Are affairs with Au Pairs common?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Young attractive women mostly have no interest in middle aged men.

Tell yourself whatever you need to so you can sleep at night, but life is more nuanced than that. Young or old, most women are looking for a man who is stable and a good provider, especially in this economy with a recession looming. If the married dad still looks pretty good, is affable and wealthy, his age and marital status will be ignored.

Frankly, if you bring a young, gorgeous woman into your home and put her in front of your husband multiple days per week... you're playing with fire. Most husbands love their wives and aren't inclined to cheat, but human beings are flawed.

Most are smart enough to know that the married man provides for his family not them. Bang a well off guy just may mean a few nice dinners or a gift or two, but unless the au pair pulls the goalie, it doesn't mean financial security

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a single man who had a FWB with an Au Pair for about six months in 2021. She worked for a divorced couple and the husband lived elsewhere. She was part of an online group of DC Au Pairs and talked about how happy she was to be in a woman-only house because her friends were typically disgusted by the fathers.

Haha I've heard the same, actually, from au pairs who worked for gay couples.

[Anonymous]

My wife was an au pair when she was 22 years old. She took care of my five years old half brother. My mother passed away and married a younger wife and they had my younger half brother. I met the au pair at the family vacation and fell in love with her. We've been married for almost ten years now. Both my father and stepmother love my wife. It doesn't have to be gross.

[Anonymous]

I suspect it's no more or less common than other settings when men and women are in close proximity for extended periods of time. I'd guess it happens probably less 5% of the time, but let's say there's 100,000 Au pairs working at any one time, that could still be several thousand Au Pairs hooking up with the husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife was an au pair when she was 22 years old. She took care of my five years old half brother. My mother passed away and married a younger wife and they had my younger half brother. I met the au pair at the family vacation and fell in love with her. We've been married for almost ten years now. Both my father and stepmother love my wife. It doesn't have to be gross.

I lost brain cells reading this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife was an au pair when she was 22 years old. She took care of my five years old half brother. My mother passed away and married a younger wife and they had my younger half brother. I met the au pair at the family vacation and fell in love with her. We've been married for almost ten years now. Both my father and stepmother love my wife. It doesn't have to be gross.

Yeah but you are the brother not the dad, so you are presumably age appropriate. Also you were presumably unmarried when you met her.

[Anonymous]

Emotional ones, maybe yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ethan Hawke married the nanny. The wife was Uma Thurman.

Ben Affleck was banging the nanny which instigated his divorce with Jennifer Garner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. Young attractive women mostly have no interest in middle aged men.

I know a guy who started an affair with his very attractive au pair. It didn’t end well. His wife immediately kicked him out and au pair dumped him for a younger, wealthier man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ethan Hawke married the nanny. The wife was Uma Thurman.

They were divorced before he took up with the nanny. Robin Williams also married the nanny.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Young attractive women mostly have no interest in middle aged men.

Tell yourself whatever you need to so you can sleep at night, but life is more nuanced than that. Young or old, most women are looking for a man who is stable and a good provider, especially in this economy with a recession looming. If the married dad still looks pretty good, is affable and wealthy, his age and marital status will be ignored.

Frankly, if you bring a young, gorgeous woman into your home and put her in front of your husband multiple days per week... you're playing with fire. Most husbands love their wives and aren't inclined to cheat, but human beings are flawed.

I don’t know…I was a nanny for several families over almost a decade and, while some of the dads were good looking for older guys and the families had $$$, there is no way I would have ever considered sleeping with one of them. To be fair, I’m was never financially desperate enough to consider sex work

Some are not above doing so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ethan Hawke married the nanny. The wife was Uma Thurman.

They were divorced before he took up with the nanny. Robin Williams also married the nanny.

Jude Law was another nanny/au pair banger.

[Anonymous]

I think there’s a pretty standard dynamic by which it can happen, though I don’t think it happens often.

I would say that it goes something like this:

- DW recognizes that au pair is attractive, see’s her as a threat and treats her coldly (whether intended or not).
- Au Pair also see’s the dw being mean to the dh (the early kid years really peak dw’s resentment) and in a few bad parenting moments.
-DW becomes the bad guy in au pair’s view and view’s dh as a victim who stays for the well-being of the kids
-Au Pair see’s DH in good parenting moments with the kids and starts to develop a crush.
- DH has a resentful wife who looks like a mom, and a young adoring au pair in the same house. She’s easy to talk to and does nice thoughtful things for him because she thinks he deserves it.

And there you go, thats how it all starts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ethan Hawke married the nanny. The wife was Uma Thurman.

They were divorced before he took up with the nanny. Robin Williams also married the nanny.

Robin williams was the nanny!