I haven't heard from my boyfriend since Friday night

[Anonymous]

^forming long-distance* relationships

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm about 40 pages behind. Can someone direct me to what page the bad stuff comes out on? When I read last night, he was still not home and the general vibe was concerned about his safety. Now apparently he is safe, but horrible?

Nope, still "MIA"...still dont know where he is but second guessing whether he was ever in Maine to begin with

I think the uncle's Facebook page showed him fishing with other buddies this past weekend?

[Anonymous]

I still don't understand why you didn't just email the uncle. I found his yahoo address with about 5 minutes of googling.
Listed his street address, phone number and a yahoo email.

Heading "Urgent, please read regarding SV"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm about 40 pages behind. Can someone direct me to what page the bad stuff comes out on? When I read last night, he was still not home and the general vibe was concerned about his safety. Now apparently he is safe, but horrible?

Nope, still "MIA"...still dont know where he is but second guessing whether he was ever in Maine to begin with

I think the uncle's Facebook page showed him fishing with other buddies this past weekend?

By him, I mean the uncle. No one knows what the boyfriend did last weekend.

[Anonymous]

Can someone give a recap?? I was away for 24 hours. Is the boyfriend alive? What is this about a YouTube video? Why do we think he is a drug dealer now? Thanks in advance.

[Anonymous]

I think it will be (appropriately) called Missing Boyfriend, but I wish it would be called Poaching Bobcats, and I do hope PB finds a way into the DCUM lexicon.

[Anonymous]

What if we've been fueling the fantasies of a crazy stalker for 70+ pages!

I'm starting to feel bad for bobcat boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, serious question. Why do you care anymore?

Not being mean, but this guy has done something really cruel to you.

Have you had many relationships? Are they mostly long distance?

Please cut this guy off and out of your life.

OP here: My last relationship was also long distance and we were together for almost 6 years. We broke up 6 months before I was supposed to move to his home state because I found out he was talking to some girl he met online and also, he was very emotionally abusive. So if you want the truth, I'm sure that relationship plays into why I stick around with my current relationship if we can even call it that.

& why do I care? Because I really am in love with him and thought this *could* maybe be the one and it's hard to just be like "oh okay...he lied to me...fuck him" and just move on. I want answers and I am the type of person who needs answers to move on.

Please make your next BF a local. That way you can pick up on lots of little things that will give you a better vibe about their character.

[Anonymous]

OP, I get it. I would want answers too, I'm the same way. It's easy for people who aren't going through this to say "move on with your life"! Particularly from their anonymous computer screens or smart phones. I mean he obviously sounds like bad news and it seems he's being deceitful, but you are still owed the truth. Unfortunately (and for all of us) you might not get the truth. But I am certainly not going to blame you for going after it!

I do think you should call his work tomorrow and just ask if he's there. Even though we know he drives, but just see what they say.

Regardless, I hope you get some closure. And even if you don't, it does sound like you're better off without him!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I still don't understand why you didn't just email the uncle. I found his yahoo address with about 5 minutes of googling.
Listed his street address, phone number and a yahoo email.

Heading "Urgent, please read regarding SV"

OP here: Idk where you found the yahoo email because all I found was his work email which I don't necessarily want to send info to because idk who actually checks it at his business. Also, the only number I found was his work one..not a personal one.

[jsteele]

Anonymous wrote:I think it will be (appropriately) called Missing Boyfriend, but I wish it would be called Poaching Bobcats, and I do hope PB finds a way into the DCUM lexicon.

Poaching Bobcats is the new "hiking the Shenandoah".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're obviously shy and awkward in person and don't know how to meet people in real life, which is why you are investing all your time and energy in meeting people online and forming online relationships. It's just a form of avoidance.

Meet someone IN REAL LIFE. Put yourself out there. Stop indulging in these insane fantasies that put you in actual danger. You are very vulnerable.

I don't think this is true, but I do think OP feeds off the drama.

OP, the answer is sometimes guys act this way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm about 40 pages behind. Can someone direct me to what page the bad stuff comes out on? When I read last night, he was still not home and the general vibe was concerned about his safety. Now apparently he is safe, but horrible?

Nope, still "MIA"...still dont know where he is but second guessing whether he was ever in Maine to begin with

OK, I'll bite - why? If he's still MIA, why are we not concerned he's dead in a ditch somewhere?

[Anonymous]

OP Im so sorry you met and fell for this douchebag. I feel for you because as a 40 something married woman with kids I still very clearly remember how painful and confusing dating was for m. my sisters and friends at your age. It transforms you into a wiser woma n who cynically and realistically evaluates all future potential husbands.

In my twenties I thought love shoiul be mythical, passionate, addictive, confusing and hard work. Told myself the harder i work at this relationship the more it proves im so committed to him After the inevitable divorce that followed the most romantic wedding EVAH i sobered up. When I stopped thinking of dating/marriage as something mythical and instead looked at it like a partnership with someone ill have to manage a life with, the irresponsible d ouchebags were no longer interesting to me.

Stop asking yourself if hes the one and instead start picturing daily life with this man (although sorry to say hes breaking up with you). My DH and I dont have an epic love story but damn were straight with each other, sex is good and we see the world in similar ways. Its easy.

Eyes wide open now..could he be visiting you in your city because its a haven for buying/dealing certain drugs...anything ever go missing from your place after a weekend together?

Good luck

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm about 40 pages behind. Can someone direct me to what page the bad stuff comes out on? When I read last night, he was still not home and the general vibe was concerned about his safety. Now apparently he is safe, but horrible?

Nope, still "MIA"...still dont know where he is but second guessing whether he was ever in Maine to begin with

OK, I'll bite - why? If he's still MIA, why are we not concerned he's dead in a ditch somewhere?

Has anyone posted to Uncle McIceFish's wall asking if his nephew is okay? It could be signed xoxoDCUM - that should get his attention.