| I know some families who have young kids and they never, EVER punish them, no matter how badly behaved. They don’t even verbally scold their children, let alone put them in a timeout or take away their toys. At one of our family gatherings I’ve seen a kid physically hit his younger brother and the parents do nothing. How can you live like this? |
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Laziness and to make life easier in the moment. Problem is it makes life harder in the long run.
I have a friend with twins who were awful and still are. They literally still hit each other and they’re tweens now. All she ever says is “ Larla. Don’t hit Larlo”.. there never has been a consequence |
| Siblings' relationships are unique. Those kids won't grow up to hit their friends, their spouses, their kids, anyone. |
| I don't doubt such people exist, but I've never seen it in real life. Usually there are always consequences - some may not be what I would choose to do, but they exist. |
Ha!! Kids without boundaries become adults without boundaries and for some, that means jail. |
Bullshit. Parent your kids. |
+1. It’s Maddening |
| I would think they aren't punishing in front of others because they think it will cause a more disruptive meltdown and that would make others uncomfortable. |
Oh I have seen it. Kid threw a tiny rock at other kid's head. Mom was comforting other kid and said nothing to hers because he claimed he never meant to do it. I have so many examples of this particular kid. His mom is the sweetest woman. I don't know if this is some approach they advise her in therapy or what. He is a seemingly normal kid but you never know if he is going through something. I walked away very quickly before I said something. Other kid's parent was just standing there shocked. And we all know he meant to throw the rock at his friends head. |
| Worry about your own damned kids. Stop worrying about mine |
Parent your own kids instead of making excuses. |
Yeah, my normally well-behaved kid had a meltdown the other day at a coffee shop patio. I had warned him not to do something, he did it, and the (previously communicated) consequence was that we had to leave. I had to strap him into the stroller and walk out while he was kicking and screaming. I got some dirty looks from people and it was frustrating. |
It affects everyone. I've seen this type of kid hurting others while parents just apologize to the hurt kid while not saying anything to their kid. Same kid disrupts the class and guess what - kid then has no friends because other kids can see through his misbehavior. mom complains that he has no friends. rinse and repeat. |
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It's a different student of parenting.
Kids saying mean things to siblings or friends ...it's called roasting and it's hilarious. Kids roaming around w/o supervision....it's called free ranging, establishing independence. |
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It's hard to agree ir disagree with you op if you can't give examples, context, or kids' ages. Siblings, friends, or random acquaintances at a public place?
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