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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b][quote=Anonymous]My son has a GF of three years and they were ready to take the next step. He called me bc the GF now wants to move from DC back to her hometown 6 hours away to be w[b]ith her family and would like him to come[/b]. At the outset of the relationship they had aligned their goals and she agreed she lik[/b]e DC and was going to stay, so this was a surprise to him. We get why she wants to move home, but that is not his home, DC is and he has built relationships and friends and a business network here. Additionally she is tight with her family and when there was some misunderstanding with one of her siblings with him (dumb stuff) the GF immediately aligned with her family which makes him uncomfortable following her back to her hometown, knowing his support system there might be shaky. He loved her and imagined a life with her, just not this one. In addition they have travel plans in the next few months and he is trying to figure out if he should just end the relationship now, or do something that may or may not work for him.
I'm just a Mom, but I see danger ahead if he goes, I had a tight family, not anymore, but his unease with this I feel is well founded. I just let him talk it out but was noncommittal, because I already don't think the GF really likes me for a number of reasons but keep that to myself, if they have a family I would never see my grandchildren and I know it. [/quote]

I need clarification on the “and would like him to come”. Is this “I think WE should move here for next stage of life” or I’m moving and I hope you join me? Does she have a job there? Is she moving home for lower housing costs and help with eventual children? Or is this “I can work from anywhere and don’t want to be far from my family anymore” ? [/quote]

That’s all for son to figure out. Not his mommy. [/quote]

Who can men ask for advice? Daughters ask for advice all the time. [/quote]

This isn’t what the issue is about. Keep playing games.  You probably have terrible relationships as you think they are all about who wins in the manipulation competition. [/quote]

Playing games? The ones manipulating are the weirdos insisting mothers have to be aloof unbiased strangers when speaking to adult sons. What in the world?[/quote]

More dishonest talk. No one is saying mothers have to be aloof. What strange wording. Let's stop playing op. This is you. We would say the same thing to a dad. Look at your language in your original post. You want to convince ds not to leave you. That's what this is really about. [/quote]

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