Son blind sided by GF

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Anonymous wrote:My son has a GF of three years and they were ready to take the next step. He called me bc the GF now wants to move from DC back to her hometown 6 hours away to be w[b]ith her family and would like him to come. At the outset of the relationship they had aligned their goals and she agreed she lik[/b]e DC and was going to stay, so this was a surprise to him. We get why she wants to move home, but that is not his home, DC is and he has built relationships and friends and a business network here. Additionally she is tight with her family and when there was some misunderstanding with one of her siblings with him (dumb stuff) the GF immediately aligned with her family which makes him uncomfortable following her back to her hometown, knowing his support system there might be shaky. He loved her and imagined a life with her, just not this one. In addition they have travel plans in the next few months and he is trying to figure out if he should just end the relationship now, or do something that may or may not work for him.
I'm just a Mom, but I see danger ahead if he goes, I had a tight family, not anymore, but his unease with this I feel is well founded. I just let him talk it out but was noncommittal, because I already don't think the GF really likes me for a number of reasons but keep that to myself, if they have a family I would never see my grandchildren and I know it.

I need clarification on the “and would like him to come”. Is this “I think WE should move here for next stage of life” or I’m moving and I hope you join me? Does she have a job there? Is she moving home for lower housing costs and help with eventual children? Or is this “I can work from anywhere and don’t want to be far from my family anymore” ?

That’s all for son to figure out. Not his mommy.

Who can men ask for advice? Daughters ask for advice all the time.

Their father? Close friends?

Anyone but their mom? That is insane.

This is unfair and sexist. Moms are as capable to give a sound and fair advice as any other adult.

Moms are fine but fathers can provide a different perspective. Close friends are going through the same life stage and can relate as a peer.

Friends give a lot of bad advice. Tell you want you want to hear and don't give it to you straight.

Maybe your friends do. Mine have always given me unselfish, honest advice.

You just think they do. Nobody wants tough love or honest advice.

Sorry you don’t have real friends

You're being dishonest. Women tell each other crap all the time. "I'm sure he is just busy at work!" when the truth is "he's just not that into you!" Get real.

That's not my reality but enjoy your shallow friends.

You would never know, but keep on blindly trusting. You're the exact kind of sucker to fall for the blowing smoke from friends.

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Anonymous wrote:My son has a GF of three years and they were ready to take the next step. He called me bc the GF now wants to move from DC back to her hometown 6 hours away to be w[b]ith her family and would like him to come. At the outset of the relationship they had aligned their goals and she agreed she lik[/b]e DC and was going to stay, so this was a surprise to him. We get why she wants to move home, but that is not his home, DC is and he has built relationships and friends and a business network here. Additionally she is tight with her family and when there was some misunderstanding with one of her siblings with him (dumb stuff) the GF immediately aligned with her family which makes him uncomfortable following her back to her hometown, knowing his support system there might be shaky. He loved her and imagined a life with her, just not this one. In addition they have travel plans in the next few months and he is trying to figure out if he should just end the relationship now, or do something that may or may not work for him.
I'm just a Mom, but I see danger ahead if he goes, I had a tight family, not anymore, but his unease with this I feel is well founded. I just let him talk it out but was noncommittal, because I already don't think the GF really likes me for a number of reasons but keep that to myself, if they have a family I would never see my grandchildren and I know it.

I need clarification on the “and would like him to come”. Is this “I think WE should move here for next stage of life” or I’m moving and I hope you join me? Does she have a job there? Is she moving home for lower housing costs and help with eventual children? Or is this “I can work from anywhere and don’t want to be far from my family anymore” ?

That’s all for son to figure out. Not his mommy.

Who can men ask for advice? Daughters ask for advice all the time.

This isn’t what the issue is about. Keep playing games. You probably have terrible relationships as you think they are all about who wins in the manipulation competition.

Playing games? The ones manipulating are the weirdos insisting mothers have to be aloof unbiased strangers when speaking to adult sons. What in the world?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Boyfriend is not serious about the relationship and his mom is a nightmare. Good for her to run away.

She's not running away. She's asking him to move with her. He's the one running away from her with his "cut my losses and drop her now" attitude. Good riddance. She deserves a man who loves her enough to stay.

It goes both ways. He also deserves a woman who
Loves him enough to stay.

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Anonymous wrote:My son has a GF of three years and they were ready to take the next step. He called me bc the GF now wants to move from DC back to her hometown 6 hours away to be w[b]ith her family and would like him to come. At the outset of the relationship they had aligned their goals and she agreed she lik[/b]e DC and was going to stay, so this was a surprise to him. We get why she wants to move home, but that is not his home, DC is and he has built relationships and friends and a business network here. Additionally she is tight with her family and when there was some misunderstanding with one of her siblings with him (dumb stuff) the GF immediately aligned with her family which makes him uncomfortable following her back to her hometown, knowing his support system there might be shaky. He loved her and imagined a life with her, just not this one. In addition they have travel plans in the next few months and he is trying to figure out if he should just end the relationship now, or do something that may or may not work for him.
I'm just a Mom, but I see danger ahead if he goes, I had a tight family, not anymore, but his unease with this I feel is well founded. I just let him talk it out but was noncommittal, because I already don't think the GF really likes me for a number of reasons but keep that to myself, if they have a family I would never see my grandchildren and I know it.

I need clarification on the “and would like him to come”. Is this “I think WE should move here for next stage of life” or I’m moving and I hope you join me? Does she have a job there? Is she moving home for lower housing costs and help with eventual children? Or is this “I can work from anywhere and don’t want to be far from my family anymore” ?

That’s all for son to figure out. Not his mommy.

Who can men ask for advice? Daughters ask for advice all the time.

Their father? Close friends?

Anyone but their mom? That is insane.

This is unfair and sexist. Moms are as capable to give a sound and fair advice as any other adult.

Moms are fine but fathers can provide a different perspective. Close friends are going through the same life stage and can relate as a peer.

Friends give a lot of bad advice. Tell you want you want to hear and don't give it to you straight.

Maybe your friends do. Mine have always given me unselfish, honest advice.

You just think they do. Nobody wants tough love or honest advice.

Sorry you don’t have real friends

You're being dishonest. Women tell each other crap all the time. "I'm sure he is just busy at work!" when the truth is "he's just not that into you!" Get real.

That's not my reality but enjoy your shallow friends.

You wouldn't know if your friends are being disingenuous. You believe them when they tell you what you want to hear.

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Anonymous wrote:My son has a GF of three years and they were ready to take the next step. He called me bc the GF now wants to move from DC back to her hometown 6 hours away to be w[b]ith her family and would like him to come. At the outset of the relationship they had aligned their goals and she agreed she lik[/b]e DC and was going to stay, so this was a surprise to him. We get why she wants to move home, but that is not his home, DC is and he has built relationships and friends and a business network here. Additionally she is tight with her family and when there was some misunderstanding with one of her siblings with him (dumb stuff) the GF immediately aligned with her family which makes him uncomfortable following her back to her hometown, knowing his support system there might be shaky. He loved her and imagined a life with her, just not this one. In addition they have travel plans in the next few months and he is trying to figure out if he should just end the relationship now, or do something that may or may not work for him.
I'm just a Mom, but I see danger ahead if he goes, I had a tight family, not anymore, but his unease with this I feel is well founded. I just let him talk it out but was noncommittal, because I already don't think the GF really likes me for a number of reasons but keep that to myself, if they have a family I would never see my grandchildren and I know it.

I need clarification on the “and would like him to come”. Is this “I think WE should move here for next stage of life” or I’m moving and I hope you join me? Does she have a job there? Is she moving home for lower housing costs and help with eventual children? Or is this “I can work from anywhere and don’t want to be far from my family anymore” ?

That’s all for son to figure out. Not his mommy.

Who can men ask for advice? Daughters ask for advice all the time.

This isn’t what the issue is about. Keep playing games. You probably have terrible relationships as you think they are all about who wins in the manipulation competition.

Playing games? The ones manipulating are the weirdos insisting mothers have to be aloof unbiased strangers when speaking to adult sons. What in the world?

More dishonest talk. No one is saying mothers have to be aloof. What strange wording. Let's stop playing op. This is you. We would say the same thing to a dad. Look at your language in your original post. You want to convince ds not to leave you. That's what this is really about.

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Anonymous wrote:My son has a GF of three years and they were ready to take the next step. He called me bc the GF now wants to move from DC back to her hometown 6 hours away to be w[b]ith her family and would like him to come. At the outset of the relationship they had aligned their goals and she agreed she lik[/b]e DC and was going to stay, so this was a surprise to him. We get why she wants to move home, but that is not his home, DC is and he has built relationships and friends and a business network here. Additionally she is tight with her family and when there was some misunderstanding with one of her siblings with him (dumb stuff) the GF immediately aligned with her family which makes him uncomfortable following her back to her hometown, knowing his support system there might be shaky. He loved her and imagined a life with her, just not this one. In addition they have travel plans in the next few months and he is trying to figure out if he should just end the relationship now, or do something that may or may not work for him.
I'm just a Mom, but I see danger ahead if he goes, I had a tight family, not anymore, but his unease with this I feel is well founded. I just let him talk it out but was noncommittal, because I already don't think the GF really likes me for a number of reasons but keep that to myself, if they have a family I would never see my grandchildren and I know it.

I need clarification on the “and would like him to come”. Is this “I think WE should move here for next stage of life” or I’m moving and I hope you join me? Does she have a job there? Is she moving home for lower housing costs and help with eventual children? Or is this “I can work from anywhere and don’t want to be far from my family anymore” ?

That’s all for son to figure out. Not his mommy.

Who can men ask for advice? Daughters ask for advice all the time.

This isn’t what the issue is about. Keep playing games. You probably have terrible relationships as you think they are all about who wins in the manipulation competition.

Playing games? The ones manipulating are the weirdos insisting mothers have to be aloof unbiased strangers when speaking to adult sons. What in the world?

More dishonest talk. No one is saying mothers have to be aloof. What strange wording. Let's stop playing op. This is you. We would say the same thing to a dad. Look at your language in your original post. You want to convince ds not to leave you. That's what this is really about.

I'm not OP. OP is likely trolling anyway. But the responses in here are insane.

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Some crazy ars DILs on here

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Anonymous wrote:Boyfriend is not serious about the relationship and his mom is a nightmare. Good for her to run away.

She's not running away. She's asking him to move with her. He's the one running away from her with his "cut my losses and drop her now" attitude. Good riddance. She deserves a man who loves her enough to stay.

It goes both ways. He also deserves a woman who
Loves him enough to stay.

She stayed for three years. He's never been away from his home city.

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Anonymous wrote:My son has a GF of three years and they were ready to take the next step. He called me bc the GF now wants to move from DC back to her hometown 6 hours away to be w[b]ith her family and would like him to come. At the outset of the relationship they had aligned their goals and she agreed she lik[/b]e DC and was going to stay, so this was a surprise to him. We get why she wants to move home, but that is not his home, DC is and he has built relationships and friends and a business network here. Additionally she is tight with her family and when there was some misunderstanding with one of her siblings with him (dumb stuff) the GF immediately aligned with her family which makes him uncomfortable following her back to her hometown, knowing his support system there might be shaky. He loved her and imagined a life with her, just not this one. In addition they have travel plans in the next few months and he is trying to figure out if he should just end the relationship now, or do something that may or may not work for him.
I'm just a Mom, but I see danger ahead if he goes, I had a tight family, not anymore, but his unease with this I feel is well founded. I just let him talk it out but was noncommittal, because I already don't think the GF really likes me for a number of reasons but keep that to myself, if they have a family I would never see my grandchildren and I know it.

I need clarification on the “and would like him to come”. Is this “I think WE should move here for next stage of life” or I’m moving and I hope you join me? Does she have a job there? Is she moving home for lower housing costs and help with eventual children? Or is this “I can work from anywhere and don’t want to be far from my family anymore” ?

That’s all for son to figure out. Not his mommy.

Who can men ask for advice? Daughters ask for advice all the time.

Their father? Close friends?

Anyone but their mom? That is insane.

This is unfair and sexist. Moms are as capable to give a sound and fair advice as any other adult.

Moms are fine but fathers can provide a different perspective. Close friends are going through the same life stage and can relate as a peer.

Friends give a lot of bad advice. Tell you want you want to hear and don't give it to you straight.

Maybe your friends do. Mine have always given me unselfish, honest advice.

You just think they do. Nobody wants tough love or honest advice.

Sorry you don’t have real friends

You're being dishonest. Women tell each other crap all the time. "I'm sure he is just busy at work!" when the truth is "he's just not that into you!" Get real.

That's not my reality but enjoy your shallow friends.

You wouldn't know if your friends are being disingenuous. You believe them when they tell you what you want to hear.

You run with a superficial crowd. I feel sorry for you that you have never had a true friend.

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OP, don't you or your friends know a nice DC girl that would be perfect for your son?

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Most important point is their travel plan. From him wanting to go through the travel before breaking up says that either he is very frugal or hoping to find a solution.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, don't you or your friends know a nice DC girl that would be perfect for your son?

Perfect?

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All we need to know about op is in these few words: Blindsided, misrepresented.
Not, gf wants to move back home, or she changed her mind, or thinking about her future. nope all works are probably from OP's own playbook.

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Is there a guarantee that he won't have to ever move for a job or if next girlfriend would get along with mom or would sign a prenup to limit her living and working options to DC?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I am glad I gave the group so much satisfaction. Keep on hating.

See, you are truly beyond hope. Why such words or imagining her ill intent? Because that is how you act? Do you always imagine some crime in your head because you think like that?