Are affairs with Au Pairs common?

[Anonymous]

Let her go out and have fun. She does not want your old man.

[Anonymous]

We hosted 5 females and 2 males au pairs.
No, while our girls all were attractive none were affair material. No interest by DH and while they got along with him it was more of a father role. They typically drove DH crazy.
One of the males we had was very attractive and slept with some of the kids teachers and maybe a neighborhood mom or two.
He was nice but living with these young adults makes them inherently unattractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We hosted 5 females and 2 males au pairs.
No, while our girls all were attractive none were affair material. No interest by DH and while they got along with him it was more of a father role. They typically drove DH crazy.
One of the males we had was very attractive and slept with some of the kids teachers and maybe a neighborhood mom or two.
He was nice but living with these young adults makes them inherently unattractive.

Sounds like we know at least one of the neighborhood moms he slept with ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ethan Hawke married the nanny. The wife was Uma Thurman.

They were divorced before he took up with the nanny. Robin Williams also married the nanny.

I don’t think that’s true that they were already divorced when it started.

I happen to know the nanny’s family personally.

Men are so lazy.

[Anonymous]

I know one marriage which broke because of the au pair. As an older man who dates 20s women, I have dated a few au pairs.

[Anonymous]

Not common

[Anonymous]

Didn't that wacko Orange County Housewife couple, Jim and Meaghan Edmonds, break up over the nanny?

[Anonymous]

I heard about this situation of someone in my neighborhood at the dog park. It got crazy. I think the agency got involved too.

[Anonymous]

Agency of 7 years here.

Never heard of an actual affair, but have had plenty of au pairs rematch for creepy dads....plenty.

[Anonymous]

Of course it’s common, especially if mom travels on business. DH thinks she’s having her own affairs. And AP simply wants to keep her job, so she submits to his pressure. Some of you are naive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Young attractive women mostly have no interest in middle aged men.

Tell yourself whatever you need to so you can sleep at night, but life is more nuanced than that. Young or old, most women are looking for a man who is stable and a good provider, especially in this economy with a recession looming. If the married dad still looks pretty good, is affable and wealthy, his age and marital status will be ignored.

Frankly, if you bring a young, gorgeous woman into your home and put her in front of your husband multiple days per week... you're playing with fire. Most husbands love their wives and aren't inclined to cheat, but human beings are flawed.

Most are smart enough to know that the married man provides for his family not them. Bang a well off guy just may mean a few nice dinners or a gift or two, but unless the au pair pulls the goalie, it doesn't mean financial security

“Pulling the goalie” doesn’t mean financial security when the dad can have her deported. Good luck proving paternity from home country, and good luck re-matching and staying in the U.S. if the dad says you’re unsafe with kids/on drugs. Dads in the au pair program are extremely creepy and the power dynamic is a catastrophe.

[Anonymous]

All depends on how hot the au pair is relative to the wife. if one is smoking and one a pig, what do you expect to happen? and if they are about the same, the "grass is greener" and forbidden fruit dynamics come into play.
This is not rocket science; do you really need to ask?

[Anonymous]

I’ve hosted au pairs over a decade and only one au pair, our most recent one, had obvious crush on DH and she seemed like mentally unstable. we rematched (for other stated reasons). I will prob not get another super hot one ……

I do have a friend whose au pair had a relationship with ex- husband which is also disturbing.

It does happen, but not majority of time. I bet there are way more creepy dads

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ethan Hawke married the nanny. The wife was Uma Thurman.

They were divorced before he took up with the nanny. Robin Williams also married the nanny.

Robin williams was the nanny!

You win the thread 😂

[Anonymous]

Don’t the wives end up sleeping with the Au Pairs? It seems many of the posts in the relationship forum are women crushing on another woman.