Regret not having kids?

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly if a child has no kids the parents should of never had them.

My parents certainly don't feel like they never should have had me. They love me, they're proud of me, and they have a much closer relationship to me than they do with my siblings who have kids, because I have time for them. What a terrible thing to say. I was infertile, by the way, not that that matters.

[Anonymous]

Honestly if a child has no kids the parents should of never had them.

Why?

And do you apply this unilaterally across genders, or do you only curse women who didn't/couldn't have children?

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Anonymous wrote:As someone who is child-free by choice, I find it immensely odd when these discussions come up that so many think CFBC people pass on kids because of "travel and fun!" like we're perpetually stuck in our early 20s backpacking phase. Most of the CFBC people I know made that decision for bigger reasons such as knowing they wouldn't be good at it, or chronic illness, or intense jobs, or just it flat out didn't appeal to them. I don't think I've ever heard someone say, "think of all the travel and fun!" Weird.

It’s just like how married people think singles are all out on dates, going shopping or having brunch all the time. I stopped doing that stuff in my early thirties. On Friday and Saturday nights, I’m home reading and cuddling with my dog. I have a job and bills to pay, and I’m tired, just like every other middle aged person.

One of my friends married when we were both about 25. Ten years later her husband leaves her and she’s texting me all the time to ask if I want to get mani pedis, or and go out for dinner and cosmopolitans. I’m like Hon, Sex and the City isn’t real and I haven’t had one of those since 2002. I stay home every night and have a hookup or two per year. She got married again pretty quickly.

LOL. If find this assumption hilarious. People are genuinely shocked I'm not out drinking and going on spa days all the time. Like I'm near 40 with bills to pay, and as the only childless sibling, a lot of the care and responsibility of my aging parents falls on me. I work. I occasionally go on a hike. I volunteer at the animal shelter and hospital. I may go on a trip once every 2-5 years. Partying every night, I don't think I ever did, and I haven't been to a bar since I was somewhere between 35 and 28, can't exactly remember.

Now that’s SAD af.

31 here with two kids and travel twice every year. Sometimes more. This whole cancel culture toxic anti white have no kids and tax me to death over climate change is the demise of the west. Kudos to you and your brain dead weaklings following you

Someone says they don’t go on many trips, and THIS is your take?

PP clearly isn't very bright, be gentle with her.

[Anonymous]

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Honestly if a child has no kids the parents should of never had them.

Why?

And do you apply this unilaterally across genders, or do you only curse women who didn't/couldn't have children?

All sexes plus folks with one kid. The minimum is two and a real family starts at three kids. I know so many families with three kids and only one worker out. Risky having one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Honestly if a child has no kids the parents should of never had them.

Why?

And do you apply this unilaterally across genders, or do you only curse women who didn't/couldn't have children?

All sexes plus folks with one kid. The minimum is two and a real family starts at three kids. I know so many families with three kids and only one worker out. Risky having one.

Okay, this has to be a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Honestly if a child has no kids the parents should of never had them.

Why?

And do you apply this unilaterally across genders, or do you only curse women who didn't/couldn't have children?

All sexes plus folks with one kid. The minimum is two and a real family starts at three kids. I know so many families with three kids and only one worker out. Risky having one.

By "worked out" you mean lived, right? You're a time traveler from the 1800s and you think people should have 3+ kids to ensure that at least one of them survives, correct? Or because there is just so much work on the farm and you need the kids to help you with it now that you're hitting the ripe old age of 33 and just can't get around like you used to.

If you really believe this, I highly recommend you start advocating for extensive social welfare because having 3+ kids is a financially idiotic choice in this country unless you are incredibly wealthy. We wanted two and decided to stop at one because we worried about affording both a bigger home and college while also saving for our own retirement. It felt risky to have a second. In a way, I guess we stuck, with one because we felt like life was more likely to "work out" for her if we could invest all our resources in just one kid instead of distributing them over more kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't regret it yet. I'm 48. I do think it would be fun to have grandkids, and I'm sorry I won't get that experience - but I don't want to have kids just for the possibility of one day having grandkids.

Otherwise, I am very happy being a loving aunt.

I have kids..but I care zero about grandkids.

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Anonymous wrote:My brother and sil are in their early 50’s and have been married 26 years. They never had children, never wanted children and have zero regrets. They own a small, non shedding dog and they have a white couch (something a mom would never buy).

I have a dog that sheds a little and two daughters, and we have an all white beach house and white couches in our main home too. Our kids and dog were raised to be careful and it’s all good. And anyway, kids & dog > sofas