Not Invited to Half Sibling's Wedding

[Anonymous]

Parents divorced when I was 3. My father got full custody of my sister and I and remarried when I was 7 to an absolutely wonderful woman who is still very much in my life. My dad and stepmom had three kids starting when I was 11. My dad passed 2 years ago. My half brother is now 26 and recently engaged. Wedding is October.

My sister and I were not invited. Half cousins are. Our next door neighbors are. The people that have a bay house next to ours are. Many family friends are, but not us.

I only found out because I saw my half brother’s long term gf sporting a ring on social media so I mentioned this to my stepmom. She admitted they were engaged, but was visibly uncomfortable about telling me. I asked when the wedding was and she said October. I asked if save the dates had been sent and she said yes, I’m sorry Lauren.

That was it. I said OK, I guess, thanks.

I feel like I just lost my family.

[Anonymous]

This sucks....it really does....but it's a long life. Try to wish them well and be somewhat open to them in the future. It sounds baffling from here, but again, it's a long life and a lot can happen. So just try not to let this make you bitter.

[Anonymous]

Normally I'd just write these people off, but in this case, I would plan something fun with your sister for that time period in October, and then after the wedding tell your half brother how hurt you were to be excluded and that you take that as a symbol of how he views your relationship.

[Anonymous]

Did something happen between you two? What explanation did your stepmom offer as to why you are not invited?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sucks....it really does....but it's a long life. Try to wish them well and be somewhat open to them in the future. It sounds baffling from here, but again, it's a long life and a lot can happen. So just try not to let this make you bitter.

Wish them well? I'd wish them infertility and a bitter divorce. On the plus side, your holidays just opened up

[Anonymous]

What’s the age difference and what’s your relationship been like historically?

I have a half-brother getting married too, and I’m also not invited, but have been estranged for several years so not a surprise.

[Anonymous]

I'd be relieved. I hate attending weddings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sucks....it really does....but it's a long life. Try to wish them well and be somewhat open to them in the future. It sounds baffling from here, but again, it's a long life and a lot can happen. So just try not to let this make you bitter.

Wish them well? I'd wish them infertility and a bitter divorce. On the plus side, your holidays just opened up

+1

Wish them well for what? Excluding you from a family milestone that will be referenced for the next 50 years? Humiliating you in front of family, friends, neighbors, and close acquaintances? I mean, your kids and your half brothers kids will be cousins. This bad blood will continue into the next generation. Unless you did something actually horrible to him, he is a gigantic POS. This is unacceptable.

[Anonymous]

I'd get them a glitter bomb for a wedding gift

[Anonymous]

Wow. Do you see these people at holidays? Did stepmom offer any explanation?

[Anonymous]

Your stepmom just said "I'm sorry" after you found out this way? WTF?! This is her kid!

I'd be so upset. At the half brother sure, but mostly at your stepmom.

[Anonymous]

There has to be a backstory here. This is awful.

[Anonymous]

Looks like stepmom isn’t “absolutely wonderful” after all.

[Anonymous]

So, ask your half brother what’s up.

If you can’t, then that says enough about why you’re not invited.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There has to be a backstory here. This is awful.

OP here. There absolutely is no backstory, I promise. We get along well; this is out of left field. I mean, we all rented a house in Duck last summer. My sister thinks my half brother's fiancée is wrapped up in the idea that she is marrying a 'broken family' and doesn't want it on display. She is very active on social media and quite vain, to be frank.