Husband mad because I wouldn’t get him toilet paper

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife does this with glasses. She leaves half full water glasses all over the house and then complains that there aren't any clean ones.

About once a week I take her car keys and hide them. When she asks if I've seen them I tell her she can have them back when she collects all the glasses and puts them in the dishwasher, after she pours all the water into the dog bowl. I don't want it going to waste.

Celebrated 18 years in May.

Did you "celebrate" tho? Those of you who assume the worst intentions are exhausting. I have ADHD and I can't imagine being married to somebody who expected perfection all the time. I don't expect it of my non-ADHD DH and he doesn't expect it from me. OP could have used this as an opportunity to tease her DH, or bribe him for something fun if she brings the paper. Her DH isn't doing it because he is a jerk, he legitimately forgets and I'm sure feels bad about himself every time he does because she nags him. Relax, people. Go with grace and love.

OP here. Like 20 times? He doesn’t do this at work. He does it at home because he knows I’ll bail him out. That’s what makes it jerk behavior. Sorry. But if you don’t learn your lesson the first few times I’m not helping anymore. It’s frigging tp. Walk to the basement and get some every week. It’s not hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife does this with glasses. She leaves half full water glasses all over the house and then complains that there aren't any clean ones.

About once a week I take her car keys and hide them. When she asks if I've seen them I tell her she can have them back when she collects all the glasses and puts them in the dishwasher, after she pours all the water into the dog bowl. I don't want it going to waste.

Celebrated 18 years in May.

Maybe YOU celebrated. Your DW, however, may be contemplating why she's wasted most of her adult life being controlled and treated like an errant child by her supposed equal partner in life.

Oooh this one’s easy! It’s because she’s acting like one!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife does this with glasses. She leaves half full water glasses all over the house and then complains that there aren't any clean ones.

About once a week I take her car keys and hide them. When she asks if I've seen them I tell her she can have them back when she collects all the glasses and puts them in the dishwasher, after she pours all the water into the dog bowl. I don't want it going to waste.

Celebrated 18 years in May.

Did you "celebrate" tho? Those of you who assume the worst intentions are exhausting. I have ADHD and I can't imagine being married to somebody who expected perfection all the time. I don't expect it of my non-ADHD DH and he doesn't expect it from me. OP could have used this as an opportunity to tease her DH, or bribe him for something fun if she brings the paper. Her DH isn't doing it because he is a jerk, he legitimately forgets and I'm sure feels bad about himself every time he does because she nags him. Relax, people. Go with grace and love.

OP here. Like 20 times? He doesn’t do this at work. He does it at home because he knows I’ll bail him out. That’s what makes it jerk behavior. Sorry. But if you don’t learn your lesson the first few times I’m not helping anymore. It’s frigging tp. Walk to the basement and get some every week. It’s not hard.

What's it like to be perfect?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife does this with glasses. She leaves half full water glasses all over the house and then complains that there aren't any clean ones.

About once a week I take her car keys and hide them. When she asks if I've seen them I tell her she can have them back when she collects all the glasses and puts them in the dishwasher, after she pours all the water into the dog bowl. I don't want it going to waste.

Celebrated 18 years in May.

Did you "celebrate" tho? Those of you who assume the worst intentions are exhausting. I have ADHD and I can't imagine being married to somebody who expected perfection all the time. I don't expect it of my non-ADHD DH and he doesn't expect it from me. OP could have used this as an opportunity to tease her DH, or bribe him for something fun if she brings the paper. Her DH isn't doing it because he is a jerk, he legitimately forgets and I'm sure feels bad about himself every time he does because she nags him. Relax, people. Go with grace and love.

Picking up after yourself is 'expecting perfection'?

Huh, TIL. I thought it was just being a decent person 101.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife does this with glasses. She leaves half full water glasses all over the house and then complains that there aren't any clean ones.

About once a week I take her car keys and hide them. When she asks if I've seen them I tell her she can have them back when she collects all the glasses and puts them in the dishwasher, after she pours all the water into the dog bowl. I don't want it going to waste.

Celebrated 18 years in May.

Maybe YOU celebrated. Your DW, however, may be contemplating why she's wasted most of her adult life being controlled and treated like an errant child by her supposed equal partner in life.

Oooh this one’s easy! It’s because she’s acting like one!

You are so bothered by glasses being out that you would disrespect and denigrate your life partner? Okay. Have fun with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife does this with glasses. She leaves half full water glasses all over the house and then complains that there aren't any clean ones.

About once a week I take her car keys and hide them. When she asks if I've seen them I tell her she can have them back when she collects all the glasses and puts them in the dishwasher, after she pours all the water into the dog bowl. I don't want it going to waste.

Celebrated 18 years in May.

Did you "celebrate" tho? Those of you who assume the worst intentions are exhausting. I have ADHD and I can't imagine being married to somebody who expected perfection all the time. I don't expect it of my non-ADHD DH and he doesn't expect it from me. OP could have used this as an opportunity to tease her DH, or bribe him for something fun if she brings the paper. Her DH isn't doing it because he is a jerk, he legitimately forgets and I'm sure feels bad about himself every time he does because she nags him. Relax, people. Go with grace and love.

Picking up after yourself is 'expecting perfection'?

Huh, TIL. I thought it was just being a decent person 101.

Yes. It is. Nobody can pick up after themselves 100% of the time, especially when raising children. I doubt it's that OP's DH doesn't ever remember anything and never picks up after himself. It's that he forgets about TP in the one bathroom. You all are miserable.

My DH leaves his socks on the floor, the sink counter is always wet — I pick them up for him and wipe the counter. I leave books out and always have three drinking glasses going — he tidies up for me if it bothers him. We are partners, not bean counters. This kind of resentment is the kind that festers into bigger things. Once you stop being kind to each other, it's over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife does this with glasses. She leaves half full water glasses all over the house and then complains that there aren't any clean ones.

About once a week I take her car keys and hide them. When she asks if I've seen them I tell her she can have them back when she collects all the glasses and puts them in the dishwasher, after she pours all the water into the dog bowl. I don't want it going to waste.

Celebrated 18 years in May.

Did you "celebrate" tho? Those of you who assume the worst intentions are exhausting. I have ADHD and I can't imagine being married to somebody who expected perfection all the time. I don't expect it of my non-ADHD DH and he doesn't expect it from me. OP could have used this as an opportunity to tease her DH, or bribe him for something fun if she brings the paper. Her DH isn't doing it because he is a jerk, he legitimately forgets and I'm sure feels bad about himself every time he does because she nags him. Relax, people. Go with grace and love.

OP here. Like 20 times? He doesn’t do this at work. He does it at home because he knows I’ll bail him out. That’s what makes it jerk behavior. Sorry. But if you don’t learn your lesson the first few times I’m not helping anymore. It’s frigging tp. Walk to the basement and get some every week. It’s not hard.

What's it like to be perfect?

Never said I was. But generally if I am doing something that annoys my husband, he tells me. Then I change my behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife does this with glasses. She leaves half full water glasses all over the house and then complains that there aren't any clean ones.

About once a week I take her car keys and hide them. When she asks if I've seen them I tell her she can have them back when she collects all the glasses and puts them in the dishwasher, after she pours all the water into the dog bowl. I don't want it going to waste.

Celebrated 18 years in May.

Maybe YOU celebrated. Your DW, however, may be contemplating why she's wasted most of her adult life being controlled and treated like an errant child by her supposed equal partner in life.

Oooh this one’s easy! It’s because she’s acting like one!

You are so bothered by glasses being out that you would disrespect and denigrate your life partner? Okay. Have fun with that.

I’m guessing PP is more bothered by his wife acting like a child. But that’s just a guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife does this with glasses. She leaves half full water glasses all over the house and then complains that there aren't any clean ones.

About once a week I take her car keys and hide them. When she asks if I've seen them I tell her she can have them back when she collects all the glasses and puts them in the dishwasher, after she pours all the water into the dog bowl. I don't want it going to waste.

Celebrated 18 years in May.

Maybe YOU celebrated. Your DW, however, may be contemplating why she's wasted most of her adult life being controlled and treated like an errant child by her supposed equal partner in life.

Oooh this one’s easy! It’s because she’s acting like one!

You are so bothered by glasses being out that you would disrespect and denigrate your life partner? Okay. Have fun with that.

Anyone would be bothered if there were no glasses for them or the kids. And I'd argue that the wife is a child if she expects people to follow behind her picking up the toys she threw from the stroller.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife does this with glasses. She leaves half full water glasses all over the house and then complains that there aren't any clean ones.

About once a week I take her car keys and hide them. When she asks if I've seen them I tell her she can have them back when she collects all the glasses and puts them in the dishwasher, after she pours all the water into the dog bowl. I don't want it going to waste.

Celebrated 18 years in May.

Maybe YOU celebrated. Your DW, however, may be contemplating why she's wasted most of her adult life being controlled and treated like an errant child by her supposed equal partner in life.

Oooh this one’s easy! It’s because she’s acting like one!

You are so bothered by glasses being out that you would disrespect and denigrate your life partner? Okay. Have fun with that.

I’m guessing PP is more bothered by his wife acting like a child. But that’s just a guess.

How is forgetting to put a glass in the dishwasher "acting like a child"? You sound like a fun and loving human.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife does this with glasses. She leaves half full water glasses all over the house and then complains that there aren't any clean ones.

About once a week I take her car keys and hide them. When she asks if I've seen them I tell her she can have them back when she collects all the glasses and puts them in the dishwasher, after she pours all the water into the dog bowl. I don't want it going to waste.

Celebrated 18 years in May.

Maybe YOU celebrated. Your DW, however, may be contemplating why she's wasted most of her adult life being controlled and treated like an errant child by her supposed equal partner in life.

Oooh this one’s easy! It’s because she’s acting like one!

You are so bothered by glasses being out that you would disrespect and denigrate your life partner? Okay. Have fun with that.

I’m guessing PP is more bothered by his wife acting like a child. But that’s just a guess.

How is forgetting to put a glass in the dishwasher "acting like a child"? You sound like a fun and loving human.

You might be right. Expecting someone else to constantly clean up after you is more like entitlement, with a little bit of childlike mentality thrown in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife does this with glasses. She leaves half full water glasses all over the house and then complains that there aren't any clean ones.

About once a week I take her car keys and hide them. When she asks if I've seen them I tell her she can have them back when she collects all the glasses and puts them in the dishwasher, after she pours all the water into the dog bowl. I don't want it going to waste.

Celebrated 18 years in May.

Maybe YOU celebrated. Your DW, however, may be contemplating why she's wasted most of her adult life being controlled and treated like an errant child by her supposed equal partner in life.

Oooh this one’s easy! It’s because she’s acting like one!

You are so bothered by glasses being out that you would disrespect and denigrate your life partner? Okay. Have fun with that.

I’m guessing PP is more bothered by his wife acting like a child. But that’s just a guess.

How is forgetting to put a glass in the dishwasher "acting like a child"? You sound like a fun and loving human.

You might be right. Expecting someone else to constantly clean up after you is more like entitlement, with a little bit of childlike mentality thrown in.

This is you assuming worst intentions. Nowhere did PP say that his wife says "why didn't you put the glasses away so we could have clean ones?" My guess is PP's DW has a weakness, like all humans. PP could sit his wife down and explain how much it bothers him, instead of hiding her keys and treating her like garbage.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife does this with glasses. She leaves half full water glasses all over the house and then complains that there aren't any clean ones.

About once a week I take her car keys and hide them. When she asks if I've seen them I tell her she can have them back when she collects all the glasses and puts them in the dishwasher, after she pours all the water into the dog bowl. I don't want it going to waste.

Celebrated 18 years in May.

Maybe YOU celebrated. Your DW, however, may be contemplating why she's wasted most of her adult life being controlled and treated like an errant child by her supposed equal partner in life.

Oooh this one’s easy! It’s because she’s acting like one!

You are so bothered by glasses being out that you would disrespect and denigrate your life partner? Okay. Have fun with that.

I’m guessing PP is more bothered by his wife acting like a child. But that’s just a guess.

How is forgetting to put a glass in the dishwasher "acting like a child"? You sound like a fun and loving human.

You might be right. Expecting someone else to constantly clean up after you is more like entitlement, with a little bit of childlike mentality thrown in.

This is you assuming worst intentions. Nowhere did PP say that his wife says "why didn't you put the glasses away so we could have clean ones?" My guess is PP's DW has a weakness, like all humans. PP could sit his wife down and explain how much it bothers him, instead of hiding her keys and treating her like garbage.

OP here. I DID tell my husband how much it bothered me. Yet the behavior continued. I’m done giving grace. He got 18 years of grace. Act like an adult and get the damn toilet paper!

[Anonymous]

I hope he keeps it empty just to annoy the petty wife. Maybe he’ll even run bare upstairs when you have a visitor next time- wouldn’t that be fun?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope he keeps it empty just to annoy the petty wife. Maybe he’ll even run bare upstairs when you have a visitor next time- wouldn’t that be fun?!

OP - wouldn’t bother me in the least! But like I said before, he wasn’t bare yesterday. He was wearing his underwear and pants.