Are affairs with Au Pairs common?

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Anonymous wrote:I would never have another attractive woman working on my house. Why even create a temptation?

I feel like the less attractive women are a bigger issue because they’re the ones willing to sleep with your DH. Really attractive young women don’t want anything to do with middle aged married men. They can find a hot, rich single man.

This.

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I know a mom who hooked up with the Au pair. She is hot, but the Au pair was butt.

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Anonymous wrote:No. Young attractive women mostly have no interest in middle aged men.

Tell yourself whatever you need to so you can sleep at night, but life is more nuanced than that. Young or old, most women are looking for a man who is stable and a good provider, especially in this economy with a recession looming. If the married dad still looks pretty good, is affable and wealthy, his age and marital status will be ignored.

Frankly, if you bring a young, gorgeous woman into your home and put her in front of your husband multiple days per week... you're playing with fire. Most husbands love their wives and aren't inclined to cheat, but human beings are flawed.

I agree.

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Anonymous wrote:Ethan Hawke married the nanny. The wife was Uma Thurman.

Robin Williams too and I think Jude Law had an affair with his. Not hard to believe that celebrities do this with hired help. Probably common. Arnold Schwarzenegger, et al.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would never have another attractive woman working on my house. Why even create a temptation?

I feel like the less attractive women are a bigger issue because they’re the ones willing to sleep with your DH. Really attractive young women don’t want anything to do with middle aged married men. They can find a hot, rich single man.

I don’t know any hot, rich guy in DC that would date an au pair.

I'm not that hot or rich but I am old, and after getting divorced I dated several au pairs in the DC area.

A friend's marriage was broken up by an au pair affair. My friend is hot, her husband was good looking but not rich, and he got together with their au pair who was even hotter than my friend. They eventually got married.

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Anonymous wrote:I would never have another attractive woman working on my house. Why even create a temptation?

I feel like the less attractive women are a bigger issue because they’re the ones willing to sleep with your DH. Really attractive young women don’t want anything to do with middle aged married men. They can find a hot, rich single man.

This! + Arnold and Maria Shriver

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Anonymous wrote:Well, I am an host dad in Scandinavia. Our family have hosted 5 American girls. I have had affairs with two of them. I guess American girls are more eager to have affairs with middle age europeen men. The girls have been in age 20-21 and for me my first affair was when I was 42. The last was when I had turn 50. Was it just one time? No, the affairs startet after a couple of months and keept going on during their whole stay (up till 1 year). One of the girl from Texas i have visited 3 times in US.... years after our first seduction...

EuroPEEN men huh? Nevermind

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Anonymous wrote:No. Young attractive women mostly have no interest in middle aged men.

Huh? Most men with very young children aren't middle aged.

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Anonymous wrote:Isn’t this situation basically how Wendi Deng got out of China? Then she dumped the oldie for someone else as soon as she got her green card.

She wasn’t an au pair. An American couple sponsored her to finish high school in the US and stay with them. She repaid the favor by banging the husband and dumping him for Rupert Murdoch.

I think there were a few men between the husband and Murdoch as she traded her way up tax brackets

And in China she is seen as a real success story to be admired.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Young attractive women mostly have no interest in middle aged men.

Huh? Most men with very young children aren't middle aged.

In the DC area they are. Assuming we are considering 40 as middle aged.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Young attractive women mostly have no interest in middle aged men.

Huh? Most men with very young children aren't middle aged.

In the DC area they are. Assuming we are considering 40 as middle aged.

Burst your bubble.

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Anonymous wrote:Ours is a stunner.

Throw in some liquor and proximity is likely leads to cheating or temptation.

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Anonymous wrote:We have had 5 AP’s and they were all 18-20 yr old Europeans who thought my husband was like a middle age dad joke kinda guy and honestly he’s a catch tall, dark and handsome. They all kinda think the dads are duds here in the US believe me — with the apps these days they get their action elsewhere

Yeah, no. Hot 40-something guys are still very attractive to young women (remember that crush you had on your college professor?). But if it makes you feel better to think that your “joke” of a husband is really a “catch,” by all means go for it.

I slept with (2) of my professors! They were indeed hot 40-somehtings (and married).

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Anonymous wrote:I know an au pair who married the husband. She continued to work cooperatively with both parents to take care of the kids, now as their stepmother.

Sounds like a Lifetime movie.

OP, you’re disgusting.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Young attractive women mostly have no interest in middle aged men.

Tell yourself whatever you need to so you can sleep at night, but life is more nuanced than that. Young or old, most women are looking for a man who is stable and a good provider, especially in this economy with a recession looming. If the married dad still looks pretty good, is affable and wealthy, his age and marital status will be ignored.


This has been a long loom.
Frankly, if you bring a young, gorgeous woman into your home and put her in front of your husband multiple days per week... you're playing with fire. Most husbands love their wives and aren't inclined to cheat, but human beings are flawed.