Is this too awkward — vacationing with my BIL
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Anonymous
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I am a separated, but not yet divorced, mother of teens. My husband has pretty significant mental illness and his contact with the kids is limited due to it.
Over the years, I’ve become close to DH’s family. His sister and her husband have been very generous with their time and resources during a very challenging time and my BIL in particular has spent a lot of time with my boys. BIL is planning a vacation with his college aged kids. SIL has a demanding career and isn’t going. BIL has suggested that since there is room in his SUV and the house he rented we should just come along for an almost free vacation. The trip is to a place my kids would love, and they would love being with their cousins. I could not afford to them them alone. I would love to go, and my kids would love it but it feels awkward. DH can be very jealous about me spending time with any adult males, and DH has other siblings who wouldn’t be invited either. There is absolutely nothing romantic. It would be like traveling with a brother. |
Anonymous
| This sounds way to likely to cause drama. |
Anonymous
| This man is not his brother, it’s a the guy who sleeps with his sister, and now he’s on vacation with his wife. Don’t do this. |
Anonymous
| Send the kids and you stay home. There may be nothing between you and BIL but avoid creating a hint of impropriety. |
Anonymous
| I would not do this. |
Anonymous
| Why can’t your kids go with BIL and their cousins? You’d end up spending a lot of one on one time with BIL. Just no. |
Anonymous
| Can you rent your own space nearby ? |
Anonymous
| All of your posts sound very fake. Can't you create a new story line now. |
Anonymous
Probably because BIL does not want to be responsible is one for all the kids. So he doesn’t want his own brother to go with him? That would make a lot more sense |
Anonymous
Yeah, not really appropriate for OP to suggest her BIL take responsibility for a couple of extra kids. |
Anonymous
| Sure , why not? |
Anonymous
Because OP cannot afford it? How does a last minute rental translate into almost free vacation? |
Anonymous
| Bad idea unless you like drama. |
Anonymous
They’re teenagers. It’s not like they’re infants or toddlers. The host (BIL) has kids who are in college. Is it really so much extra effort for him? Maybe it’s just me, but I’d want to avoid any kind of situation that the STBX husband could misconstrue, especially if this is not a mutual and amicable divorce. |
Anonymous
| I would do it if you don’t think it would be awkward. Screw your H, you’re about to be divorced anyway. Why would he need to know? |