My son told me I’m not pretty

[Anonymous]

He was very matter-of-fact about it. He just said “you’re really not pretty mom” and then proceeded to tell me how pretty his friend’s mom is. It was a dagger to the heart. I didn’t react in the moment. Is it something I should bring up and tell him that it really hurt my feelings or leave it alone?

[Anonymous]

How old is your son?

[Anonymous]

How old?

[Anonymous]

I would punish him for the breathtaking rudeness and question my parenting for raising such a mean boy and try to turn it around. If he says that to his mother you can see how he's going to treat girls/women.

[Anonymous]

Tell him that’s a rude things to say. He’s entitled to his opinion but it’s rude and hurtful to share an opinion like that. His age?

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry OP.

And yes I would address this.

How does DH talk about women?

How do you?

DS has a warped view and it needs to be fixed like now.

[Anonymous]

Well, you're his mom. Just tell him it's not a nice thing to say and move on. Dagger to the heart? He's not your lover.

[Anonymous]

yeah need his age and whether he is on the spectrum?

[Anonymous]

Not everyone IS pretty. I'd tell him that and teach him the difference between being honest and kind and how to know when to share honesty.

[Anonymous]

He is 8
-OP

[Anonymous]

I mean… a lot of people aren’t pretty. And he’s seen you probably at your worst, whereas his friend’s mother will probably be put-together when she expects company over. I think you just need to explain that too him gently (along with the stuff about being kind too).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would punish him for the breathtaking rudeness and question my parenting for raising such a mean boy and try to turn it around. If he says that to his mother you can see how he's going to treat girls/women.

Wow. That makes me feel terrible.
- OP

[Anonymous]

Might be time for him to learn to ask himself these questions before speaking:

Is it true?
Is it kind?
Is it necessary?
Is it helpful?

[Anonymous]

Time for the mommy makeover

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would punish him for the breathtaking rudeness and question my parenting for raising such a mean boy and try to turn it around. If he says that to his mother you can see how he's going to treat girls/women.

Wow. That makes me feel terrible.
- OP

That post is nonsense.
Your kid has eyes, doesn't he?

He probably loves you as you are, just that you don't look like what he thinks looks pretty. In my son's younger years, that was the Frozen sisters.