I haven't heard from my boyfriend since Friday night

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op, have you ever paid to get a criminal background check on this guy? I'm guessing low level drug dealing or drug production.

OP here: I had my friend who is a cop look up his record back in January and nothing came up for him at all in the system.

Jesus OP, have you gotten off of DCUM at all since you started this thread? Don't you have a job or something that requires your attention? Because you sure don't have a boyfriend that deserves your attention!

OP here: Um, yes. It's 9:30pm at night so not sure what I would be doing for work right now. I also own my own business nad work from home so I am able to be on my iphone and laptop whenever I'd like to be.

Except earlier you said you had to get home from work to follow up on this. And with your negligible Internet skills, the likelihood of you running your own at-home business is basically nil. Hmmm..

Dun dun dun!!!! The plot thickens!

[Anonymous]

I'm about 40 pages behind. Can someone direct me to what page the bad stuff comes out on? When I read last night, he was still not home and the general vibe was concerned about his safety. Now apparently he is safe, but horrible?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm about 40 pages behind. Can someone direct me to what page the bad stuff comes out on? When I read last night, he was still not home and the general vibe was concerned about his safety. Now apparently he is safe, but horrible?

Nope, still "MIA"...still dont know where he is but second guessing whether he was ever in Maine to begin with

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Anonymous wrote:Op, have you ever paid to get a criminal background check on this guy? I'm guessing low level drug dealing or drug production.

OP here: I had my friend who is a cop look up his record back in January and nothing came up for him at all in the system.

Jesus OP, have you gotten off of DCUM at all since you started this thread? Don't you have a job or something that requires your attention? Because you sure don't have a boyfriend that deserves your attention!

OP here: Um, yes. It's 9:30pm at night so not sure what I would be doing for work right now. I also own my own business nad work from home so I am able to be on my iphone and laptop whenever I'd like to be.

Except earlier you said you had to get home from work to follow up on this. And with your negligible Internet skills, the likelihood of you running your own at-home business is basically nil. Hmmm..

Dun dun dun!!!! The plot thickens!

OP here: I already responded to this. I was at a clients house for a meeting therefore, I was out at work.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, serious question. Why do you care anymore?

Not being mean, but this guy has done something really cruel to you.

Have you had many relationships? Are they mostly long distance?

Please cut this guy off and out of your life.

OP here: My last relationship was also long distance and we were together for almost 6 years. We broke up 6 months before I was supposed to move to his home state because I found out he was talking to some girl he met online and also, he was very emotionally abusive. So if you want the truth, I'm sure that relationship plays into why I stick around with my current relationship if we can even call it that.

& why do I care? Because I really am in love with him and thought this *could* maybe be the one and it's hard to just be like "oh okay...he lied to me...fuck him" and just move on. I want answers and I am the type of person who needs answers to move on.

YOU CARE ABOUT AN OBJECT OF YOUR IMAGINATION. THAT PERSON IS NOT REAL.



You want answers, but that's not how life works. Is having answers worth wasting away YEARS of your life? Chasing around losers and demanding explanations? Just to prove some point? Or show someone that treated you like crap that he can't treat you like crap? Guess what, HE CAN TREAT YOU LIKE CRAP BECAUSE YOU LET HIM.

It's your choice. Do you want answers and explanations? Or do you want an actual life?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, serious question. Why do you care anymore?

Not being mean, but this guy has done something really cruel to you.

Have you had many relationships? Are they mostly long distance?

Please cut this guy off and out of your life.

OP here: My last relationship was also long distance and we were together for almost 6 years. We broke up 6 months before I was supposed to move to his home state because I found out he was talking to some girl he met online and also, he was very emotionally abusive. So if you want the truth, I'm sure that relationship plays into why I stick around with my current relationship if we can even call it that.

& why do I care? Because I really am in love with him and thought this *could* maybe be the one and it's hard to just be like "oh okay...he lied to me...fuck him" and just move on. I want answers and I am the type of person who needs answers to move on.

Oh honey. Honey honey honey.

Look at your life and the type of men you choose. If you get the answers you want you will just twist them in your heart and mind and figure it was something you did and maybe even let this guy back in.

Work on yourself. Then find a guy that doesnt abuse you or treat you like shit.

[Anonymous]

OP, imagine your daughter in your own position. What would you want her to do?

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I just slogged through all 77 pages in one sitting. Do I get a cookie?

[Anonymous]

I think it's time to Coin the Name. What will this thread be called in perpetuity? ALa - Hairbrush in the Bedroom.

[Anonymous]

Your last thread was filled with you whining about wasting TWO MONTHS of your life on the guy -- not wanting to let go because you wasted two months. Now it's about investing SIX MONTHS and not wasting those. You realize that your time and emotional investment is just INCREASING and by your logic that means you will be less and less likely to let go.


Put an end to this now. WAKE UP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's time to Coin the Name. What will this thread be called in perpetuity? ALa - Hairbrush in the Bedroom.

Poaching bobcats with Uncle J.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's time to Coin the Name. What will this thread be called in perpetuity? ALa - Hairbrush in the Bedroom.

Missing boyfriend

My boyfriend, the poacher

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your last thread was filled with you whining about wasting TWO MONTHS of your life on the guy -- not wanting to let go because you wasted two months. Now it's about investing SIX MONTHS and not wasting those. You realize that your time and emotional investment is just INCREASING and by your logic that means you will be less and less likely to let go.


Put an end to this now. WAKE UP.

She won't. 20 years from now when she is on husband number five who has just faked his death she will still be whining and looking for answers.

[Anonymous]

You're obviously shy and awkward in person and don't know how to meet people in real life, which is why you are investing all your time and energy in meeting people online and forming online relationships. It's just a form of avoidance.

Meet someone IN REAL LIFE. Put yourself out there. Stop indulging in these insane fantasies that put you in actual danger. You are very vulnerable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's time to Coin the Name. What will this thread be called in perpetuity? ALa - Hairbrush in the Bedroom.

Missing Boyfriend, Poaching Bobcat.