Anyone find being in their elderly parents’ home so painful?
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Anonymous
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Not painful emotionally, like I feel bad for them. And yes, I am thankful they are still around, blah blah blah.
Painful, like they are SO LOUD first thing in the morning. Father talking loudly on his phone to who knows at 8AM. Mother starting to warm things up for lunch starting 8AM. Them wanting to be around me but only having surface-level conversations. Been here less than 24 hours and I am ready to go to my home. |
Anonymous
| You’re an adult, aren’t you? 8am is not 6 am. What time do you need to sleep in until? I’m hardly old but by 8 am I’ve had a long chat with my best friend, and done a good chunk of the housework for the day. |
Anonymous
| 8am is a perfectly acceptable time to be up and starting the day. Get ear plugs. |
Anonymous
| OP, I do find the volume on the TV to be a huge, huge challenge. I suffer from misophonia so loud sounds - not all - are really hard for me. I try to turn down the volume when they are not looking. I don't watch many screens, but when I do, I try to keep the volume down to train myself for this age. |
Anonymous
| Um, why are you acting like being up and talking on the phone at 8 a.m. is outrageous? Try 5 or 6 a.m. and I’d feel some level of sympathy. Grow up. |
Anonymous
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Can you not have anything more painful to think of?
Bless them for being up and round. |
Anonymous
Or you could get earplugs or Banz or whatever. They probably have age related hearing loss, which does not always necessitate hearing aids, which can be their own unique challenge. Why are you changing their environment to suit you instead of understanding it’s their environment and you should adapt for your short term stay? |
Anonymous
Suuurrreeee . . . |
Anonymous
| Why are the conversations surface only? Do you regularly call them and talk/check in? |
Anonymous
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I was just thinking to myself how I’ve gone for most of my young adult years being someone who got out of bed around 9-10 on weekends, and was always scrambling at the last minute to get ready for work on weekdays to now being that person who is up well before the alarm just about every day, and the alarm is set for 6:30, just in case.
8am is full swing of the morning, a time when noise should absolutely be made as a result of the productive activity of humans. Get earplugs if you’re desiring a lie in, you cannot expect to be accommodated in this regard. The one thing I find difficult about being around elders is the volume at which they play the TV, at whatever hour, and the fact that hearing loss also causes some elders to perpetually shout. I work in home health so I have encountered this a lot. I got some earplugs made for musicians and concert goers which allows the clarity of sound but much reduces the decibel levels - highly recommend, mine are called Eargasms, but I’m sure there are other brands of the same type. |
Anonymous
NP. I agree with PP. What are you doing with your life that you aren’t fully awake and functional by 8:00? |
Anonymous
Enjoying my Saturday morning. |
Anonymous
NP nothing good happens before 8am. I trained my kids from about 3 years old to be as quiet as a mouse in the morning. They color, play silently and then we party when parents wake up. Besides, it's a Saturday morning. I get waking up for work or school, but why do adults need to wake up on Saturdays?! |
Anonymous
How late do you sleep in on weekdays |
Anonymous
| What a heartless daughter. Feel sorry for your parents and grow up. |