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Mother surprised DD with tickets to a concert she doesn’t want to go to
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Anonymous
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The concert is over a year away so who knows what will change by then but my mother bought DD(14) tickets to a concert for her birthday. DD doesn’t listen to this artist and has never showed interest in attending a concert.
My mom has a history of buying people big, expensive gifts without taking into account whether they actually want it or not. DD was polite about the gift at her party but later told me she really doesn’t want to go. She’s have to travel to attend and crowds just aren’t her thing. My Mom made a huge deal about it like it was the best gift ever and didn’t seem impressed with DD’s lack of enthusiasm (DD smiled and said thank you, but clearly wasn’t ecstatic). I know we have time to think about it and told DD not to worry (a million things could happen before now and then) but DD is a bit upset. She would have been happy with something 1/1000th the cost that actually pertained to her interest. I know how that feels, but it just the way my mom is. Would you force your kid to go? |
Anonymous
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More deets needed.
Travel to NYC for the night, yes. Fly to LA for the weekend no. |
Anonymous
| Yes. It’s a good opportunity to learn to find joy And things she might not think she will enjoy. It will be a bonding experience with her grandmother. |
Anonymous
| How many tickets? Who would she go with? There are many artists I wouldn’t pay for, but few that I wouldn’t go to if free. And if it’s Taylor Swift, go for the experience. She will give a good show and it should be interesting to see all they hype in person. No way she can’t get someone to go with her who wouldn’t have a blast. |
Anonymous
| Is this for Taylor swift next year? |
Anonymous
| Your DD should learn to step out of her comfort zone and experience things she wouldn’t pick for herself. She’s only 14!!! How bad can this be? |
Anonymous
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How many tickets did she get?
I’m generally in the don’t force kids to do stuff like this if they don’t want to, if Grandma didn’t ask for suggestions/ ideas and your kid has never mentioned the artist it’s seems weird. I’d probably try and sell them. |
Anonymous
Sure sounds like it! What else would be 1000 times the cost of a gift OP’s DD would enjoy |
Anonymous
Miami and it looks like it will be a school night. |
Anonymous
Just her and my mom and yes, it’s Taylor Swift. She says she’s not interested in seeing anyone in concert but really has never cared for Taylor Swift as an artist. She says it seems overwhelming and just “not her thing” and she seems genuinely stressed. |
Anonymous
| Which artist is it? |
Anonymous
Hoping by next year she will see it as a fun new experience. |
Anonymous
| Gosh OP that is such a cool and generous gift from your mom. Your 14 year old is lucky! |
Anonymous
| That is a special gift! I understand your mom’s hood intent. |
Anonymous
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Your mom didn’t ask you about this first?
I feel like it is inappropriate to buy concert tickets for a child that isn’t yours and requires and overnight stay out of state. I get “grandma” but still…not the parent. That would be something that requires parental permission and to make sure it is something the child would actually want to do before getting and surprising |