Has confronting the other woman ever gone well?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I emailed her H. That was pretty satisfying. She was part of a friends group and cutting them off was also satisfying because they tried to pretend to “my friend” to get information for her. I stayed friends with the ones that just didn’t get involved. The ones I cut off are still a little bitter.

I actually confronted another one because she was single. She also wrote me a letter begging me to be friends and she’d promise not to sleep with my h anymore. I told her about the married one, that was fun. She told me I was a bad wife, lol. I ran into her dad and said, “your daughter dates married men btw, I think she needs therapy”. He later made her get therapy do I feel I did the world a favor

I am not afraid of conflict so it was fine for me but I think it’s bad if you avoid conflict or that brings you anxiety.

You sound crazy.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am an OW. If I were confronted, I would say I'm sorry and I don't expect her forgiveness. She can tell my husband, but he already knows and knew from the beginning. I was intensely lonely in my own marriage and made a terrible mistake in a moment of weakness. He told me everything I wanted to hear and made me feel beautiful and alive again, and told me that his wife was not interested in him or his needs at all and that he was lonely too.

You dummy

Simmer down she admitted she was a victim of childhood abuse.

DP- No one ADMITS they are victims of childhood sexual abuse. Admission means culpability, a child doesn’t have that.. That person STATED she was a victim. Yes, there is a reason why this is triggering for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I emailed her H. That was pretty satisfying. She was part of a friends group and cutting them off was also satisfying because they tried to pretend to “my friend” to get information for her. I stayed friends with the ones that just didn’t get involved. The ones I cut off are still a little bitter.

I actually confronted another one because she was single. She also wrote me a letter begging me to be friends and she’d promise not to sleep with my h anymore. I told her about the married one, that was fun. She told me I was a bad wife, lol. I ran into her dad and said, “your daughter dates married men btw, I think she needs therapy”. He later made her get therapy do I feel I did the world a favor

I am not afraid of conflict so it was fine for me but I think it’s bad if you avoid conflict or that brings you anxiety.

Wow. Sounds like you're the one who needs therapy.

I live the defensive comments .. she needed therapy and got it. So did my H, and he got it. Ended up being a great dad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I emailed her H. That was pretty satisfying. She was part of a friends group and cutting them off was also satisfying because they tried to pretend to “my friend” to get information for her. I stayed friends with the ones that just didn’t get involved. The ones I cut off are still a little bitter.

I actually confronted another one because she was single. She also wrote me a letter begging me to be friends and she’d promise not to sleep with my h anymore. I told her about the married one, that was fun. She told me I was a bad wife, lol. I ran into her dad and said, “your daughter dates married men btw, I think she needs therapy”. He later made her get therapy do I feel I did the world a favor

I am not afraid of conflict so it was fine for me but I think it’s bad if you avoid conflict or that brings you anxiety.

You're still married to this thing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am an OW. If I were confronted, I would say I'm sorry and I don't expect her forgiveness. She can tell my husband, but he already knows and knew from the beginning. I was intensely lonely in my own marriage and made a terrible mistake in a moment of weakness. He told me everything I wanted to hear and made me feel beautiful and alive again, and told me that his wife was not interested in him or his needs at all and that he was lonely too.

You dummy

Simmer down she admitted she was a victim of childhood abuse.

DP- No one ADMITS they are victims of childhood sexual abuse. Admission means culpability, a child doesn’t have that.. That person STATED she was a victim. Yes, there is a reason why this is triggering for me.

Most people carry shame from the abuse so it’s a huge step to admit it. State means to just say. Admit is to allow others to understand the truth. Both are difficult for victims. I think either to state or admit is a great step to healing.

Sadly she just wrote “yes” meaning it’s new to share the truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I emailed her H. That was pretty satisfying. She was part of a friends group and cutting them off was also satisfying because they tried to pretend to “my friend” to get information for her. I stayed friends with the ones that just didn’t get involved. The ones I cut off are still a little bitter.

I actually confronted another one because she was single. She also wrote me a letter begging me to be friends and she’d promise not to sleep with my h anymore. I told her about the married one, that was fun. She told me I was a bad wife, lol. I ran into her dad and said, “your daughter dates married men btw, I think she needs therapy”. He later made her get therapy do I feel I did the world a favor

I am not afraid of conflict so it was fine for me but I think it’s bad if you avoid conflict or that brings you anxiety.

You're still married to this thing?

No but I did pay for years of therapy for him and my kids now have a great father.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve probably watched 60 episodes of Maury and in all those episodes I’ve never once seen anyone come out for the better after confronting a cheaters paramour. The thing I never understood was why they were both angry at each other when it was really the man who deserved the anger.

I think Pluto has a full-time Springer/Maury channel, watch for a little while and I think you’ll see a pattern develop.

You do understand that shit is staged, right?

Or are you trying to be witty?

If it’s staged then there are incredible actresses in the Deep South

[Anonymous]

Did you show up at her apartment like this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am an OW. If I were confronted, I would say I'm sorry and I don't expect her forgiveness. She can tell my husband, but he already knows and knew from the beginning. I was intensely lonely in my own marriage and made a terrible mistake in a moment of weakness. He told me everything I wanted to hear and made me feel beautiful and alive again, and told me that his wife was not interested in him or his needs at all and that he was lonely too.

You dummy

Simmer down she admitted she was a victim of childhood abuse.

DP- No one ADMITS they are victims of childhood sexual abuse. Admission means culpability, a child doesn’t have that.. That person STATED she was a victim. Yes, there is a reason why this is triggering for me.

Most people carry shame from the abuse so it’s a huge step to admit it. State means to just say. Admit is to allow others to understand the truth. Both are difficult for victims. I think either to state or admit is a great step to healing.

Sadly she just wrote “yes” meaning it’s new to share the truth.

No admit has a different connotation and using those words interchangeably implies the victim should feel guilt. They shouldn’t.Why not admit that?

[Anonymous]

Geez - I can’t get over how incredibly immature so many people are. If your spouse is cheating, be mad at THEM. The AP is irrelevant and any attempt to confront them is stupid. Either try to save your marriage… or not. It’s an issue between you and your spouse. The *blame* is on them. They aren’t fulfilling their vows to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Geez - I can’t get over how incredibly immature so many people are. If your spouse is cheating, be mad at THEM. The AP is irrelevant and any attempt to confront them is stupid. Either try to save your marriage… or not. It’s an issue between you and your spouse. The *blame* is on them. They aren’t fulfilling their vows to you.

That’s not true . This person entered my life and I can remove them anyway I would like (that is legal). If you don’t want to be confronted dare single men. You don’t get to decide what my action are just like I could not decide yours.

The fact that simply telling the OW she’s dating a married man is such a violation to APs but having sex with their H is just good ole fashion fun show a really disordered way of thinking.

[Anonymous]

She clearly used language that people who suffered childhood abuse use. Any 1/2 decent therapist can read her post and predict she was a victim of child abuser.

Can the person who write this please specify what the language is that the PP used that would lead someone to predict she had been a victim of childhood abuse? I know she said she was in a different post. But what about the other things she wrote or how she phrased them suggested this? Really curious.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Look, I know you think you know everything but you don’t. Most of us have been propositioned by married guys and turned them down and judged them as slimeballs. I’m betting your DH’s OW did too. You simply do not know what transpired between them that made her say yes to him.

She has said yes to many married men on the website she frequents. Serial cheater. She’s the one propositioning. Lol

Obviously you’re very committed to your view but it’s not the only reality out there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look, I know you think you know everything but you don’t. Most of us have been propositioned by married guys and turned them down and judged them as slimeballs. I’m betting your DH’s OW did too. You simply do not know what transpired between them that made her say yes to him.

She has said yes to many married men on the website she frequents. Serial cheater. She’s the one propositioning. Lol

Omg your DH was picking up strange women on websites and the most you can do is slit shake the woman? You’ve got major league problems.

[Anonymous]

^slut shame. Yeow.