The looks differential in a marriage

[Anonymous]

How is it that sometimes incredibly attractive people end up with a partner that’s really unattractive? I recently met a couple where the husband is drop dead GQ gorgeous and his wife is just really homely. And she’s actually quite rude and cold to everyone as well, so how on earth does this happen for a man who looks like such a great catch?

[Anonymous]

It's about maintenance. Since we got married DH has gained 50 pounds but hasn't updated his clothes. Very stuffed sausage looking. Lost hair too except the long, sad fringe all the way around. I was always better looking but he's really let himself go

[Anonymous]

A lot of men want to security of knowing their wife won't cheat on them from what I have seen in my friend group. These men dated a lot of women before marriage and were good looking but insecure.

[Anonymous]

My wife and I were both a solid 5/10. She’s had a lot of work work done and is now an 8. She’s helped me dress better and updated my hairstyle but that makes me a 6 at best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of men want to security of knowing their wife won't cheat on them from what I have seen in my friend group. These men dated a lot of women before marriage and were good looking but insecure.

Ok, maybe, but how do they stomach being intimate with someone so unattractive? There’s a ton of beautiful women around; do they not see them and wish they’d done better?

- A man

[Anonymous]

If it’s a handsome man and an unattractive woman I automatically think beard, if it’s a beautiful woman and unattractive man I automatically think Rich.

[Anonymous]

For every hot man/frump woman couple I see there are 10 gorgeous woman/fat, bald man couples.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who has the best personality ever- so funny and fun and warm, people just gravitate to her and want to be around her. She is honestly pretty plain looking though, while her husband is just delicious looking, but quiet and reserved. Opposites attract!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it’s a handsome man and an unattractive woman I automatically think beard, if it’s a beautiful woman and unattractive man I automatically think Rich.

Beard??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who has the best personality ever- so funny and fun and warm, people just gravitate to her and want to be around her. She is honestly pretty plain looking though, while her husband is just delicious looking, but quiet and reserved. Opposites attract!

You missed the part where the wife is rude and cold.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of men want to security of knowing their wife won't cheat on them from what I have seen in my friend group. These men dated a lot of women before marriage and were good looking but insecure.

Ok, maybe, but how do they stomach being intimate with someone so unattractive? There’s a ton of beautiful women around; do they not see them and wish they’d done better?

- A man

Maybe they’re happy to be with someone who doesn’t value appearance as the whole of a person instead of a plastic, soulless figurinewho think sh they’re better than everyone just because they’re pretty.

Or, Maybe the homely one is a satisfying freak in the sheets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who has the best personality ever- so funny and fun and warm, people just gravitate to her and want to be around her. She is honestly pretty plain looking though, while her husband is just delicious looking, but quiet and reserved. Opposites attract!

You missed the part where the wife is rude and cold.

Reread the OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of men want to security of knowing their wife won't cheat on them from what I have seen in my friend group. These men dated a lot of women before marriage and were good looking but insecure.

Ok, maybe, but how do they stomach being intimate with someone so unattractive? There’s a ton of beautiful women around; do they not see them and wish they’d done better?

- A man

OK, if we're going to be THIS freaking shallow about how sex is solely about looks and not about love, I'll play that game with you, "A Man" PP.

You do know that the face doesn't have to matter when you're having sex--right? You've never heard the expression "You're not looking at the mantelpiece when you're poking the fire in the fireplace"?

Before you come back to complain "But but but..what if she's not a stick figure/her breasts are not perfectly taut/she has a stray hair under her arm?" etc. ad nauseam: Again, do you really not get how one can have sex, yes, even great sex, with someone who is not model-perfect over every inch of their bodies? Maybe you like the feeling of those skinny bones sticking into you during sex, I guess.

Eh, people here are not just shallow, they're incredibly dim and unimaginative too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it’s a handsome man and an unattractive woman I automatically think beard, if it’s a beautiful woman and unattractive man I automatically think Rich.

Beard??

somebody you marry to hide the fact that you’re gay, I think.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she was having a bad day.

Maybe he is just committed to commitment.

Maybe he is not the catch you think he is.