40 year old mom here and met a 56 year old

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How many posts will this forum have where the discussion is a bunch of mid to late 40s women arguing that it's 'wrong' for men to be more attracted to women in their 20s?

Seriously, get over it. Nobody picks stale bread over fresh bread no matter how much you argue otherwise.

They do bc they aren’t looking at it the way you are. For that matter I do too. I’m on dating apps and could spend all my time with men under 35. I am 51. I don’t bc it’s not what I’m looking for. Currently dating a 56yo and a 60yo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How many posts will this forum have where the discussion is a bunch of mid to late 40s women arguing that it's 'wrong' for men to be more attracted to women in their 20s?

Seriously, get over it. Nobody picks stale bread over fresh bread no matter how much you argue otherwise.

They do bc they aren’t looking at it the way you are. For that matter I do too. I’m on dating apps and could spend all my time with men under 35. I am 51. I don’t bc it’s not what I’m looking for. Currently dating a 56yo and a 60yo.

Ha! You make French toast from stale not fresh bread!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No one should encourage a 40 year old woman with a child/children to date a 56 year old man.

+ 1 million. Definitely don’t get into a long term relationship. My mom started dating a 54 year old when she was 41 (I was a teen). They eventually got married and it has brought about so many problems for myself and my siblings throughout our lives. Part of it was just the step parent dynamic but the age also complicated things.

13 year age gap is totally fine, many first marriages have that. What problems would have been different by her marrying someone younger? She still had kids.

13 year age gap is not fine.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one should encourage a 40 year old woman with a child/children to date a 56 year old man.

+ 1 million. Definitely don’t get into a long term relationship. My mom started dating a 54 year old when she was 41 (I was a teen). They eventually got married and it has brought about so many problems for myself and my siblings throughout our lives. Part of it was just the step parent dynamic but the age also complicated things.

13 year age gap is totally fine, many first marriages have that. What problems would have been different by her marrying someone younger? She still had kids.

13 year age gap is not fine.

Glad my 22yo GF disagrees!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one should encourage a 40 year old woman with a child/children to date a 56 year old man.

+ 1 million. Definitely don’t get into a long term relationship. My mom started dating a 54 year old when she was 41 (I was a teen). They eventually got married and it has brought about so many problems for myself and my siblings throughout our lives. Part of it was just the step parent dynamic but the age also complicated things.

13 year age gap is totally fine, many first marriages have that. What problems would have been different by her marrying someone younger? She still had kids.

13 year age gap is not fine.

Glad my 22yo GF disagrees!

Of course you do, she won’t when she matures.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My partner is 13 years older than me. He happens to be a healthy and wonderful person. I love him so much, and he loves me. We are both divorced and together as we are able, given other obligations. Don’t worry about the age- you can ruin a wonderful thing by agonizing over something that will have an unknown impact on your relationship in the long term. I’d rather have a healthy, kind, loving, compatible but older partner than a younger one I don’t like as much/not good chemistry, or someone with mental health issues (ugh AVOID). Age is a case by case issue. If you love him, you will want to love/support him, however that manifests for you. Some of these grouchy responders say they don’t want to be caregivers- ok, fine. You do what feels right to you. If you prefer someone closer to your age, don’t fall in love with this old fogey. Plenty of other people out there… best wishes.

How about having a good relationship with someone more age appropriate rather than a good relationship with someone much older?

Well, if I meet someone better than him, I will! He’s wonderful, which is why are a couple. Our relationship is not “age inappropriate”, as you are implying.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one should encourage a 40 year old woman with a child/children to date a 56 year old man.

+ 1 million. Definitely don’t get into a long term relationship. My mom started dating a 54 year old when she was 41 (I was a teen). They eventually got married and it has brought about so many problems for myself and my siblings throughout our lives. Part of it was just the step parent dynamic but the age also complicated things.

13 year age gap is totally fine, many first marriages have that. What problems would have been different by her marrying someone younger? She still had kids.

13 year age gap is not fine.

Glad my 22yo GF disagrees!

I dated someone over a decade older than myself at that age for few years. I thankfully realized before I turned 30 how disgusted I was and left him. I’m embarrassed now looking back and realize how much of a pig he was and why no woman his age would date him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My partner is 13 years older than me. He happens to be a healthy and wonderful person. I love him so much, and he loves me. We are both divorced and together as we are able, given other obligations. Don’t worry about the age- you can ruin a wonderful thing by agonizing over something that will have an unknown impact on your relationship in the long term. I’d rather have a healthy, kind, loving, compatible but older partner than a younger one I don’t like as much/not good chemistry, or someone with mental health issues (ugh AVOID). Age is a case by case issue. If you love him, you will want to love/support him, however that manifests for you. Some of these grouchy responders say they don’t want to be caregivers- ok, fine. You do what feels right to you. If you prefer someone closer to your age, don’t fall in love with this old fogey. Plenty of other people out there… best wishes.

How about having a good relationship with someone more age appropriate rather than a good relationship with someone much older?

Well, if I meet someone better than him, I will! He’s wonderful, which is why are a couple. Our relationship is not “age inappropriate”, as you are implying.

You just confirmed that your relationship is not age appropriate but are sorely defending it. Lots of people are wonderful, doesn’t mean I date them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How many posts will this forum have where the discussion is a bunch of mid to late 40s women arguing that it's 'wrong' for men to be more attracted to women in their 20s?

Seriously, get over it. Nobody picks stale bread over fresh bread no matter how much you argue otherwise.

They do bc they aren’t looking at it the way you are. For that matter I do too. I’m on dating apps and could spend all my time with men under 35. I am 51. I don’t bc it’s not what I’m looking for. Currently dating a 56yo and a 60yo.

Ha! You make French toast from stale not fresh bread!

Haha, also croutons, bread crumbs, bread puddings, and french onion soup. Its like people thinking fresh pasta is always better than dried pasta. Nope, not at all. They are just a different experience, and only in certain specific circumstances is one better than the other.

[Anonymous]

When I was a 22 year old I dated a 35 year old. It was wonderful. I brought youthful enthusiasm and optimism to the relationship. The 35 year old brought wisdom and experience to it. The sex was fantastic. So was the conversation.

She's female. I'm male. Her prior relationship had been with a man 20 years older than she was who has died the previous year.

She's now a senior citizen and sent me a very nice reminiscence recently.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one should encourage a 40 year old woman with a child/children to date a 56 year old man.

+ 1 million. Definitely don’t get into a long term relationship. My mom started dating a 54 year old when she was 41 (I was a teen). They eventually got married and it has brought about so many problems for myself and my siblings throughout our lives. Part of it was just the step parent dynamic but the age also complicated things.

13 year age gap is totally fine, many first marriages have that. What problems would have been different by her marrying someone younger? She still had kids.

13 year age gap is not fine.

Glad my 22yo GF disagrees!

I dated someone over a decade older than myself at that age for few years. I thankfully realized before I turned 30 how disgusted I was and left him. I’m embarrassed now looking back and realize how much of a pig he was and why no woman his age would date him.

I date women closer to my age but after a rough breakup, sleeping with a hot 22yo is just what the doctor ordered. It's a lock she'll get bored and move on eventually but there is always someone else to take their place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was a 22 year old I dated a 35 year old. It was wonderful. I brought youthful enthusiasm and optimism to the relationship. The 35 year old brought wisdom and experience to it. The sex was fantastic. So was the conversation.

She's female. I'm male. Her prior relationship had been with a man 20 years older than she was who has died the previous year.

She's now a senior citizen and sent me a very nice reminiscence recently.

Same except I was 24 and her 36. Seriously, who cares? Yes, I had more sexual energy than most men she would date and now that I am older than 36, it doesn't matter to me now either.

People who protest these relationships are insecure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How many posts will this forum have where the discussion is a bunch of mid to late 40s women arguing that it's 'wrong' for men to be more attracted to women in their 20s?

Seriously, get over it. Nobody picks stale bread over fresh bread no matter how much you argue otherwise.

They do bc they aren’t looking at it the way you are. For that matter I do too. I’m on dating apps and could spend all my time with men under 35. I am 51. I don’t bc it’s not what I’m looking for. Currently dating a 56yo and a 60yo.

You're dating 35 year old losers. At 35 most men are dating women 25-30. A 51 year old woman looks repulsive compared with a 30 year old.

[Anonymous]

It works for some people. I wouldn't force it if you're not excited about dating him though. I'm 38 and just strongly prefer men 35-43. My SO (whom I will probably marry this year) is 40, ex is 36.

If I had issues attracting within my age range, I'd go older though.

[Anonymous]

No one should encourage a 40 year old woman with a child/children to date a 56 year old man.

No one should express their opinion to her because it’s none of your business. MYOB.