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How does your redshirted kid feel now that she/he is older?
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Anonymous
One of my friends from HS is a November birthday (male) who was sent on time (Dec 31 cutoff) and very much struggled socially and would absolutely redshirt a fall bday based on his experience. |
Anonymous
No it doesn’t. They are being taight same grade level material as the other kids in the class. If they are “smarter” it is bc their IQ is higher or their parents supplement at home- which parents of any kid can do, redshirted or not |
Anonymous
| DC felt older, taller and out of place. |
Anonymous
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The boy across the street was redshirted. He's now in 7th grade and is older than my DS who is in 8th grade. It's a good fit for the neighbor boy. He's among the tall-ish boys in his grade and is in advanced classes (ie, one grade level ahead, on par with my DS). He's also socially awkward - but what MS boy isn't - so the delayed year has been good for him socially.
My own MS boy probably would have benefitted from red-shirting. He hasn't hit puberty in 8th grade, is shorter for his grade, and is also socially awkward and going into HS next year. He'll be fine but he also would have been fine if he were in the grade below. |
Anonymous
No, they are not. |
Anonymous
Oh are you the one who has the very young short boy who was too short for the carnival rides and it was the redshirted kids problem? Or the kid who can't shine in school soccer because classmates are older? We get it. You hate your private school, but that's a you problem. |
Anonymous
You are wrong. |
Anonymous
Exact same for my older brother with a November birthday. He went to K at 4 and never fit in with his peers and played with kids a grade behind. He never did well in school and it was a struggle. He's doing well in life now mostly because he married a woman with a huge trust fund. In comparison, my Nov born husband was held back and was very successful in school, college, and beyond, and I didn't bring a trust fund to the marriage. |
Anonymous
No, I'm the PP in DCPS that has kids with winter birthdays. Tall girls that don't play soccer. I feel confident, based on our experience in DCPS, that OP's kid would be an anomaly in DCPS (if it was even allowed, I think 99% likely the principal would just say no), but I also don't think kids would care once they knew. OP, if you want specifics, I just looked at my current first grader's class and there are 5 of 18 kids that have August and September birthdays (so 6 for all of first grade), and 4 of 14 in last year's kindergarten class. Even if/when the school makes her go on time, she won't be alone and will have a cohort of similarly aged kids. There were also a couple of October birthdays both years (so would be 2 months younger than yours). Either way, it will be fine and she'll have peers in her class. |
Anonymous
| DCPS parent here again. OP, if you're still reading, you may want to start a new thread in the DCPS forum asking for feedback from parents of older kids. What part of the city are you moving to? My guess is that IF there are parents that redshirt in DCPS, it's going to be limited to families in Ward 3. The draw of universal pre-K is just too enticing for the rest of us that don't want to pay for that additional two years of daycare. |
Anonymous
| My July birthday DD started kindergarten after turning 6. She just graduated from college: magna cum laude with honors in her major, varsity athlete and team captain, and a member of the sorority with the highest GPA. In the fall, she will start work at a job in her major field in a city she loves. Most important, she is kind, warm, confident, curious, and able to speak truth to power. She has a wonderful group of friends from high school and from college. We have absolutely no regrets for "redshirting" her. |
Anonymous
I'm a professor. I think you have an outdated view of college, and/or just aren't familiar with the college landscape in the year 2023. Things are so fluid 'nowadays.' Remember, it is a minority of students who fall into the traditional, residential category (e.g., those who enroll immediately after high school and live in a dorm). Loads of people start college in their 20s, 30s, or later. Even among "traditional" freshmen, it is so common to take a gap year these days that "normal is to go at 18" is just outdated. There are states that have cutoffs of 8/1, there are students who come from overseas where cutoffs are entirely different, etc. It's really, really not this cut and dry thing you want to make it out to be. |
Anonymous
| My D's best friend is redshirted HS sophomore. More into drinking scene than I would expect at this age. |
Anonymous
| The only mild concern I have is with girls, possibly starting their periods early. My friend growing up (YES, holding back/redshirting was a thing almost 40 years ago too!) was redshirted with a late spring birthday, I think May or June, and she started her period when she was in 5th grade at 11. Which is a typical age to start but not sure how well the elementary school was prepared for it. But it’s probably different these days with puberty happening earlier in general. |
Anonymous
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I really wish all the anti-red shirting posters would drop the pretense of concern for the welfare of others’ redshirted children and just be honest: you are concerned about your own non-redshirted kids having to compete in school and later in life with redshirted kids, whom you perceive to have an advantage.
Your concern is reasonable. They probably do have an advantage. It’s so tiresome and pathetic to see all these posts about kids being bored, how awful it will be to drive before your peers, etc. Just own your concern that the redshirting trend is leading to inequality. |