but feel free to show me the peer reviewed studies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't find the source anymore, but I read an interesting article about how, historically, a good percentage of the population did not marry. They joined religious orders, joined the army, became educators, moved in with family to help out ... we have this cultural ideal that everybody pairs off, but that has never been true and, socially speaking, doesn't need to be true. Single people are a normal part of society.

Those people were often voluntarily celibate, though, or removed from the societal sexual marketplace by death, disease, disability, and so on, in. Societal and medical pressures also enforced a strict sexual code. Promiscuity led to death, ostracization, etc.

Much current misery for both sexes comes from these people, who would historically be single in the true since of the word, trying to have it both ways, being unmarried and still consorting with the opposite sex, and becoming jaded and bitter over time through failure after failure with said opposite sex. Sorry, but it just doesn’t work out in the long term.

I have a LOT of friends I met at church, and this doesn’t describe us at all. I have no idea where you get this idea from, but feel free to show me the peer reviewed studies.

How about I’ll show you the peer reviewed studies for an idea (lol) when you get married, deal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DCUM is so weird. 90% of the women I know are married and actually happy in their marriages. Most of the husbands are nice and involved with their kids. I see many of them at school pick-up, hanging out at the playground until the playground "closes" for aftercare. They are also on the grade-level WhatsApp chats posting pics from whatever school sports game/XC meet happened over the weekend.

Just curious how old you are and your socioeconomic background. This is definitely what I see among the highly educated women and men that I work with that are under age 40 or so. For those of us over age 50 or so, somewhat different, and I suspect also maybe in different geographical or socioeconomic communities.

Interesting. I’m in my late 40s and see the same as PP, but maybe everything will change when we all turn 50?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Someone gave me this great advice:
Why buy the cow when the milk is free…
And when the cow gets old, get a younger one.

+1