Ours is a stunner. |
No. Young attractive women mostly have no interest in middle aged men. |
Gross |
Definitely among husband's who think the au pair is a stunner |
I know an au pair who married the husband. She continued to work cooperatively with both parents to take care of the kids, now as their stepmother. |
It’s a way for Au Pairs to get a green card |
I just threw up a little. |
Depends what the man has to offer, especially after a divorce. If his net worth and earning potential will still be high after splitting assets, anything goes. |
I know a mom who hooked up with the Au pair. The Au pair was not hot. I know another Au pair who is stunning. I think pretty much anyone would hook up with her. |
There was a legendary thread on here a few years ago that said “DH is ****ing the Au pair and I’m okay with it.” I can’t find it - must have been nuked |
I know someone who married his little brothers au pair. It did not work out. |
I can see how it happens. An attractive 20 year old who is taking good care of your kids. Sex life with the wife may have faltered due to young kids. Doesn’t make it right and the power dynamics are gross, but it isn’t shocking. |
Tell yourself whatever you need to so you can sleep at night, but life is more nuanced than that. Young or old, most women are looking for a man who is stable and a good provider, especially in this economy with a recession looming. If the married dad still looks pretty good, is affable and wealthy, his age and marital status will be ignored. Frankly, if you bring a young, gorgeous woman into your home and put her in front of your husband multiple days per week... you're playing with fire. Most husbands love their wives and aren't inclined to cheat, but human beings are flawed. |
The answer is no, they are not common. |
DH here: I only slept with one of our six au pairs, so your odds are good it’s not happening. |