Mother surprised DD with tickets to a concert she doesn’t want to go to

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This makes me sad because the implication is Grandma thinks DD should be the kind of girl who likes Taylor Swift.

What ‘kind of girl’ likes Taylor Swift?

Your post makes me sad because you think a particular type of girl would like a particular type of music.

[Anonymous]

I would try to convince DD to go both for the experience and to bond with grandma (assuming she is generally comfortable with 1:1 time with her grandmother) but wouldn’t force it.

If she really didn’t want to go, I’d ask my mom if she’d be willing to take me instead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This makes me sad because the implication is Grandma thinks DD should be the kind of girl who likes Taylor Swift.

What ‘kind of girl’ likes Taylor Swift?

Your post makes me sad because you think a particular type of girl would like a particular type of music.

Did you not see the post from OP about DD not being the "type" of granddaughter OPs mom would want? That's what this is referencing, stop trying to make it into something else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gosh OP that is such a cool and generous gift from your mom. Your 14 year old is lucky!

I know why OP didn’t go out and immediately tell people it was a Taylor Swift concert because for some reason Taylor Swift fans can’t understand that not everyone is dying to go to her concert.

I'm a fan and certainly can understand why some people don't like her. I don't know why people who don't like Taylor Swift feel the need to knock down fans. It really isn't necessary.

Op Does your dd not like your mom? There has to be more to the story...

Because you people are truly insufferable. You cannot fathom that someone doesn’t feel the same way about a person as you do.

OMG look in a mirror.

I just said I get it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This makes me sad because the implication is Grandma thinks DD should be the kind of girl who likes Taylor Swift.

It really does.

I think OP should "gift" grandma something expensive she has to use and would not enjoy. Preferably something they have to do together. Payback, so grandma gets to see what it's like.

Like maybe surprise tickets to something that dd and OP would like and grandma would dislike.

[Anonymous]

Just tell her your DD doesn't want to go. Grandma won't have any trouble reselling those tickets.

[Anonymous]

DD should insist on flying grandma in for a dungeon's and dragons weekend and see how she likes it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I’d force her to go. It’s a concert not a prison sentence, and I think it’s important for teens to try new experiences.

I'd buy Grandma a trip to a nudist resort, and guilt trip her if she doesn't want to go. It's not a prison sentence, and it's important for old people to try new experiences!

Utterly bizarre forcing a child to attend an event she doesn't want to, and claim that it's "a gift."

Not remotely the same thing.

They are both new experiences, and things that the recipient is not into. Although who knows, maybe Grandma has an exhibitionist streak.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gosh OP that is such a cool and generous gift from your mom. Your 14 year old is lucky!

I know why OP didn’t go out and immediately tell people it was a Taylor Swift concert because for some reason Taylor Swift fans can’t understand that not everyone is dying to go to her concert.

I'm a fan and certainly can understand why some people don't like her. I don't know why people who don't like Taylor Swift feel the need to knock down fans. It really isn't necessary.

Op Does your dd not like your mom? There has to be more to the story...

Because you people are truly insufferable. You cannot fathom that someone doesn’t feel the same way about a person as you do.

OMG look in a mirror.

I do. I don’t go around telling people they’re missing out because they don’t listen to the same music as me. I’m not encouraging people to force their child to go to a concert they don’t want to go to because “it’s a cultural experience”.

Like get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can we all agree on one thing, that an activity one person enjoys tremendously can be a torture to someone else?

Nope. People who don’t enjoy Taylor Swift are clearly innately flawed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just tell her your DD doesn't want to go. Grandma won't have any trouble reselling those tickets.

Seriously.

Your (somewhat ungrateful) DD doesn’t want them. Return them to grandma and let her sell them for a huge profit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Tell your daughter to buck up and enjoy the concert. We make sacrifices and accommodations for family. Grandma isn’t perfect, but she won’t be around forever and let’s humor her and make some memories. If your daughter is truly distressed over this gift, then she is either too sensitive or too sheltered- either way going will be excellent for building resilience.

Agree with this. Definitely would be my approach.

Unless the grandma is abusive or somehow neglectful/irresponsible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just tell her your DD doesn't want to go. Grandma won't have any trouble reselling those tickets.

Seriously.

Your (somewhat ungrateful) DD doesn’t want them. Return them to grandma and let her sell them for a huge profit.

Let's not call ppl ungrateful just b/c they don't want a particular gift. It's one thing to smile and say thank you to a physical gift (that you can either use or donate), it's quite another to receive an experience gift that you know will make you miserable, not to mention having to sink time and effort into.

Would you give a teen who's allergic to dogs a puppy that you've always wanted? What's a super fun and welcome gift for some would be a nightmare for others.

[Anonymous]

Have we discussed how grandma successfully navigated Ticketmaster when most the rest of us failed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just tell her your DD doesn't want to go. Grandma won't have any trouble reselling those tickets.

Seriously.

Your (somewhat ungrateful) DD doesn’t want them. Return them to grandma and let her sell them for a huge profit.

I disagree with this point of view. If your spouse loved fishing and you don't but, on your birthday got you a new fishing rod for YOUR birthday would you say that you are ungrateful? No, Grandma was doing it to show off that she got tickets to something most people ( but, not the birthday girl who is most important) would envy. So Grandma did it for herself.

Tell Grandma now so she can sell or take another grandchild.